Brad

I was going to try to make a joke about "plaid lingerie", but did a google image search first and turns out that, yup, that's sexy too! For me, black wouldn't be my first choice just because it is so common. Being less usual makes other colours more eye catching and memorable. But it's true that the style and how well it compliments a particular lady are probably more important. And while some colours may generally be more appealing than others, at the end of the day I wouldn't say there's a bad. Lingerie is like sex and pizza. When it's good, it's great. When it's bad...it's still pretty great.

I'm guessing metal costumes aren't as popular in cold weather!

While I imagine sometimes it is because someone has questionable motives, I suspect that often it is simply that many don't realize this is something that would give you peace of mind. This might just be one of those times when what seems obvious to your perspective and with your experience isn't to others. I think those of us who are very active on the forums are more likely to book through CERB. But no doubt for many guys it is simply just another site among many that they take a peek at to see different ads. For them it may simply not occur to them that sharing their Cerb handle is something that would be helpful and appreciated, and the fact that they say they saw your ad/pictures on Cerb is probably just a go to conversation starter. If they do indicate they found you on Cerb, I think it would be reasonable for part of your reply to be something along the lines of "Oh, you found me on Cerb. That's good to know, what is your username there?" If they don't answer, then you know there may be something else going on beyond just the person not thinking to mention it. I'm sure your idea of a discount would probably also do the trick if that works for you.

Glad to hear you had a terrific encounter. Excellent memories are part of what this is all about in my opinion. "I am head over heels and I know many of you will say I'm silly but this feels real." I don't think you're silly but--remembering the emotions you expressed when you first started this thread--I hope you won't mind if I presume and offer a few words of caution. This can be a healthy lifestyle and you may find some healing and happiness here both...but don't let your heart run away from you or you may end up hurting yourself. "Feels real" and "real" are very different things, and while it's great when we make a connection with someone here, and while that connection can be real as far as it goes, just don't forget the "as far as it goes" part. :) Take a few deep breaths, enjoy the memory and feelings, but keep your head and don't lose sight of the boundaries of these relationships. If I'm reading too much into that last sentence, then I apologize, and I hope you know I say this with the best intentions. Good luck to you!

If I'm especially excited, I find I can last longer with a cbj, and I'd certainly call that a pro. And while I understand oral is a fairly safe activity relatively speaking, personally I enjoy the peace of mind I get from having the extra precaution taken, which lets me relax and enjoy the sensations all the more. But I suppose the biggest pro of a covered blow job is that you're getting a blow job!!!

I was hoping to find a lady to play Candyland with and so gave Cristy a call. I brought along a CherryBlossom and we had a Realnicechat. But then I felt a stray Touch which was a real Rushton. Feeling JoyfulC I apologized for being Frank97500 but asked if I could Seymour. I thought she might be Mod at me, but when she suggested a Midnite Massage I certainly felt like a Fortuneateone. It was a Malika Fantasy come true! Unfortunately at that point I woke up... turns out it had all been a Dreamer8.

It's certainly a sexy but even artistically done idea. I remember coming across it myself. If you want to check out the full videos of all the different readings, not to mention FAQ's, interviews, and even essays on the project, here is the filmmaker's official site for them: http://hystericalliterature.com/

Well usually I turn to Google for answers. Not sure how much help this is, but might at least give a smile...

Some Emma Frost cosplay...

I think a lot of the difficulty some people have with paring down is that each item when looked at by itself seems to have value. Either it could be useful or has some sentimental attachment. If you're keeping something because someday it may be useful, give yourself permission to get rid of it knowing you may one day end up needing the item. You can get rid of 100 things that way and will probably find you only ever end up having to retrieve 1 of them. As for sentimental items, I think the trick is to keep a selection of items that can symbolize everything. Do you have 100 things that all belonged to a relative and are therefore sentimental? Pick 3 of them that can represent them all. If it is just a matter of general clutter, pick a couple boxes and make the rule that you can keep whatever you are able to fit into them and everything else has to go. You'll quickly discover which items are most important to you!

It's tricky to know just how to answer this, since it depends so much on how you interpret the question, or which part you focus on. If we're talking about the physical interaction, then naturally the preference is for someone to be authentic and in the moment, rather than just obviously going through the motions. But expectations have to be realistic. I mean, if a lady is feeling tired or has a headache, does anyone what to be authentically told at the end of an encounter that she'd rather have had a nap than have spent time with you? Is a lady who hides that fact and ensures you leave feeling good about yourself being professional or being inauthentic? If we're talking more about her personality (or persona), then that depends too. Much like the open letter Regent recently penned to hobbyists, if you're racist, sexist, or homophobic, I'm much happier if you keep that part of yourself to yourself. But generally speaking, I think it's probably better to present yourself as who you truly are, if only because it's exhausting to pretend otherwise. There's enough variety out there that it seems to me like it would be simpler to be who you are, and so attract the people that you appeal to. It's worth pointing out that being authentic doesn't necessarily mean revealing all of yourself. We all have layers and we all act differently for different audiences. This isn't deception; it's life! It's possible that a person can present one side of themselves on Cerb or in the bedroom, and another side of themselves when alone or with friends, etc. That doesn't mean that how they choose to act here isn't authentic.

I'm not a doctor but I've played one in bed, so take that for what it's worth, but what you say does sound similar to what I've read and heard elsewhere. Thanks! I'd agree with those who say each person has to agree on what level or amount of risk they are willing to accept, and only do that which they are comfortable with. I think it's a shame when anyone is pressured, even implicitly, into doing more than they are comfortable with.

Interestingly, I started and enjoy posting to the Uniform/Roleplay Lovers' social group, but haven't ever actually made any special outfit/costume requests to a lady. I sometimes wonder if I enjoy the fantasy of such things, but when it comes to reality I'm happier keeping things simple or admiring some lingerie. At the end of the day probably whatever the lady feels most comfortable and sexy in will work out best. That said, I have to admit the secretary/boss outfit look does sound hot, especially if there's sexy lingerie underneath...but then the casual shirt and yoga pants combo is always appealing too...oh, either a police officer or french maid outfit are classics and could be fun... Hmm...actually I'm starting to remember why I created that group, after all. :icon_eek:

I've sometimes thought about changing my picture around, but I know for me I tend to associate a member with their avatar even more than their name, and I figured if other people were like me the consistency would help. For instance, when I saw Jayne's Hat from Firefly I knew MightyPen was posting...I'm not sure who this new MightyPen fellow is! ;)