Brad

Office sexual tension...not a new thing.

Those look like amazing...reports.

If you wanted to try to slip through by paying the donation one day and having the encounter on a different date, it would probably be more likely to go the other way and you'd be expected to pay a couple days in advance rather than afterwards. That way the risk and onus of trust is on the gent rather than the lady. However, I'm not sure this would really work. I mean, if you already have the established relationship enough that this much trust is built up, then I'm not sure why you'd be worried about just paying at the start of the encounter as usual, since it clearly wouldn't be a sting or set-up. If the worry is that law enforcement would try to prove it after the fact, then whether you pay 5 minutes in advance or 2 days later wouldn't really make a difference, since it would still be clear to anyone what was going on. I mean, suppose you purchase stolen goods. Whether you pay for them at the time your given them or a couple days later, you could still be equally charged. Holding off a couple days doesn't provide legal deniability. Anyway, it's an interesting thought. I just figure if you already have a trusting relationship, you probably don't have as much to worry about.

I suppose it's not really a perfect comparison, but I thought this quite a clever article from The Globe and Mail: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/globe-debate/columnists/dont-piano-teachers-deserve-the-same-protection-as-prostitutes/article19043328/

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The work of getting ready for a date?

Hmm...anyone else look at the top row and think some people were just too embarrassed to give a truthful answer? http://io9.com/how-often-men-and-women-masturbate-by-age-1583854130

Hmm, ladies like a guy who's good in the kitchen, right?

Not too much to complain of here, happily. I count myself pretty lucky and the ladies I've met have generally been very professional and special. The one thing that does bug me a bit is a lady checking her phone repeatedly. Once at the beginning of an encounter is understandable (for all I know she has a system where she texts someone after meeting as a safety precaution), but after that I guess I'm selfish enough that I want us to be focused on just each other. It puts a damper on things if I feel I'm not engaging enough to hold your attention for a mere hour. I do have to say I'm a little surprised by the consensus of how many guys don't like being called "hun, babe, etc." I always find those sort of pet names quite endearing and affectionate myself. But, as in most things, to each their own!

Rickyj, here's the go to thread on this topic to get you started: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=1642 You may also find this helpful, as it also sums up some recent happenings: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitution_in_Canada Good luck!

It's been almost a couple years since I met my first companion, and though I only get the occasional chance to enjoy the company of one of the lovely ladies hereabouts, I feel like I've learned a lot in that time. I still remember how nervous I was contacting my first provider... I'm sure I made a few rookie mistakes... Luckily she was very welcoming and understanding... And my initial stunned shock... Soon enough gave way to pure bliss... And by the end I had been made to feel like a champion... So thank you to that first lady, and to those incredible ladies I've had the pleasure of meeting since, and to any whose company I may someday get the opportunity to share. Because though I may still sometimes feel pretty shy, the memories and anticipation you create leave me a bit more...well...animated. :) ........... So, anyone else have a story? Or (to have fun and keep it simple), anyone have that one image or gif that sums up how Cerb and the people you meet here make you feel?

Oh geez, I wish I could find something that works for me. I'm just lucky vampires aren't real because apparently I've got some fine tasty blood in me. My friends would answer the question by saying *I* am their bug spray, since they know if I'm around I'll attract the little buggers and they'll be left alone. By the way, hope things are going well for you theliquor. Always nice to read one of your upbeat posts.

Whew, nice shares Cato, the last shot especially is amazing!

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RG, in spirit I think I agree with what you're saying, but I think I also get the difference Fortunateone is outlining. Consider this, at Home Depot workers have to wear a harness and a helmet if they are going to retrieve anything from the upper shelves. It's a regulation of their workplace safety. However, in my personal life it is not illegal for me to get up on a step ladder without such equipment to reach something, no matter the height. In keeping with the comparison, I could say I have friends who are less trained and cautious than the Home Depot worker and at even more risk of injury at home. Now, we all know such comparisons can be riddled with troubles, but I think that's the sort of difference Fortunateone is discussing...that commercial sex work--in places where it is treated as a business like some others--may also have safety standards. I'm sure you can find plenty of examples of rules and laws you have to follow at work that you don't in your personal life (even when the personal activity is potentially more dangerous) I don't profess to know enough about the topic to discuss whether New Zealand's model is good or not. In fact, I think I'd say I'm generally against any such government regulation. I certainly agree with you that often SP's are unfairly held to a standard that others aren't, and that interactions with them are, if anything, less dangerous than a random bar hookup. And no doubt sometimes regulations that are put out for "people's best interests" do often hide a moral agenda. That said, if something is formally commercialized, it's not necessarily inconsistent to see regulations applied at an industry level that aren't at a personal level. What those regulations should be and what is fair or right is a whole other question of course. :)

I guess I'm just confused. I did quote your entire post, so I'm not sure what you mean by the last sentence. Yes, for sure you talked about stalkers. But no one was suggesting that it never happens with married men (or conversely that it always happens with singles), just that in some people's experience it happens more often with single folk. Anyway, we all agree that there's nothing wrong with opposing viewpoints and that people should feel free to express them. It's just that it seemed like you were disagreeing with points that weren't in Cristy's original post. Anyway, I'm quite willing to move on. If I misinterpreted your post then I'm glad you clarified, since politely doing so seems like a helpful thing to do, after all. :) So then, if I'm reading your second post correctly you want to share that your own experience and thoughts are that married men are just as likely to push boundaries as single people. Fair enough. My own intuition would be that while the majority of both single and married guys are respectful of boundaries, of the two married fellows would generally be even more invested in staying discrete. Though no doubt there are many exceptions. Cheers. Additional Comments: Moving on to another part of the discussion, there's a lot of articles out there on the idea that men and women often find married people more attractive, or at least attractive in different ways. You just have to google anything like "married women more attractive" or "why do women like married men" to find scores of them. I'm not sure how much stock I put in a lot of these articles, and many seem like just-for-fun humour pieces than anything scientific, but given how many people discuss it, there must be something for at least some people to the idea! Or maybe I'm just thinking of the Seinfeld episode where George pretended to be married to attract ladies. :)

Loneskater, I think you misinterpreted what Cristy was suggesting. She didn't say that married people aren't going to find other women attractive or won't be interested in repeat encounters; she's proposing that married men are less likely to push the boundaries of the SP - client relationship, and try to turn those encounters into something more.

"Are breasts what you think make women sexy, beautiful and why?" To that question I can honestly say no. Now, if you'd asked are breasts one of the things that can make a woman sexy, then I probably would say yes. There's no way I could deny that I absolutely love breasts. And yes, for me at least "the more the merrier" but I've never met a breast I didn't like, regardless of size and shape, and just like most things there's different people that will prefer all different sizes. But as much as breasts turn me on so do another 100 things about women! Many of them are other physical attributes: nice eyes, nice legs, nice smile, nice hair, nice ass, nice feet. Everybody has at least one nice feature! And then there are the non-physical traits which are at least as sexy if not more. I don't care how perfect I think your breasts are, if you're a cruel person, I'm not going to find you sexy! But a generous person, one with confidence or a sense of humour or sincerity, that's always going to be attractive. So yes, I like looking at breasts. I like touching them even more. I find them a huge turn on, and the bigger they are the more I'm turned on. But breasts aren't what makes a woman a woman, nor do they determine her value as a person, and even if tomorrow every breast on the planet disappeared, I wouldn't have any problem still finding ladies plenty attractive!