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This seemed like an appropriate thread to resurrect to share this. Link below goes to a relatively short (6 minute) entertaining video that seems to me would make a great introduction in sex education for a lot of young people. I don't think there's anything in it that will be news to those of us here, but some may still appreciate how several of the topics are handled, with some serious points made and a few laughs thrown in: http://www.upworthy.com/a-20-something-guy-goes-on-and-on-about-sex-for-6-minutes-nails-it

Wait a minute, I hadn't yet finished typing my congratulations on your 3000 post milestone! Nicely done sir and keep up the contributions!

It's not a habit I've ever gotten into but one thing that worked for a relative that did quit was to keep in mind the benefits of quitting. I don't mean just the general idea of knowing that it's healthier but the specific time frame of when each benefit kicks in. It gave him a milestone to aim for, where he kept telling himself if he could manage to stay off cigarettes until the next benefit he'd be doing well. Once he reached it he'd make the next milestone his goal so that he kept having something solid to shoot for. And so on and so on. Below is one of the image that breaks the timeline down. Whatever you try, good luck!

Someguy, this is the best post! :)

Cause this is thrillerrrr....

Quote: Originally Posted by Canadiansnowland If we agreed on it before hand, I would have still done it... maybe I would have grabbed the Kleenex for appearances, but she would have been using it to clean herself up. bcguy42:Just curious here... If she had agreed to FS but changed her mind when you got there would you "still have done it"? Canadiansnowland: apple and oranges... but to be honest if I had paid her and she cancelled I would ask for the money back, if she didn't return the money I would definitely make life unpleasant. I'm not an ahole, but I know right from wrong. __________________________ Phew, I don't know. There aren't many things in life that I consider a straightforward right or wrong, but I do believe that there is absolutely no circumstance where a person has a right to do something--anything!--sexual to someone else without their permission. To my mind, doesn't matter if a lady was "leading you on", initially gave permission, or even accepted money -- if at any point she says no then, well, then that's that. I'm not saying what happened in this particular case to the OP was fair and that he doesn't have any right to be upset, disappointed, or feel taken advantage of. You might even be able to make an argument that he could have asked for a refund, though that is its own can of worms. I think the way he handled it was probably the best he could have done. If an experience doesn't live up to expectations, the best thing for your mental health is to probably move on and not repeat. Cause even if you had a signed contract in writing on snazzy paper and stamped with the seal of the Queen of England and blessed by the Pope, if a lady at some point says no--whether it's full intercourse or a kiss on the lips--then you stop.

I follow but don't add to this thread as much, but loved something about the playfulness of this shot:

I'm not sure I would agree that every individual has to decide for themselves, but I would say every couple (or polyamourous group) does. It all depends on what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed upon, and where the line is drawn will be different for every relationship. For some couples, having an orgy with strangers may not be cheating if it's been agreed on. Sometimes certain rules or restrictions may be in place. One couple may say it's OK to be intimate with someone as long as both partners are present or have been told. Another might say anything goes except unprotected sex. On the other side, simply going to a exotic dance club, or even regular dancing with another person could be considered cheating if that's the boundary you and your partner established upon entering the relationship. Now, what could count as justifiable reasons for a person to cheat is another topic entirely and I'm certainly not looking to judge anyone here. But if you're doing something at all sexual that you know your partner wouldn't approve of and realistically assumes you've agreed not to do, then it is what it is.

It might be worth considering the demographics in the area. Any guesses we make as to someone's reasons will be an assumption, but if the percentage of Black people in the area is small perhaps the lady is using that as a way to avoid inadvertently being contacted/discovered by friends or relatives.

Sounds like it's a fairly safe bet. But just in case you want a back-up in case she turns out to be allergic or you want to be unique, you could try for a laugh and bring: On second thought, better listen to everyone else.

Very cool illusion (you may have to click to enlarge to see it)

Needfun, I started watching that and I don't know exactly what happened but the next thing I remember, when I finally turned away, it was over an hour later. Magic!

Cerb (and Halifax!) are both so very lucky to have you, Cristy. Congratulations on the milestone.

So I know this time of year people tend to be making resolutions and thinking about how things can be better in the future. But I think it's nice to also take a moment and look back and what good things took place, as no matter how rough a year it may have been overall for some, surely everyone had at least one shining moment! So, what was your happiest moment, proudest accomplishment, or best memory of 2013? For myself, I'm tempted to go with the obvious (but also true) answer of getting to spend some wonderful and memorable time with a couple Cerb ladies. But in an effort to branch out I'll name instead a zip-lining adventure I got to experience (or is "zip-lining" still slang for something sexual?...kinda sounds like it could be but I suppose that's another thread!)