Brad

So...I'm sure most of us have noticed that the option to Facebook "like" something is just about everywhere on the Internet these days. But I have to ask, am I the only one that finds it really odd whenever the "like" option is available under a porn video? I mean, are there really that many people around that watch a clip and think "oh yeah, I just have to share this on my Facebook wall for all my family and friends to see!" I mean, what kind of response would one be expecting? An uncle to comment "hey, that's one of my favourites too!" Or a coworker to say "oh if you like that one you should check this out, it's got gerbils!" What am I missing here?

Now, what works for everyone will of course be different, but I continue to be surprised by the tone of some of the posts that imply porn can surely only take away from the interaction and experience with the lady in the room. Try thinking of it this way... If a lady is wearing sexy lingerie, would you feel that you're distracted by it and worry all your attention would somehow only be on the clothes and not the person? What about drinking wine? Playing sensual music playing in the background? Lighting candles? Would you say that spending a moment savoring the taste, listening to the melody, or watching the flickering glow take your senses away from the lady? I'm guessing instead you are thinking that such things in fact can help enhance the experience, offer a type of connection, or accentuate the lady rather than distract from her. You can look at underwear, drink wine, listen to music, or light candles on your own, but are they not a different experience when shared or made part of an experience? Now, what works for each person will of course be different. Obviously for many the idea of watching something erotic with a partner or just having it play in the background takes away from the experience and mood they wish to have. Let me be clear that I'm not trying to change anyone's mind on what they like or don't like. What I am hoping to suggest here is that you can at least see the other point of view, and recognize how for some the idea can be fun, sexy, and in the right circumstances potentially add to the experience with the lady, not distract from it. That it can work or not work just like any other sensual aid or toy is either enjoyed or not enjoyed depending on the person or the mood.

Body paint fun...

Ahoy there!

As others have said it can depend on skin tone, though really I don't think I've ever seen lingerie I didn't like! There's no bad, just good or more good! That said, I'm actually quite partial to blue.

Congratulations to one of the nicest members of this community! Keep up the great contributions!

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Sometimes I think the brain just goes on auto-pilot! One I did recently was stop at a green light because I was looking ahead to the next intersection which was red. :confused0024: Oh, and a little tip for any cooks out there: don't get cinnamon and nutmeg mixed up. You'll notice the difference. :icon_eek:

Interesting question. I can only speak as someone who would enjoy the experience, I can't say I've had the pleasure yet. That said, I think I'd prefer it to take little effort to achieve the effect. Mostly, this would simply be because you'd be more likely to get to enjoy it again and again! :) On top of that, from what I've read, it seems like it would also be preferable because it would take the pressure off. I'm thinking of the ladies who have said the one thing that is most certain to prevent them from squirting is feeling pressured to do so. So if it's taking a lot of time and effort--despite the fact that the process can still be enjoyable--I'd worry the lady would start feeling stressed or worried knowing that is your goal, and the longer it takes the more distracted and difficult it would become. Not words that should be used to describe sex! So, just like leading a lady to any orgasm, while the process of getting there is indeed much of the fun, the less effort and therefore less pressure, the better to my mind. Besides, one complaint I'm pretty sure no guy has ever uttered is "dammit, she just orgasms too easily!" ;)

I actually think you may give your profession too little credit! Speaking for myself only, had I seen a respectable SP or two when I was much younger, far from being a crutch it probably would have helped give me the confidence, skills, and qualities to sooner and better develop relationships. I'm sure there are younger guys out there with the attitude and culture you describe, but I hope it's not as pervasive as sometimes feared. (though of course your preference is your preference; I'm not suggesting you ought to change your mind on who you see)

I suspect in part it is a case of what can seem obvious to the experienced is simply unknown to the newcomer. How often are such threads answered along the lines of "there's plenty of options and it depends on you"? Just like with the various "best of" threads a lot of people seem to eventually realize that each person is likely to have their own preferences and chemistry. It may also be that this is--perhaps unconsciously--a way for a newcomer to introduce themselves to the board and the community. I remember when I first started I thought I'd never get through my first five posts. It took a while before posting seemed natural and initially I couldn't think of anything to contribute. Since the main thing on a newcomer's mind is the nervousness of who they should see, it perhaps makes sense that it's what someone would post on. I also wonder if it takes a person a while to feel confident in doing their own research and reading the recommendation threads. Perhaps it feels more real and reassuring to have responses specifically directed to them.

Congratulations Chantal on the milestone! Keep the great contributions coming.

Hmm...this thread has been quiet. Let's see, women like looking at recipes, right? ;)

I have to admit that's just about how I picture heaven...

10 points for Slytherin? ;)

Ah yes, you're after "The Zach Morris Effect" :)

Oh fun. Well, being forever young, seduction, and time travel all sound like good choices, but since those have already been picked... I'd be tempted to take healing, as it would be satisfying to be able to cure others, but I imagine once word got around you'd be mobbed by people in need without end. Could end up being more depressing than a blessing. So I'll go with shape-shifting! All kinds of fun possibilities there.

Nice work, sir! Keep them coming.