Brad

Good read, thanks for sharing!

I've also been enjoying it. As Lowdark says, it certainly isn't historically accurate in some respects, but the characters, dialogue, and story are all entertaining. What I really like though is that, unlike a lot of "historical" shows, it doesn't simply have characters with today's values and beliefs and slap them in historical costume. It actually tries to show a different period in time where people had different worldviews that seemed as normal to them as ours is to us, and it doesn't do so in a "look how silly these people are" kind of way.

This article is by an adult movie performer telling her story, but I thought she made some really well-worded arguments and observations that many here would appreciate. http://www.xojane.com/sex/duke-university-freshman-porn-star

Nice idea. I'd say just make sure you pick something that is unlikely to get stuck in my teeth. I always make sure I brush and floss that much extra ahead of a date, not to mention gurgling half of a bottle of mouthwash. So I wouldn't want to eat anything that would have me worrying about having any unwanted bits between teeth. Many foods of course also leave a scent on one's breath. Perhaps you should be a little selfish and offer foods that you like the smell of! :)

Originally Posted by cristycurves WHY? send out penis pictures WHY? Egads, who really knows but I can make two guesses. One is that the guy is an exhibitionist and get satisfaction out of sharing the image. For others, I wonder if it is because they think it will either impress or please the lady. After all, a lot of men would be thrilled to receive a picture from a lady of her private bits; perhaps they are automatically assuming the reverse is true. Either way, it's a shame that random men are either oblivious or immature enough to assume that unsolicited pics are going to win them any points. Better to assume if a lady actually wants to see a junk shot, she'll ask! :) .................. Originally Posted by cristycurves Please realize that breasts aren't charmin toilet tissue... Oh, you make me laugh and cringe at the same time. I think your question just shows how important it is to communicate. I think one of the best things a lady can do is offer instruction on how she likes to be touched, as (and this is both terrible and wonderful!) no two people are the same. And even the same person will be in a different mood day to day. Offering instruction need not be a negative thing, but can in fact be quite enticing with the right tone. After all, most guys want to offer pleasure, so coming right out and seductively saying how you like to be touched will often be both a turn on for the guy, and hopefully save the lady some uncomfortable groping. ..................... Originally Posted by Summer Could more of you please comment on what you will do if they implement the Nordic model? This is a real concern to many of the women here. Will you drop out of the community? What can we do to ensure that you feel safe booking? I'm mostly holding off until I see what actually happens and how it gets enforced. I'm anxious but hopeful that those who--like today--are discreet and respectable--will not generally be bothered, in which case it would make little difference. We'll see. .................. Originally Posted by Raven Rain can you Gentlemen please explain to some gentlemen have their profile private;other than the one worded answer privacy. I feel that being able to look other a potential clients profile helpful sometimes before meeting them. I often wonder if the people that do are either new or seldom visitors, who just aren't around enough to realize they can feel comfortable and secure without a private profile. How many of them set it to private when they first sign up and then never give it a second thought, not realizing they are mostly only hurting themselves by not allowing the ladies to visit their page in turn. I think a lot of new hobbyists are very paranoid about the industry, and it probably seems like a good function especially when they first sign up. .................. Quote: Originally Posted by Amelie I guess my question is, should ladies charge for social time? Should I include the option of free meet up before a date when someone books a certain amount of hours? Absolutely do whatever you feel comfortable with. At the end of the day there really is no "should" other than what works for you. Personally, I don't think you should feel guilty at all about charging a social rate; if anything, it's a nice bonus that you offer the option at all. If you choose to offer an option where some social time is available with a certain booking length/type, that is up to you as well. I think you have to accept that nothing you do will please everybody, so at the end of the day you might just as well do what you feel good about. ......... Quote: Originally Posted by kimmyxoxo What is your absolute favorite thing about hobbying? Whether it's setting up the meeting, the sex itself or the anticipation of meeting a beautiful stranger... And also what is the thing you hate most about hobbying? That one's easy! Best thing: getting the chance to spend time making wonderful memories with wonderful women. Worst thing: not being able to do it more often! I'm not in a position where I can indulge in a rendezvous very often. On the plus side, it's made the encounters I have had very special. But they've been such good experiences that they make me wish I was in a position where I could see even more ladies, and also get back to repeat with those that have been so good to me.

While some folk may be in denial or sexually repressed, for the most part I think we each get to define our sexual identity for ourselves. To be clear I'm not suggesting that being gay or straight is a conscious choice. I'm just saying that the only person who can answer the question about whether they are gay or not is the person themselves. I don't get to tell another person that, because of a certain thought or act, they are gay, bi, or straight. Sexuality is not always a clear or unchanging line, which also confuses the issue. Whenever we try to categorize sexuality there are always going to be gray areas. But basically a stray thought or fantasy (or even deed) does not by itself define a person. Indeed, most everyone has fantasies about things they wouldn't ever have any real desire to do in real life, or perhaps only on rare occasion or under specific circumstances. How a person self identifies overall has more to do with their general, overarching desire and personality.

Funny link Jafo, thanks for sharing. -- I'd guess you'd have to have super powers to be able to climb a ladder in those shoes:

I'm assuming it's not going to be based on one of the sports where the first one to finish wins?

You'll have to come back RG there are lots of ladies here that would love to create great memories for you other than just it's great restaurants:wink: Cristy, I'm thinking you should definitely be getting a cut from the Provincial tourism budget! As for restaurants, I'd say The Bicycle Thief is the best restaurant in the city at the moment. For more casual fare Darryl's on Fenwick St. has good choice and good food. For take-out...hmm, does grabbing an ice-cream from Cows count?

Good timing indeed! A well deserved congratulations on your milestone.

Great thread, great question, great answers! It is, in a word...terrific. ;) I'm curious how ladies feel if a potential client mentions their particular turn-ons and sexual preferences ahead of a first encounter (assuming it's not in an overly crass way, of course). Is that kind of information ahead of time helpful in terms of preparing for a better encounter and knowing if there's likely to be chemistry? Or is it presumptuous and off-putting? Or put it another way: if a potential client is interested in knowing if you enjoy/offer a given activity, is there a "best" way to ask?

Some parks are more interesting than others, I guess... A fan of Wile Coyote, I presume...

Interesting topic. I'd like to propose a dissenting viewpoint, however. I think it is possible to get a sense of people from their writing and posts, though of course with exceptions. I'd agree that typically in person you can find out even more about someone, especially after time and multiple interactions. However, in my experience there's many people I've first met through online forums, and more often than not if we meet up in person I absolutely recognize aspects of the persona I pictured from their writing. In fact, in some cases you can learn more about someone from their posts. There's people I know who are very shy and quiet in person, and it can be very difficult to get a sense of their beliefs, preferences, ideas, etc. But they are in fact much more open and confident in their writing, and I learn much more about their thoughts and personality through that medium than I do in person. Sometimes--for good or bad--people are more revealing of their true selves through their writing than they are in person. It is true that people have more choice of what to share of themselves in their posts, but I'd say this is also the case in person as well. Sometimes someone can be a real charmer in person and in fact more easily fool you about their true personality. Again, I'm not suggesting that overall meeting in person is more revealing, and that it takes time to get to know someone better. In many cases the points being made by everyone are true. I just wanted to offer a different perspective for consideration.

Whether you like the song or not, "Call Me Maybe" has got to be the ultimate ear worm song of recent time.

"The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn." I'd say being on the fence and changing your opinion can be a sign of someone who is trying to act rationally, and that being willing to change your mind when new or better evidence/arguments come along is a good thing. In my experience those who tend to have a strong, unchangeable opinion on everything are not so much "strong willed" as stubbornly (annoyingly) fanatical.

I might just be an optimist, but I think it's important to keep in mind that many people may not know the workings of things. I mean, you can set your Facebook profile to private but it doesn't prevent replies. I imagine the unlucky fellow is making the same assumption here. I also suspect in many cases what seems obvious to some of us just simply doesn't occur to others, especially new folk or those that don't spend a lot of time interacting on the board. How many people do you suppose when they were newly signing up figured "oh private profile, yeah that seems fine" and then never gave it a second thought. Or they come just to casually look around and it simply never occurs to them that they may be causing difficulties or missing out by not providing basic information for those visiting them. I've benefited so much from my time on Cerb that I have a much better idea of what the ladies find useful to know, and hope I've gained a better sense of how you run your profession. I think this has helped me tweak my profile and made be more comfortable sharing some information. But I think it's easy to forget how paranoid and unsure most of us were starting out. Patience is probably always going to be needed, but threads like these can be a good thing because they educate people on the benefits (and etiquette) of being at least somewhat open.

Absolutely it's the attitude/personality, no competition. I do look for a physical attraction and there's no denying that will help get me in the door, but how enjoyable the time is and how strong and great the memory of the meeting comes down to personality. If the person is quiet, bored, or distracted it doesn't matter the looks. I mean, if looks were all that mattered then I might as well just be gazing at a picture! But someone who is enthusiastic, confident, comfortable, playful, easy to talk to, engaging...that's what really makes for sparks and memories.

I've always liked how optical illusions look so I find this really cool... The following link shows examples of how simply placing two white lines between gif images can make it 3d without glasses. The effect is pretty impressive I'd say: http://www.wikitree.us/story/2052 What do you think?