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During my time on Lyla, I have often heard people argue that a lady has the right to choose how to run her business, and point out time and again that this is a business like no other and of a very personal nature. Whether it's about who a lady chooses to see (or not see), what she chooses to offer (or not), what she decides to reveal in pictures or in ads, each lady ought to be able to work as they feel comfortable. It is a sentiment I very much agree with. Further, I think it's great that there's so much variety, because we are a wacky, diverse species who have a multitude of preferences, comfort levels, attractions, and opinions. So I'm glad that some ladies prefer to do only professional photos, while others enjoy sharing selfies. I like that some prefer to only hint at what is hidden while others enjoy revealing all. One need only look at any "what do you prefer" type thread to know there'll always be some that like one thing vs another, and no matter what you do you won't please everyone. And so the best thing a lady can do is whatever she feels is right, and let those who value her style come to her. I also believe that the donation amounts a lady chooses to offer is a personal choice that ought to be up to her and beyond criticism. I'd even go so far as to say that anyone who criticizes a lady's chosen donation amount (whether they think it too high or low) is the one showing a lack of class. If a lady decides the right thing for her is to raise her donation amount, then that should be respected. If a lady decides to offer a promotion, it is her choice to do so. In any event, it should be because the lady feels it's the right thing for her, not because they were pressured or made to feel judged. Negotiating with or pressuring a lady to lower her rates is surely one of the rudest things someone can do; but I'm not sure making them feel badly about it (high or low) is appropriate either. I acknowledge I am coming at this from the perspective of a guest, and one with limited experience and a narrow window into this business, so I apologize if anything I've said here is out of line.

I don't know what a minimum time would be, but I like to shave ahead of a rendezvous and usually do so at least a day, more often two days before. I figure that way if I do nick myself, even small ones I don't notice, they'll have plenty of time to heal up. And unlike the face area, I find I stay pretty smooth for a good four-five days, so I'm still quite smooth for any encounters. As LuxeMulvari says, a good new razor is a must though. The one time I got razor burn down there is not an experience I'm eager to repeat!

I've quite a few working years ahead of me yet, but I'd love to be able to retire at a reasonable age. I'm planning for the whole freedom 55 thing but will have to see where life takes me and decide how comfortably I want to be able to live in retirement. Still, even on a modest income I've always been careful to live within my means, save and invest a little each month, and my job offers a decent enough pension. So I feel like I'm on a pretty good path. Of course, if working longer means I'm able to spend more time with some wonderful ladies more often, then I may have to reconsider my goals!

I'd enjoy being able to draw or paint with real skill. After a fair bit of practice, I've almost been able to manage something recognizable as a stick figure, so maybe there's hope that someday I'll be there!

It's an interesting question Zeno, but I think the difference is clearly intent. Just because it isn't likely you were able to connect with a real woman isn't likely to change the fact that it will be assumed you signed up in an effort to have an affair. At best, if you claim you hadn't had any luck actually meeting someone, these figures will help back up your claim. But it's not going to change any anger over the attempt at cheating. To make your porn example consistent, you'd have to say that not only did the person rent the porno and fantasize (knowing the fantasy starts and ends in their imagination), but that they also messaged the pornstars (for an added fee) under the impression they'd likely be willing to meet up for sex. Is their chances of the pornstar actually agreeing to such a message likely? Nope. Will their spouse view it the same as masturbation because the attempt at an affair was unlikely? Probably not. Now that part I'd agree with!

I generally agree with you MightyPen, and as usual that was well said. But I think there's another level worth considering where at least in some cases the blame does belong elsewhere and less with those exposed. Everyone's acting like the only one's that will be punished or caught up in this are married men who--for whatever reasons, justifiable or otherwise--are cheating on their spouse and so have (as you say) assumed a risk by doing so. However, there are also those who maybe had their email address and identity used without their consent. There are those who signed up probably just to try to see if they could spot someone they recognize. Some will have signed up out of curiosity and either had no intention to go further or changed their mind. Do these folks deserve the same fate and exposure and consequences? Will their spouse, friends, family, or anyone else curiously checking to see who they can find on the list believe they weren't cheating or intending to do so? And then there are those who truly weren't cheating at all but were in open-relationships. People with a spouse who knew and were OK with them being on. However, once again their friends, coworkers, and family may not know that or make a distinction. Finally, an extreme case perhaps, but what about the information released of homosexual people from countries where being gay is a punishable offense? My point is the hackers, for their self-righteous or whatever other reasons they had for releasing the information, wouldn't have differentiated between the cheating husband who arguably must accept a risk when deciding to sign up, and any of these other groups.

A few Jessica Nigri... Yup, a Star Foxy Lady...

I'm assuming you mean FunAdventures? (though she also has a fine sense of humour :) ) If so, she had an ad up last month and has been online on the site within the last week.

You know, I almost actually added a comment that obviously scientists haven't always been correct and have had to change opinions based on new evidence, but I honestly thought it went without saying. But fine, yes, it's true that sometimes a scientific theory turns out to be incomplete or a scientist gets it wrong. But that doesn't mean it's rational to suddenly disregard science entirely, and it's still our best method of understanding our world and predicting its behaviour. Or have you also stopped using and believing everything science suggests because you read someone's prediction that turned out to be wrong? It may be that the prevailing scientific view and evidence will turn out to be incorrect as more is learned, and if it does I'll be more than happy to change my opinion. But until that happens a reasonable person would accept the current best evidence and findings and logic, rather than cherry picking odd predictions or believing the few that tell a person what they want to hear.

Yeah, I mean, since when has science ever proven anything or been a reasonable way to obtain knowledge and predict the future? Me, I'll stick to the tried and true method of reading goat entrails to understand the world thank you very much. Or at the very least Fox news.

Given how often towels was listed, I begin to wonder how many people here are fans of Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy...

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If he wasn't already, he's now in there for 2 minutes for high sticking.

That's very well said. Regarding the liberals and the TFSA, just to clarify they aren't suggesting it be scrapped, they are just suggesting the recent increase to the yearly limit be repealed. You'd still be able to put in $5000 year plus any unused contributions to previous years. Harper's increased limit is, arguably, something that only benefits the better off in Canada, since only those fairly well off can afford to save more than that $5000 yearly limit anyway. Plus, I've found the interest I've been getting on my TFSA account has gone down now that the limit has been increased, because the banks don't want to pay the same level of interest on the higher amounts. :( I do agree it is worth examining policies and platforms and try to think about what aligns with one's values. Here's a useful, non-partisan chart that's been making the rounds: http://i.imgur.com/6mC20Gd.jpg

Every time I see the title of this thread I think it's "sexiest air conditioning", but then it turns out not to be nearly anything so fun. The problem with sexism (and most "isms" actually) is it isn't always obvious or in your face. It's actually the systemic discrimination that can be hardest to identify and root out. Is the traditional or average temperature at an office sexist? Personally, I kinda doubt it, or at the very least suspect there's more factors at play. But what's the harm in having the discussion and giving it fair consideration just in case? Without doubt, not every accusation of sexism is fair or true, but it's not like women don't have any struggles left or just want to bash men. That's a false picture of feminism that I'm a bit tired of seeing everywhere. Anyway, maybe I'm just misreading the tone of the OP or maybe I'm just a white knight because I don't actually think white hetero males have it the hardest in our society. I just think discrimination can be subtle, and it's worth examining things we take for granted. And speaking of things we take for granted, I'm now going to go look for that sexy air conditioning.