Brad

I'm finding the recent discussion interesting, and has made me think about a few of my own assumptions. And I think that's what part of the recent discussion is about...what is a reasonable or standard assumption: a) Should (and "should" is a key word) a fellow be able to assume during DATY that a lady isn't on her period? Or... b) Should a guy assume whenever he is going down on a lady that it is possible she is on (or could be about to start) her period? I think this in part is where the discussion has evolved, and is a fair and interesting question. For myself, I'm in the "B" camp. Yes, it may be that a the risks increase if a lady is on her period, but menstruation is also a natural, frequently occurring process. It can't be viewed in the same camp as someone not disclosing an STD. It seems to me that just like someone who partakes in greek has to go in (so to speak) knowing there's always the risk of a bit of mess, those of us who love giving daty must do so knowing it's possible she is about to start her period, or on it and using a sponge. Another way of looking at the issue is this: if it's important for a guy to know whether or not a lady is on her period, is the burden of communication on the lady or the gent? I can see arguments both ways. After all, there's plenty of activities we assume won't happen unless a person communicates about it first. Maybe it's true this falls into that group. I'm not so sure, since the rule of thumb generally seems to be that if you have an issue to something fairly common/natural, then the onus is on the person with the issue to bring it up. And "shoulds" aside, it's clear it could happen regardless, so probably better to assume it's a possibility and go in with one's eyes wide open (or at least wearing goggles). :) Anyway, just some thoughts.

A bit of a ramble before my question: I prefer to arrange encounters at least several days in advance, in part because I enjoy the anticipation but also because it gives everyone plenty of time to reply. I imagine, however, that while it's generally a bad idea to try and arrange something the very last minute, doing so for the same-day with at least a few hours notice is fairly normal. But as people have mentioned before if you leave a message for someone (or text, email, etc) it's not reasonable to expect an immediate response. But on the other hand if you wait even a few hours for a resply before trying someone else, your chance for the day could easily be gone. I suspect one solution is if there's 2 or 3 ladies a person would be interested in meeting to message them all in the hopes that one is available and will reply. But this seems potentially rude, since it's always possible more than one will end up responding. I would think ladies could get annoyed if they take time to reply to a same-day request only to be told they were too late. But I guess that's what I want to know. From the ladies' perspective, does it bother you if you get back to someone the same day and they reply that they've already booked with someone else? If someone is looking to arrange something within a few hours, is the better solution for them to only try with ladies that book by phone rather than text/email?

Of course, given how a couple of the ladies here have talked in the past about their hitachi's, it seems sometimes people have great chemistry with their mechanical... :icon_wink: I'd agree that discussing one's limits and preferences ahead of time doesn't have to make things mechanical. I'd actually think it could increase the odds of chemistry, since both parties are more likely to feel comfortable and confident having done so. People always point out that chemistry increases over time. Presumably that's because people start to get to know the other person better, including what works for them. Some discussion ahead of time can often help achieve the same thing to a degree. I'd only add that prior conversation of such things does not mean an encounter is going to be precisely scripted. There's a difference between mentioning some activities you enjoy/don't enjoy, and laying out exactly what you want to take place, in what order, for what duration.

Interesting point Dread. I'd suggest that a lot actually depends on the tone of the email. It's probably one thing to mention to a lady that there's an activity you really enjoy and, though you understand YMMV and that they can't promise anything, you're curious if it's something you can potentially indulge in. It's another thing to declare "I love asses and can't wait to lick yours all day!!1!". I suspect the ladies that say no explicit talk are more talking to those inclined to the second kind of message. If you wanted to be safe, you could also contact the lady, let her know you are interested, acknowledge that you've read she prefers no explicit talk but you are curious if she enjoys or provides a certain activity and would she mind if you made a request. By politely asking permission you've let her know you are earnest and respecting her rules and not just messaging to be crude or get off...and if she really wants no such talk at all it gives her a chance to say so. I'd say that's probably the way to navigate these seemingly opposing rules.

Beards are definitely the prevalent style these days. I go back and forth between being clean-shaven and sporting a closely trimmed beard, and have since university actually. Eventually I get bored of one look or the other. Actually, I'm most likely to be clean-shaven if I'm booking an encounter soon, as am a somewhat eager fan of DATY and DATO and don't want to ruin the experience if a lady's skin is too sensitive for a beard. I think how fashionable beards are goes in cycles. I suspect you'll find in a few years they won't be as common again. There's actually a theory about it called "negative frequency". The idea is that the opposite sex will often find appealing a trait that is less usual. So in the case of facial hair if everyone is clean-shaven, a person with a beard may actually garner more attention...which leads to more and more people having beards until it is actually the clean-shaven face that is rare and so stands out more and so is attractive. I'm sure if you Google "negative frequency beards" you'll find a bunch of results if that's the type of thing you're curious about.

Hey Mia, I don't think that button is actually active. It's never done anything for me either. You can't upload a picture/file from your computer directly into a post; you can only link to a picture that's already online. To do that you want to click the icon that looks like a little picture of a mountain. That will let you enter the url/link to the picture you want to share, and put the image in your post.

A quick challenge for ladies and gents alike: describe your perfect encounter in one word! For myself...I think I'll go with passionate. (though I'm tempted to go at it from a different angle and just say "threesome" :icon_wink:)

Good call Natasha! And though I couldn't find your death knight, would this work for your holy paladin? :)

I'll come down on the side of them being fun and sexy. Like trying out a new hairdo or outfit, I imagine getting to sport a completely different style or colour at a whim would be fun and convenient. An easy way to add a bit of variety too. So yes, a playful change (though running ones fingers through real hair is awfully enjoyable too...).

This thread does seem to be about two questions, and though I didn't see the post that spurred this one I would like to comment on the "piling on" idea. It's actually a tricky issue, I think. There are times after all when it's somewhat appropriate for everyone to have their say, even if they're repeating what's already come before. Sometimes people say or ask something where it's useful to get a clear sense of the common opinion or etiquette. Or if someone suggests something truly inappropriate, having several people all come down reinforcing the same point can be a good thing to ensure a clear message is sent. Something like a poster who suggests it's OK to haggle a lady's rates, for instance. However, other times it does seem like someone asks a question in good faith, or makes an innocent breach of etiquette, and the next thing you know multiple people are responding with the exact same points. I suspect I've even been guilty of this myself, so I don't say this as if I'm somehow above it all. I can even understand why it happens. This is a forum after all. People come to share their opinion, and it's simple human nature to want to add your voice to a discussion. However, I can also see the problem when this goes too far. I can think of a couple threads where the OP would post again to say they had clearly got the message and had changed their mind and thanks for the info, and yet people still keep replaying with the same answer. Again, I get why, but I also get that the OP probably starts to feel bullied after a while (even though this isn't the intention of the other posters). The effect, unfortunately, is that a person becomes reluctant to post anything or ask questions. This doesn't make for a friendly, non-static forum. For my part, I'll try better in the future to keep this in mind. Often it's worth adding your own words, to share a new point or view or clarify a previous one. But in some cases it's probably more friendly and sufficient to simply use the thanks/nomination buttons to add one's support to an idea and leave it at that. Again, I say all this without accusation or reference to the other thread. Just some general thoughts.

Good question! I think most outfits/costumes are fun and sexy, but if I had to pick I'd say nurse and cop are probably my two favourites... Although teacher and maid can also be really fun... And with the right attitude there's nothing hotter than the secretary/executive look... And though I'm not sure why I'll also admit there something about the sexy nun look that does it for me... Hmm...apparently I'm actually no good at picking a favourite.

The princess is in another castle...

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I'd say around midday. Gives me the morning to make sure I'm all ready and enjoy the anticipation of things to come...but without having to wait toooo long. Then plenty of time leftover in the day to enjoy the reverie thinking back on the encounter.