Brad

"Is this just plain wrong? Or am I on to something here?" When it comes to attraction and how you want to live your life, as long as you aren't hurting anyone, then there is no universal right or wrong, and you simply have to do what will make you happy. It already sounds like you know what that is, which puts you ahead of the game. :) As for your other comment, one of the biggest myths/stereotypes that seems to be out there is the idea that all the ladies in this business are somehow coerced or involved because they have no other option. If you've been reading the threads hereabouts I imagine you've already realized how often that is clearly not the case! And while everyone is entitled to a grumpy day here or there, I think most people will tell you that many ladies here are both professional and enthusiastic. It sounds like CERB is a good spot for you. Stick around, read recommendations and the many thoughtful posts the ladies share, and I've no doubt you find someone who appeals that you can enjoy a mutually happy experience with. Good luck!

Oh, have to add to that one, especially if it's been dried outside on a summer day!

You'll find "the best" is a tricky term, but you can find a couple tips and suggested names of ladies that offer/enjoy it on this thread: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=167266&highlight=greek

Hmm, not quite as nightmarish as I remember...

Ug, these threads make me very uncomfortable, especially the way they tend to evolve. It seems like most of the time everyone agrees that each lady should get to run her business the way they see fit. But it seems like invariably these sort of conversations turn into judgements on others (even if simply by implication) and hurt feelings. Better not to make assumptions, especially in this industry, and especially about people. Do what works for you and what makes you feel good.

An incredible piece of art, really. Had to look twice to see it wasn't actually a parrot. Her name is Johannes Stotter (thanks to 1963Kennedy for the info).

Couldn't help myself ;)

Love the books and the show, but this "honest trailer" had me laughing out loud:

If you do end up making a gmail account, you can also take steps so that any email that goes to your old hotmail account gets auto-forwarded to the new gmail one. That way you don't have to worry about getting people to use the new one or checking both places.

Roamingguy...Roamingguy...nope, don't think I recall seeing any posts from that guy. :) This one is for you R.G., keep up the good work!

Nice thread. I think it really shows the importance of being willing to communicate. So many people are shy about asking for what they want or offering some direction. And it's a shame, because most people want to please. They want to hear about what works for a given person. And with the right tone or a coy smile, doing so can be done in a way that is itself sexy and enticing; it isn't a criticism. The problem is without that communication the other person is left guessing a lot more, and so are going to naturally start with the ways they think will work. An attentive lover will try to pick up on signs, but it still leaves a lot more trial and error, like having a ring of keys you're going through one by one to open the lock! :)

First of all, great post Meaghan. You articulate a great philosophy to adopt, especially for this site. As for your question, I'm having trouble saying how open minded I am myself. "Open minded" is one of those terms that everyone defines differently. Does it mean you believe everything or are just willing to hear others out? Does it mean you'll try anything or just that you won't judge someone who does? And where's the balance? Someone once told me it's good to be open minded but not sooo open-minded your brains fall out. :redface: I try very hard not to be fundamental in my beliefs, but always open to change, and willing to accept a new position if someone makes better arguments supporting it or it has the best evidence available. But all of us have our blind spots, and it can be difficult not just to pay attention to those things which bolster your pre-existing views, while turning a blind eye to anything that challenges your beliefs. Our beliefs are, after all, who we are. Is it any wonder we struggle so much to admit something we think may be wrong? As for specific examples, when it comes to sex and sexuality I'd say I'm very open-minded. A person's sexual orientation doesn't phase me, nor which gender they self-identify as. As for sex, well, there's many things I'm not interested in, but what turns a person on is often out of their control, so my attitude is whatever goes on between consenting adults is up to them. I'll enjoy my kinds, wish you well with yours, and let's each have fun, fun, fun however we define it. If I ever have a threesome, it's true I'd prefer it to involve two ladies, but I see that as personal preference along the same lines as I like chocolate milkshakes more than strawberry. And I've no judgement for those who prefer a different flavour. In other areas though I struggle to being open-minded. I've friends that believe every conspiracy theory out there, and I have trouble being patient with them or even hearing them out after a while. And I'll admit if I find out someone is of a certain political party, I'll sometimes make assumptions about them. At the end of the day, I try--imperfectly--to assume the best of people, and act and think under the idea that each person can be who they want to be and act how they want to act, as long as doing so isn't causing another person any harm or limiting their freedom to do the same.

Prepare to lose some time. You've been warned. :) http://games.usvsth3m.com/2048/boobs-edition-21/

A bit of Liz Katz...

Font...choose wisely. The origin of the term "giving head"?

ASDR, in your last post you asked for proof that when people make comments it's because they are saying what they truly believe and not just to earn "thanks" or are pretending to be a gentleman. I believe that you ask this question sincerely, but doesn't it seem a bit of an odd one? Why is the burden of proof on me to prove to you that I say what I believe? And how something like that be proven or unproven? I think it's unfortunate that your outlook is that when a bunch of people--men and women--offer posts that promote respect and understanding, you assign ulterior and negative emotions. Is it truly so unrealistic to think that men and women can just simply on topics? I admit I do sometimes start to skim a thread when someone asks a question or makes a point, and it seems like twelve people give the same answer in different words, but that doesn't mean that each of those twelve people weren't saying what they mean. It's also useful because it shows what the prevailing view is (or at least seems to be). It's also the nature of forums. The whole reason people come hear is to express their opinion and read others, so it's a bit silly to be surprised or annoyed when they do so. :) Consider this, is it not simply more likely that if you notice that most posters get along, support each other, promote an understanding and suggest guidelines that makes this business as happy to everyone as possible, etc that this is because the board has simply attracted those type of people over time? (now to sit back and wait for the thanks to roll on in!!!...oh crap, did I type that! ;) )