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Here is the full working research paper: http://www.understandingsexwork.com/sites/default/files/uploads/Team%20Grant%20Working%20Paper%201%20CBenoit%20et%20al%20%20September%2018%202014.pdf It's a very interesting read, and much more detailed than the short news article above. Also, here is the full project website: http://www.understandingsexwork.com Chris Atchison, who appeared as a witness speaking out against bill C-36 at both the House and Senate Committees is one of the several awesome researchers working on this study. He also did the JohnsVoice & SexSafetySecurity studies. He's been researching the sex industry in Canada for 20+ years. I <3 him. There is also several other amazing researchers working on this including Frances Shaver, who was also just at the Senate hearings speaking against C-36. Yes, the study includes all types of workers, not just FS. Here is a bit more about this from the working paper: Like many Canadians who have sex with several partners, most sex workers use condoms to reduce sex-related risks and harms. Sixty-nine percent of sex workers said they used a condom every time they had sex with a client in the last month, while 16% used a condom a lot of the time. Only 6% reported they used a condom rarely or some of the time and 8% say they never used a condom when with a client. Most of the times condoms were not used was during non-vaginal sex.

Yes, exactly. It comes from whatever name and e-mail address you set up. When I send e-Transfer payments to Escorts-Canada, CERB and other advertising sites, the money is sent from my personal banking checking account, but recipients only see it coming from "Emily J" and my professional e-mail address. It is sent from whatever name & e-mail address you input in the e-Transfer settings in your online banking account, and you can change it at any time. Recipients never receive any personal info about your accounts, address, etc. The privacy factor is specifically marketed as one of the major advantages of e-Transfers. More: http://www.interac.ca/en/interac-etransfer/etransfer-detail

Here is a funny, yet informative comic I came across a while back which explains female condoms very well for those who do not have experience with them. It also explains some of the pros and cons to consider. Providers aren't going to just automatically use them as the go-to safer sex method, but many will use them if specially requested. View the original here.

Yeah it's a news parody site. :) Not real. Some clever & funny stuff. :)

Hey Amber! :) Congrats on going indie, and welcome! Here are the CERB classifieds: http://www.cerb.ca/classifieds/. Just click "Place An Ad" at the top right, choose your location, and the rest should be self explanatory. It's all free and you can "Bump" your ad every 12 hours. Best of luck! :)

A few new posts in August at Blogasms! Cunnilingus, Ice Cream, and Poetry! :cooter: www.sweetemilyj.com/blogasms

Venus Envy is awesome! :) They are super sex worker positive too! Very supportive of sex worker rights and the sex industry in general. I think we should support them back. Also, another one I really like is Aren't We Naughty on Merivale road. Very modern store, with a huge selection and wide variety of amazing goodies! :)

Nathalie, thank you so much for all your amazing contributions to CERB over the past few years. :) You have started many wonderful thought-provoking conversations. Many of my favourite threads came from you. CERB is a better place because of your footprint. Taking a look back, here is an impressive collection of just some of your best: -Destigmatizing Clients - Any Suggestions? -On The Topic Of Recommendations -On The Topic of Higher/Lower Volume Providers -(Mis)understanding Introverts -The Importance of "Loving" As A Verb -The Perfect Kiss -How Do You Feel About Being Alone? -Support Me While I Orgasm You've also added some fun and lightheartedness with threads like Pick A Funny Someecard. And of course, our awesome blog update thread! Not to mention, all of your helpful and supportive posts and threads in the SP ONLY section. And of course, your beautiful and inspiring advertisements. :) Seriously, you rock. Thanks for spending this special part of your journey with us. Now go kick some vanilla world ass! :) xoxo

You should definitely try Malika Fantasy! I believe she will be in Ottawa in a few weeks and the word is she has no gag reflex. A true pro. Meow. ;) malika-fantasy.com :bjs:

I agree that self-exploration is the way to go! :) Here is my favourite sex-positive website, which has lots of great reading material about this exact issue, (and every other sexual topic under the sun): http://dodsonandross.com/topic/how-orgasm. I've linked you to a specific section called "How to Orgasm" filled with tonnes of info for people just like you who are in search of the ever-elusive orgasm. This is definitely an obstacle that you can overcome! Have fun! ;) :aol_diddle:

Today: http://www.mtlblog.com/2014/06/horribly-misspelled-sign-appears-on-montreals-jacques-cartier-bridge/# I am originally from La Belle Province as well - It'll always have a soft spot in my heart. <3 Bonne Fête! :)

[B][U]Terri-Jean Bedford on the proposed new sex work law Bill C-36[/U][/B] Terri-Jean Bedford | June 20, 2014 [URL="http://rabble.ca/news/2014/06/terri-jean-bedford-on-proposed-new-sex-work-law-bill-c-36?utm_content=buffer8a63a&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer"]http://rabble.ca/news/2014/06/terri-jean-bedford-on-proposed-new-sex-work-law-bill-c-36?utm_content=buffer8a63a&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer[/URL] [QUOTE] In 2007 I was one of three women who began a constitutional challenge of Canada's prostitution laws. I am the Bedford in Bedford Versus Canada. Before that I was wrongly convicted under these laws, which were struck down in 2010 by Justice Himel. In 2012 the Ontario Court of Appeal basically supported her decision and in 2013 the Supreme Court, Chief Justice McLachlin writing, voted unanimously to support it as well. They said the laws were arbitrary, too vague, worked against stated objectives, endangered specific groups and put unfair restrictions on a legal activity, the sex trade. Unfair because no similar restrictions exist on other legal activities. All through this Mr. Nicholson, the Justice Minister, insisted the laws were constitutional, while Mr. Harper hid from the media and said he didn't know who I was. Who were they kidding? Perhaps the legal advisors they had then were the ones who are advising them now. Finally Mr. Harper dumped Mr. Nicholson and replaced him with Mr. MacKay, possibly to reward Mr. MacKay for making the RCMP a hotbed of sexual harassment and coverups. Mr. MacKay, with Mr. Harper out of the country of course, tabled new laws to replace the ones struck down and made other amendments to the Criminal Code. That was over a week ago. I have been reading and hearing a lot of reaction since that time. In fact, so much has been written and said about the proposed new law in recent days that I don't need to tell you about it here, except to say again that it will not survive the courts, is not enforceable on any significant scale and is a gift to organized crime if it does stand up. [URL="http://rabble.ca/news/2014/06/terri-jean-bedford-on-proposed-new-sex-work-law-bill-c-36?utm_content=buffer8a63a&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

[B][U]The Prostitution Bill is a Bizarre Work of Moral Panic[/U][/B] Tom Flanagan | June 20, 2014 [I]Tom Flanagan is a distinguished fellow in the School of Public Policy, University of Calgary.[/I] [URL="http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/prostitution-bill-has-the-makings-of-another-moral-panic/article19256534/"]http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/prostitution-bill-has-the-makings-of-another-moral-panic/article19256534/[/URL] [QUOTE] Bill C-36, the federal governmentâ??s legislative draft on prostitution, is a strange piece of work for a conservative party to put forward. Its proposal to criminalize the purchase, but not the sale, of sex â?? the so-called Nordic model â?? is drawn from the lore of radical feminism, which identifies heterosexual relations with patriarchal domination. The bill is an unfortunate departure from the British legal tradition. Neither the sale nor the purchase of sex has been illegal in Britain, Canada, Australia, and New Zealand. Rather, parliaments in the British tradition have legislated to contain the evils associated with prostitution: to combat the spread of venereal disease, to reduce disorder on the streets, and to prevent young girls (and boys) from being forced into a life of prostitution. Legislation has created criminal offences surrounding prostitution, but has not criminalized the central economic transaction. [URL="http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/prostitution-bill-has-the-makings-of-another-moral-panic/article19256534/"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

[B][U]Listen to Sex Workers: Kill Bill C-36[/U][/B] By Clay Nikiforuk | June 17, 2014 [URL="http://ricochetmedia.ca/preview/listen-to-sex-workers-kill-bill-c-36"]http://ricochetmedia.ca/preview/listen-to-sex-workers-kill-bill-c-36[/URL] [QUOTE] Itâ??s a sunny Saturday, and in a park in the heart of downtown Montreal, music blares, punctuated by the occasional peal of laughter. Children play, and as camera crews look on, a colourful crowd dances. Carefree as they might appear, the message they are sending is dead serious. Their subversive celebration is meant to decry a dangerous, even deadly, new bill infringing on the human and labour rights of sex workers. The second National Day of Action in Solidarity With Sex Workers, held across Canada on June 14, brought sex workers and their allies together to protest the Conservative governmentâ??s Bill C-36. In Montreal, it took the form of a dance-a-thon. To the despair, but not surprise, of many academics, activists, allies and sex workers, Bill C-36 proposes a criminalization of sex work that is as wide-ranging as it is vaguely worded. It seeks to criminalize sex workersâ?? clients at the expense of sex worker safety, to criminalize communication in public (where a minor could reasonably be expected to be present) rather than institute reasonable reforms and to criminalize online advertisements instead of creating a safe workplace for sex workers. [URL="http://ricochetmedia.ca/preview/listen-to-sex-workers-kill-bill-c-36"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

[B][U]Canada's Anti-Prostitution Bill a Step in the Wrong Direction[/U][/B] By Joeseph Amon - Direction of The Health and Human Rights Division at Human Rights Watch [URL="http://ottawacitizen.com/news/politics/joseph-amon-canadas-prostitution-bill-a-step-in-the-wrong-direction"]http://ottawacitizen.com/news/politics/joseph-amon-canadas-prostitution-bill-a-step-in-the-wrong-direction[/URL] [QUOTE] On June 4, Justice Minister Peter MacKay tabled an anti-prostitution bill that he claimed was not anti-prostitute. According to the minister, the target of the Protection of Communities and Exploited Person Act, Bill C-36, was â??the perpetrators, the perverts, [and] the pimps.â? But donâ??t be fooled, if this bill becomes law, sex workers will face arrest, violence and violations of their human rights. The law would criminalize communicating for the purposes of selling sexual services in public, or buying, advertising or benefitting from the sale of sexual services. These provisions wonâ??t protect sex workers; they will do the opposite, and they violate their right to security of person and freedom of expression. Criminalizing communication will disproportionately target Aboriginal, poor, and transgender women working on the streets for arrest. It will also severely limit sex workersâ?? abilities to take life-saving measures such as screening clients. Last year in a landmark ruling, the Supreme Court recognized this concern, saying that â??communication is an essential tool that can decrease risk.â? Criminalizing clients will also harm sex workers, forcing them to work in more dangerous and isolated locations. In 2012, the Missing Women Commission of Inquiry, which Human Rights Watch has criticized for procedural shortcomings, rightly said that fear of police harassment or arrest â??denies the sex worker the time to innately sense whether a client is a â??bad trickâ??,â? and that moving to a darker, isolated area â??puts her in a more dangerous environment.â? Criminalizing clients will also make it impossible to open safe refuges for sex workers to take clients to, such as Grandmaâ??s House, opened in Vancouver by the Aboriginal sex worker Jamie-Lee Hamilton. Again the Supreme Court was clear: â??For some prostitutes, particularly those who are destitute, safe houses such as Grandmaâ??s House may be critical.â? The Conservative government purports to draw inspiration from the â??Nordic modelâ? which seeks to criminalize clients but not sex workers. Yet the model is not as successful as the government contends. International health and human rights agencies and experts have all concluded that criminalizing sex work and related activities threaten sex workersâ?? health and rights. In December 2012, UNAIDS, WHO and the UN Population Fund called for governments to work toward decriminalizing sex work and removing unjust laws and regulations against sex workers. Last year Human Rights Watch adopted a similar policy for adult, consensual sex, favouring decriminalizing sex work. We came to this decision after decades of research on abuses against sex workers in more than a dozen countries, and working closely with sex worker organizations and their representatives. We found that where sex work was criminalized, sex workers are reluctant to report violence and abuse. After looking at evidence from around the world, we concluded that criminalizing other aspects of sex work can also lead to harm. To be sure, decriminalizing sex work would not eliminate all of the risks of violence and exploitation for sex workers. However, decriminalization allows sex workers to organize to prevent and address human rights abuses, including trafficking, and to obtain justice. In New Zealand, where sex work was decriminalized in 2003, authorities have not detected a single case of trafficking in the sex trade despite multiple investigations. Research has found that sex workersâ?? ability to refuse clients and to report abuse to police had greatly increased under decriminalization. Far from assisting â??exploited personsâ? or â??protecting communities,â? this bill is a step backward for human rights, and especially womenâ??s rights, in Canada. [B][I]Joe Amon is the director of the health and human rights division at Human Rights Watch.[/I][/B] [/QUOTE]

[B]C:36 - Conflating Sex Work with Human Trafficking[/B] By Mercedes Allen [URL="http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/mercedes-allen/2014/06/c-36-conflating-sex-work-human-trafficking"]http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/mercedes-allen/2014/06/c-36-conflating-sex-work-human-trafficking[/URL] [QUOTE] [I]I recently asked whether the vague definition of "sexual services" and definition of the Internet as a public space could be used to make the anti-prostitution Bill C-36 [URL="http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/mercedes-allen/2014/06/could-anti-prostitution-bill-c-36-also-ban-porn"]ban pornography[/URL]. Regardless of how one feels about porn, such a thing would certainly require a debate, and it's a question worth asking. I also looked at the obvious [URL="http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/mercedes-allen/2014/06/bill-c-36-protection-communities-and-exploited-persons-act-ove"]aspects of C-36[/URL] that have sparked outrage from sex workers, and occasionally even from abolitionists. There are further discussions as well -- more concrete than speculation, but still under the surface of the legislation itself. [B]Conflating sex work with human trafficking[/B] Anti-prostitution Bill C-36 explicitly puts sex work on the same footing as human trafficking and conflates the two in law. Indeed, they have been consciously equated by Peter MacKay and by the bill's proponents. The rhetoric used when introducing the bill also does this, through employing a language that claims that people (particularly women) sell themselves or are sold as commodities, rather than simply selling a service. Under this line of thinking, it is considered impossible that sex workers might retain any personal autonomy. Human trafficking certainly exists, although not as frequently as it is often claimed (studies that claim high numbers of trafficking incidents often similarly conflate it with sex work). The fact that it happens less often does not mean that we should care less or believe that the occurrences of it are somehow less horrible -- but it does justify recognizing when the scope of it has been unjustly stretched beyond what human trafficking actually is.[/I] [URL="http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/mercedes-allen/2014/06/c-36-conflating-sex-work-human-trafficking"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

Sex Work 101: Making Sense Out of Canada's Nonsensical Anti-Sex Work Legislation By Julia Smith | June 17, 2014 http://rabble.ca/news/2014/06/sex-work-101-making-sense-out-canadas-nonsensical-sex-work-legislation?utm_content=bufferec6cd&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

Here is the accompanying "Legal Analysis Brief" from Pivot & Power, which complements the above practical/social aspects: http://www.powerottawa.ca/Briefing_Note_Legal_Analysis_C-36.pdf

The author of this great article is also the author of an amazing sex work blog: The Honest Courtesan - http://maggiemcneill.wordpress.com Tonnes of great stuff on her blog, similar to her fantastic piece in The Washington Post. I use it as a reference point time and time again when I am discussing sex work issues with people.

[B][U]In their own words: sex workers on Canadaâ??s new prostitution bill[/U][/B] Justin Ling | June 6, 2014 [URL="http://dailyxtra.com/canada/news/in-words-sex-workers-canadaâ??s-new-prostitution-bill"]http://dailyxtra.com/canada/news/in-words-sex-workers-canadaâ??s-new-prostitution-bill[/URL] [QUOTE] [I]â??Iâ??m tired of my government thinking Iâ??m some degenerate who needs to be policed.â??[/I] Reaction from sex workers to the Conservativesâ?? new prostitution bill has been fierce and pretty well unanimous: it sucks. Justice Minister Peter MacKay introduced Bill C-36, the Protection of Communities and Exploited Persons Act, on June 4. Sex work groups have blasted the bill. The usual suspects of abolitionism have come out to endorse it. Xtra reached out to the sex-work community to get their take on the bill. Hereâ??s what they had to say: [URL="http://dailyxtra.com/canada/news/in-words-sex-workers-canadaâ??s-new-prostitution-bill"]Read Moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

[B][U]Escort: MacKayâ??s Anti-Postitution Bill â??will kill peopleâ??[/U][/B] By Olesia Plokhii | Jun 6, 2014 [URL="http://www.ipolitics.ca/2014/06/06/escort-mackays-prostitution-bill-will-kill-people/"]http://www.ipolitics.ca/2014/06/06/escort-mackays-prostitution-bill-will-kill-people/[/URL] [QUOTE] When Caroline Newcastle first posted a photo of herself on an escort website four years ago, she wore a green dress. Then 23 years old and studying for an undergraduate degree in Quebec City, she was nervous. She had never traded sex for money, and the encounter wasnâ??t exactly what she was hoping for. Caroline, who uses a pseudonym, was half naked within five minutes. The sex lasted the full hour she had negotiated. She felt it was too formal, too black and white. But it was work, she figured, and once she counted her money, she decided it wasnâ??t so bad. Carolineâ??s second experience, a two-hour visit with a client, was better. â??We talked for an hour, had a glass of wine, he was really nice and well educated and we really got along well â?? and the sexual experience was much better,â? she said. Now 27, the well-spoken, educated girl-next-door-looking Caroline is pursuing a PhD at an Ottawa university â?? and earning a living in the sex industry. But she worries about her safety and the safety of her friends if Canadaâ??s new prostitution law passes. â??Itâ??s devastating,â? she says. [URL="http://www.ipolitics.ca/2014/06/06/escort-mackays-prostitution-bill-will-kill-people/"]Read moreâ?¦[/URL] [/QUOTE]

[B][U]A Shameful Anti-Prostitution Law[/U][/B] Ottawa Citizen Editorial Board | June 6, 2014 [URL="http://ottawacitizen.com/news/politics/editorial-a-shameful-prostitution-law"]http://ottawacitizen.com/news/politics/editorial-a-shameful-prostitution-law[/URL] [QUOTE] The most shameful thing about the Conservative governmentâ??s prostitution bill is its political cynicism and callous indifference. The Supreme Court ruling in December, and the evidence that informed it, showed plainly that sex trade workers are at risk because of laws that make it difficult for them to vet clients and work in safe places. The governmentâ??s new law does not even bother to try to address those harms. It doubles down on them, making it more dangerous for prostitutes to communicate with clients in advance. There are two possible interpretations of the governmentâ??s motives. The most disturbing possibility: it believes the Court will strike down the new law, but in the meantime, the government can gain political points for a few years by picking a fight with the courts and the opposition parties. Such a strategy is an insult to the very notion of the rule of law â?? not to mention a waste of public money. To draft a law in the belief it likely runs counter to the Constitution would be arbitrary and despotic. The second possibility is better, but not by much. The government might believe that the new law will pass a Supreme Court challenge â?? not because it reduces or eliminates any of the harms, but only because it provides new justifications for those harms. In other words, it is arguing that itâ??s acceptable to put prostitutes at risk because the law is now motivated by what the government sees as the prostitutesâ?? best interests. The philosophy behind this law is that it is sometimes okay for a government to draft laws that endanger consenting adults engaging in legal behaviour (the selling of sex remains legal), because those people donâ??t know whatâ??s good for them and the government does. To believe this, one would have to put oneâ??s fingers in oneâ??s ears any time sex workers speak, but the government seems more than willing to do that. The government is coupling its harsh new laws with $20 million in new program funding, with an â??emphasis on funding programs that can help individuals exit prostitution.â? In other words, the government will help sex workers, but only if they get out of the business. Itâ??s 2014, and our government is more interested in telling people what to do with their lives â?? and in mass surveillance â?? than in protecting citizens from overreaching laws. This from the party that killed the long-form census and the gun registry because of its ostensible belief in personal freedom. If there are any libertarians left among Conservative voters, they ought to be outraged â?? and looking for a new political home. [/QUOTE]

Amazing 8 minute radio interview with sex researcher Chris Atchison who conducted the Sex, Safety & Security study. He hits every point right on target. So perfect. You also get to hear Peter MacKay, in his own words, describe his odd example of just one way that prostitutes could be criminalized under proposed law. Making sex buyers 'perverts' reinforces sex trade stigma, says researcher http://www.cbc.ca/player/Radio/Local+Shows/Ontario/The+Morning+Edition+-+K-W/ID/2462327728/

There is more to it than the advertising part. Maybe this article from a Parliamentary reporter will explain it better: http://nationalmagazine.ca/Articles/June-2014/Not-quite-the-Nordic-model.aspx I'm going by what lawyers are saying about it.

The new bill does propose to make selling sex illegal in certain circumstances! Furthermore, those circumstances are incredibly broad and vague, and leave a lot of discretion up to law enforcement. Also, Peter MacKay gave specific examples during his press conference of when sex workers themselves could be criminalized and prosecuted.