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Speaking for myself, I'd need to have an vote option where it says recommendations can be one of several factors in my decision to see a lady. Much of what has attracted me to several ladies here are their posts and contributions. A lot of the ladies here have a wonderful history of thoughtful, witty, fun posts that I respect and enjoy. Others will communicate very via pm. For them, whether or not they have recommendations would barely matter to me at all. Some ladies will have a detailed website and profile that can provide a pretty clear sense of her. For them, recommendations would be nice but I wouldn't say mandatory. Still others don't contribute to the forums at all, don't have a website/detailed profile, etc. At that point, recommendations would become a much larger factor. Though honestly, even with recommendations, I can't say I've seen anyone that falls into this category. So basically I'm a believer that there are a number of ways that a lady can catch my interest and make me feel confident about enjoying some time together, and it's the combination of them that is important. So while I do read the recommendations they are to my mind only one possible avenue, and not the most important one at that.

I had the opportunity to spend some wonderful time with MsManda recently. From the moment of her friendly greeting to the goodbye, her friendly and positive attitude really shine through. Energetic and easygoing, she is a beautiful lady with a personality to match, both professional and genuine. The messages back and forth to make arrangements were clear, and conversation in person was also easy and natural. She is truly a talented lady who anyone should consider themselves lucky to meet. Thank you Msmanda for the experience!

Ironsman1, I think I know what you meant, but I suspect it was the use of "she used to be a stunner (almost a perfect 10)" that was the concern. Saying it like that could read that the tragedy is only about her physical looks and sound a bit objectifying (especially with the reference to a rating system). The unintentional implication is that the loss of good looks is a tragedy. Your follow-up comment where you phrase your concern more around her physical well-being as well as her mental/emotional health better gets across what (I think?) you mean. As for your original question, I can't say it's something I've experienced. I've met a few wonderful ladies who I greatly enjoy talking to and could quite easily see myself being friends with outside of this. However, it is not something I actually expect or would presume to push for on my end. There are a few ladies who seem comfortable casually messaging back and forth with me, one of which includes some conversations and exchanges of creative writing which I quite value. I consider myself fortunate to get to enjoy even that level of friendship. But I realize a person can be genuinely friendly but still have professional boundaries, and that someone may consider me their "Cerb friend" but that doesn't mean they are about to invite me out for a beer after work. But who knows, maybe if I throw a Game of Thrones viewing party and offer eggnog and rum I'd be surprised who would show up? :)

Cristy, are you able to see the images on the site but you just can't copy them? Or are the images themselves not visible at all? I'd never heard of "spice comments" but when I go to that page none of the images are showing (instead there is are small icons of a broken page, representing links that aren't working). If that's the case, the problem might be with the site and not on your end. As for re-downloading Adobe, you can usually do that without changing anything in Explorer. You can download the program from here: http://get.adobe.com/flashplayer/ (click the orange "download here" button and then follow the on screen instructions). If a box doesn't pop up giving you the option to save the file, you might have an antivirus stopping it from downloading. But in that case, usually a bar will appear near the top of your browser giving you the option of allowing the pop-up.

Been a while since anything was offered for the ladies, so here's a few pairs of jeans to look at. Um...I said jeans to look at!

Does the harness mean this counts as safe sex?

Love them all, big and small!

Hmm, now here's a position I've never tried:

That made me think of something else: can you imagine if turn-about was fair play and there was an expectation that clients were expected to post their face pictures online too?

What a lady shows in her pictures is her choice--and rightfully so!--and there should be no pressure to show any more (or less) than she likes and is comfortable with. Speaking personally, do I like seeing face pics? Sure. There's so much more expression and personality that can be seen from a face. And how many times do we compliment someone on their eyes or smiles? It's hard not to admire or be drawn to a face. But is not seeing a face picture a deal-breaker? Absolutely not! As has been pointed out, there are simply too many reasons why it is understandable someone would choose not to. Moreover, there are just so many factors--many non-physical I might add--which can attract. Plus, think of the flip side: not seeing someone's face can add an enticing air of mystery. Our imaginations are such that sometimes what you don't see can be as exciting as what you do, and leaving a little unknown appeals to many. So yeah, I guess that could mean it's a win-win. :) In any event, each person has their boundaries and should only do what they are comfortable with.

I'm actually quite happy with people using any term of endearment for me. Even if it is just a habit or reflex (I know a few people--mostly from down south--that call just about everyone "darling" or "sweetie") it's all fine in my books. I try to assume the best possible motives with people, and unless someone's intent is to be insulting, I'm happy. The tone used can make all the difference. In the right context, just about any name can be complimentary. How playful, genuine, friendly, or passionate the name is spoken/written is more important to me than the name itself.

It's interesting how many of the choices come from something seen when younger. Let's see... If you're filling nostalgic and silly, anyone remember the scene in Hot Shots Part Deux? :icon_lol: Ah, back when Charlie Sheen was crazy funny and not just crazy! Jump ahead to the four minute mark for when things get satirically sexy: http://www.metacafe.com/watch/10727813/hot_shots_31_july_1991_usa_missionary_love/ As a more serious pick--though I can't remember much about the actual movie--my teenage self wouldn't forgive me if I didn't offer the Nicolette Scorsese scene in Boxing Helana. Four minutes of pretty intense film, and a nice choice of music to go with the scene: http://www.dalealplay.com/informaciondecontenido.php?con=290704

Beam me up!

Please do, the question is for everyone and it's always good to get all perspectives.

This is a question for everyone. I'm curious at what point in the process of arranging an encounter are your nerves most on edge? Though perhaps 'anticipatory' or 'expectant' would be a better word. Basically, when does your heart start to beat just a little bit faster? For me, it's actually the wait after I send an initial email/pm that gives me a bit of the jitters. I spend what is probably a silly amount of time writing, rewriting, editing, deleting, going for a walk, and then writing again that first message. And I still end up wondering if I didn't include enough information. Or perhaps too much! Or inadvertently said something inappropriate. I still find myself holding my breath a moment each time I check my messages to see if there's been a reply. And my pulse never fails to pick up when one does arrive!