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Interesting conversation. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with sex appeal or even using sex appeal as a strength or to help sell something. But of course nothing is ever so simple. The problem comes when someone is reduced or viewed as *only* a sex object. I think most of us would like to be thought of as attractive, and many of us work hard to try to keep our appearances in good shape (and not just for health reasons!). But it's one thing to want someone to view you as a person with sex appeal, and another thing to be viewed as nothing but a sex object. Unfortunately it's that blurred line a lot of people have trouble with. It's why you get guys who assume if a women is well done up it's OK to catcall her, and then degrade her as a tease/bitch if she doesn't accept the "compliment". I mean, just look at the pet peeves threads on this site; it doesn't take long to realize that this profession is no exception to the fact that people don't like being approached and propositioned as if they are a toy to be used. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with sex appeal. And in certain contexts there's nothing wrong with admiring someone's sex appeal and complimenting them on it. What our society isn't great on is not reducing someone to only their sex appeal, especially in situations where that isn't the trait they want others to focus on. And what society needs to accept, in my opinion, is that there's nothing wrong with a lady who sometimes wants to feel and be treated sexy but other times doesn't want that to be the focus and talk of every guy she passes by or deals with. I also think ladies are too often blamed for men's actions. It may be that ladies using sex appeal on their own terms and when they wish does lead to some guys treating women as sex objects in general. But if a guy can't make the distinction then he is to blame, not the woman. Otherwise, isn't it a bit of a slippery slope before we start saying all women need to stay covered up head to toe and stay at home out of sight of all men lest you tempt us and corrupt us with your wily ways? Anyway, just some thoughts and opinions off the top of my head. It's a complex topic.

I saw this today and am guessing there's a few people here that will be able to appreciate it:

Carrie's intelligent posts here on Lyla had caught my attention (and yes, I'll admit her enticing pictures did as well), and after some pleasant messaging back and forth, I was lucky enough to spend some time with her. As high as my expectations were, she easily exceeded them. A well-spoken and beautiful lady, she indulged me at every turn. A pleasure to talk with, and everything from her energy to her delightful laugh made for a wonderful experience.

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I bought one as a present to someone I was with once. She was initially quite intimidated by its size and unsure. If I recall it took about 30 seconds after turning it on for her to declare it the best present she'd ever received!

Um...I think a lot of ladies don't offer outcall, especially if it's to a private residence of someone they haven't met. That alone doesn't strike me as unusual or a red flag.

I hope you dont catch slack as you say, since your question seems asked in good faith and I think it is best for everyone if people feel like they can ask questions (better than not doing so out of fear and making a mistake in my opinion). I would say though that it is not a question you should pose. Rather, it is likely a safe bet that if a lady was comfortable sharing nudes that she would be doing so. Yes, there is always a chance she might share some upon request, but there is a much, much bigger chance you will just make a poor impression. Not worth the risk of unintentionally insulting someone or souring a potential relationship in my opinion. Cheers.

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Not sure if you were actually after an answer, but the big difference is that there is an actual huge widespread issue of female genital mutilation, both historically and ongoing. The few times someone has actually done something equivalent to a man it typically is taken seriously, with charges laid. It's a news story because it's such an exceptional circumstance and (though it by no means justifies the act) it's often connected to some wider and inappropriate action the male took to get themselves into trouble. In the case of female genital mutilation it's mostly done simply as a means of subjugation. Basically it's easier and generally less offensive to make an innocent joke about cutting a penis off because that's not a common practice and so it is easier to take as the innocent joke intended. Female genital mutilation is invariably tied up into wider issues of mysogomy you can't separate it from. It's like if you made a joke where the punchline was about a high gas bill...it would take on a whole different and darker meaning if it was about a Jewish person because of the real historical tragedy associated with it. Anyway, not trying to derail the thread or start a debate and that's probably more than anyone wanted to read...but if you were really wondering what the difference is, there ya go.

--- I admit, I was tempted just to leave it at the gif, but in the spirit of being helpful/giving benefit of the doubt, there are a lot of recommendations on the site. As for who has an affordable donation amount, well, what is considered affordable is somewhat relative to each person so you're probably better off looking for someone you think you'd be compatible with and deciding yourself if their rate is within your limits. You may also want to think about how some of your word choice could come across; I don't think anyone is likely to offer a name. As for your second question, being new you perhaps couldn't know, but street walking recos (even indirectly) isn't a topic this board really encourages.

"If women used pick-up lines" I'll admit a couple made me laugh.

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I haven't met Crystal myself, but there was this complimentary thread regarding her: http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=200881