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Dammit...I grew up with this accent (thanks to British education). Now have a generic Toronto, slightly British-Indian (Thanks mom and dad) :( Must go back to England

Even if there is a very little bit of pee left from someone who forgot to flush the toilet before me, I have to flush. I cannot do my business until then. I always check behind the shower curtain if it's closed when I walk in the bathroom. Have this nagging fear that someone might have hid there at a very awkward time and spring out at the most inopportune moment. I check the back seat of my car before heading of. I am happy to see I'm not the only one.

I don't know if I've ever been ashamed of doing this. I did have a lot of reservations, and I was much more guarded in the beginning. I still am to an extent, but I don't, nor have I ever felt a pang of shame due to visiting and SP or MA. Just because the topic popped up about imagining a female family member doing this, I thought I'd add my thoughts. My cousin is a remarkable girl, and we're quite close because of our age. She's is as good as a sister. And I don't know if this would be an odd thing to say, but if she ever told me she was an SP, or MA, I think I'd be happy for her. The thing is, and this is an assumption that I've made so forgive me for being so bold - SPs and MAs here know that they are desired. It is a contributing factor for you ladies to be in this business (Again, complete speculation, just reasoned logic). It is that sort of confidence in oneself that I wish she had emotionally. I mean she is just a fantastic person, intelligent beyond anyone I know, and a career on steroids. But after a couple of bad relationships, her self worth and outlook has been shot. I always get the sense that the ladies here are quite sure of themselves. Everyone has doubts and those bad moments with everyone, but for the most part, I'm always in awe for how women her have taken the leap to get into this business, and thrive. Sex between consenting adults isn't bad. And money passing hands doesn't cheapen it (in my humble opinion). I'm not ashamed, and should I find out that my cousin somehow decides that the industry was for her, even part time, I'd cheer her, and never check out this website again (Do NOT want to run into her pictures). The only thing I was ashamed about was certain fantasies I've had. I've kept them to myself, and finally started to get the idea...wait a moment, I have carte blanche access to live all those fantasies out, wtf are you waiting for?!?

This is why I like Cerb. Valuable information like this. :D I am completely lost when it comes to roleplaying, but it's something that I've wanted to learn more about. My biggest problem is that I'm always in my head, so I'm afraid the entire time, I'll be just thinking about the how to act the role instead of living/being it. Does anyone have this problem? Another issue I have, is that whenever I think of role playing, I think about the times when I was much younger, pretending to be police officers, or some sort of hero saving the world. I just can't get that imagery of my head now, and I can easily imagine myself just laughing hysterically. I kinda feel envious of those who don't have my hang ups and reservations.

The only times I notice anything is when something is really off, either in a good or bad way. First the bad - I don't care about a bad hair day, (and this goes for both males and females) if someone is just ignoring something about themselves, like nail care, it bothers me to no end. I know I should judge a book by it's cover, but I do care that people dress up normally, and have some basic standards of hygiene. There are places where I don't bother with this rule, and since Spring has come, I'm used to seeing disheveled, muddy people in garden centers, just picking up some supplies. In the context, that doesn't matter to me. It's seeing someone at a gathering who has clearly not taken the effort to shower in the last day, quickly comb their hair, etc. Normal looking people, in simple jeans and a shirt that isn't overly wrinkled doesn't count in the "bad" section. For the most part, I'm oblivious to these sort of things. But on some rare occasions, when someone, like Barney says "Suit up!", I do appreciate it. I know it's a rare instance, but sometimes I think it's important to just wear whatever makes them look awesome. So short answer, as a guy, I notice sometimes.

Basically, the more I see her, the more I'd be comfortable taking control. I'm completely fine with her leading the way in the beginning.

Pull my finger

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I've thought about attending a social event of this nature before, but decided not to. Truth be told, I would have no idea what I'd be doing over there. I've gone to meet and greets before, but this one is much different in nature. I think it would be great, a chance to meet a few ladies at once, see which ones I have more of a personality connection with, meet a few clients and get their perspective on all of this (obviously from a client side of things). But there are a few things that nag me. Privacy - I keep getting a bit nervous about perhaps running into someone I know, either a client, or an SP/MA. Especially if they are friends, it would add a completely new dynamic to our relationship, whatever that may be. Also, I'm fine with the fact that the only people who can attach a face to my cerb handle are the women I've met through here. I just don't feel comfortable yet going beyond that. For all the advantages that a meet and greet has, remaining online, and having cerb greatly eliminates the need for me to attend one of these events.

I think this thread has been derailed a bit so getting back to point I'd imagine things would be different in 30 minutes as opposed to an hour. I've never gone for an appointment shorter then an hour and a half (I like things slow). But regarding your last question, check the reviews of the SP you want to see. As far as I've seen, very few SPs offer the 30 minute option, and they are probably more experienced to handle what happens in that half hour period. It's not for me, but try it out, it might work perfectly for you!

I just want to say to all those write in their blogs, I really appreciate it. I'm not sure what it really does for anyone else, but for me it adds another layer of comfort with this industry. I think it's also really professional, a great method of marketing, and has time and again surprised (in a nice way) about the topics I've read. So thank you to all you fabulous ladies.

I know I'm far from perfect. With a pillsbury-ish boy like exterior, a face that could turn heads (mainly when I wore a doctor who halloween costume dressed as an Indian 10, whovians will understand this), I've slowly come to appreciate my very flawed body, and working on making it healthier. So if I get a compliment, I don't want it to be one that she would have to feel compelled to make, but a genuine one brought up just because.

I just want to address this part since it was brought up a few times in this thread. I've had one or two sessions where it's gone over by 5 or 10 minutes. The last one, we kept on talking till I realized 30 minutes had passed by, and I did not even notice the time. As I was leaving, I felt a bit guilty that I didn't check the time, but I was just wrapped up in the conversation (I'm assuming she was too). Anyway, personally, I don't have that expectation for the next time or any other time after that. What I happened was not planned, and I think most of not all the ladies here have a good judge of a person when they meet them. I don't want to knock any bad experiences because of a bit of an allowance, I just wanted to put a client's perspective on this if it helps any.

Heaven? 890

Cancelled once, postponed once. Cancelled - Woke up to a massive headache, cough and cold. Thought my germs should stay with me instead of being passed along. Postponed - Did so a day prior to the appointment. Bank noticed suspicious activity on my account. Locked everything. Turns out someone was running some sort of scam with the debit cards including my own. Couldn't withdraw cash that day, so postponed as soon as I heard about it. In the end, bank fixed it rather quickly, but I didn't want to postpone in the last minute if things took longer than normal. So one sick reason, and one bank scam related reason.

It's been just over a year since I stumbled across this board and the awesome experiences that resulted. Feeling a bit nostalgic, I realized one thing made it just that much easier to get in. It's that first introduction. I found 2 or 3 MA's that I was thinking about seeing, but had absolutely no idea on what to say in the beginning. Keep in mind, I was completely fresh, and still oh so very innocent :p I had absolutely no idea what the etiquette was, should I be direct in what I was looking for? Talk about the weather like a good Canadian? Say my name and state what time I wanted to see her? I must have thought about that first email for over an hour. And when I sent it off, I was regretting every letter in it. Anyway, one MA gave a few suggestions on what specifically she was looking for, and it helped so much. It kinda normalized things for me, taking this horribly nervous guy to the next step. I appreciated that so much. Anyway, I just want to thank those who have that little bit of a guideline on what you're looking for, it's helped so much.

When I was searching the first time, after reviews and recommendations, the fee was my next deciding factor. I had a number in mind, and anything below or equal to it was a go, anything above was an absolute no. From repeated threads and posts here, one thing that was very clear was that negotiating is just not done. I wanted a great experience, not to sour the SP if I were to meet her, and starting of with "Hey! Discount?!" But those who aren't too particular may not see the harm in asking. You say no, they move on, so it's not a big deal for them. The worst that could happen is that someone they couldn't afford to see has confirmed it. But I'm kinda curious now, if people do ask, is it because sometimes it's worked?

When I read the thread title yesterday, I thought to myself....well very important. I gave myself a day to think about it though and realized a few things. Looks are very important to me, but I've noticed that on occasion, someone's personality has just made every single imperfection they have look perfect. A girl I dated a few years back was pretty by any standard, but wasn't "model" pretty. But at the time, I loved her, and she was the most beautiful creature on the planet to me. On occasion, I find myself physically attracted to someone who doesn't follow the typical definition of "good looks". Two women I knew were fairly plus sized. But they were so amazing, and had the prettiest smiles, I thought they were gorgeous. They could walk into a room full of models, and after 5 minutes, I'm sure all eyes would be on them. On the flip side, there was a model I photographed a few times. Physically, I think she was the most perfect girl I've ever laid eyes on. She was nice, fun, and sweet, but we didn't click. We'd be able to work great together, but I couldn't ever imagine dating her because we were so different.

Ideally, I'd like not to have to say anything. But practically I doubt that would be possible for me. I'm quiet. I hated it when guys would make a sound in pornos, so I kinda trained myself to be quiet. So unless a woman really knew me, it would be me informing her about getting close. I think the 9 idea is great. Removes the need for structured sentences which I'm terrible with during the moment. All that usually comes out is fragmented bits. (Hmm Good...yeah me happy)

It's weird, I love looking straight at a woman's face during the O. A very small number of things are hotter than that moment. But tables turned, it is a remarkably vulnerable feeling. It's the one moment where any sort of facade disappears, and everything is laid bare. For me, it's probably the only time where my brain completely shuts off, even for just a few seconds; for a brief moment, I'm unable to hide. Even completely naked, I don't feel exposed, but someone looking into my eyes while I'm about to have an orgasm...damn, that's just another level of intensity. So the short answer, yes, eye contact good.

Multiple builds...always As for something I enjoy, I didn't know this before, and I can't do it to myself for angular reasons, but twisting while stroking feels fantastic.

I would call it a reasoned assumption. The SP I've seen a few times either is a very good actor at smiling and acting cheerful, I'm very bad at empathy or she really is at least content with what she's doing. Judging from her posts here, the time shared talking to her in person, I'd hope would be good enough to rule out the first two scenarios. Many, if not all the SPs here seem to be in this industry in their free will. Although I should put this as a disclaimer, in my definition, that includes doing this to pay the bills as any other person would take up a job to do the same. But even if I had that 100% certainty, it wouldn't be enough for me to do this long term. I'd like to find someone, settle down, and be a one woman man. (People please don't read into this as any sort of criticism or anything remotely like that). But getting back to the point of the thread (I just wanted to answer your question, not derail this thread), my religion definitely does have rules from what I understand against all of this. But if their is a God, and if I ever see him by the pearly white gates, and he asks me why I did it...I think I'd respond by saying is was a design flaw, talk to the creator.

I pray to God because I believe in a higher power. I follow a religion (a bit loosely) because I was born into it. I try to live like a good human being because it feels wrong not to. For some reason, I've been able to separate parts of my life with little to no effort. So as long as the person I'm seeing is doing it happily and in their own free will, I'm fine with seeing them.

It's fun. And I clearly remember after the first time I saw an MA, I felt my feet were bouncing of the pavement. I finally understood the term "Spring to my step". Basically, it's like exercise for my mind. It leaves me feeling refreshed, energized, and a little bit happier. So I guess I could say, it's like an interactive spa session. With less clothes, more kissing, and some other stuff.

It could be that he's willing to pay for your time to perhaps generate that mutual attraction. Might be a last ditch effort. He may be a wonderful guy that you just have no feelings for, and that being the case, I'd highly recommend saying no for his case. Let him down gently, and in my opinion to avoid a potential rollar coaster of confusions and emotions, let him know that you'd like to stop seeing him personally even as friends. I can imagine it being tough for him to hear, but closing the door on any possibility of you and him will allow him to move on. Your profession right now is unique in that should you allow him to be your client, you'd be giving him a whiff of what a real relationship would be like, and that might not be a good thing.