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I'd agree with you, Cristy. Especially for a first meeting, I'm more comfortable if the Lady takes the initiative. The way I see it I can't accidentally go past her boundaries, or initiate an activity or pace she might not prefer. Which isn't to say I want to stand quietly being directed step by step, just that initially any requests I make will tend to be diffidently spoken--suggestions, not orders; and I'm likely to test the waters so to speak with different activities. You can usually then tell from the Lady's reaction if it's something she enjoys or if you need to slow down or try something else. Does a light spank get a happy wiggle and a moan or...quiet. If I lightly grab your hair do you speed up or pull back. I'm more willing to take the lead with a Lady who is open and willing to share feedback about her preferences and what isn't working, what is working, and what is *really* working! I imagine I'd also be more willing to take the lead if it was an SP I'd already seen, and so have a sense of her likes and preferences. Once I feel I know the pacing, moves, and touch she prefers, taking the lead would come more naturally. There's no fear any longer of making a misstep. There is another reason though why I imagine many like it when the SP takes the initiative. It's about feeling desired. When the other person makes the first moves, takes things to another level, asks for more--it makes you feel like they want you and you excite them. It makes you feel sexy. And who, after all, doesn't like the sensation that you turn someone on?

I'd say I'm fairly comfortable, especially online, either on the forum or private message. I like having some time to phrase my thoughts and try to find a nice turn of phrase (not that I always succeed mind you...and it doesn't explain all my typos!) I'm also comfortable in person, and quite like the conversation aspect of a encounter. As for a social, I like the idea of it and suspect it would be a blast, but like CdnTraveller I don't think I'd attend one in Halifax. I love my city and province, but it's not quite big enough to offer the anonymity I'd prefer heading in and out. Now, where I am quite nervous is on the phone! Face to face I can usually string a decent sentence together (though admittedly sometimes I have to wait for my jaw to come back off the floor--there are some very beautiful ladies in our midst!) but for some reason I never feel like I quite know what to say when I make a phone call. I usually prefer to chat as much over private message as possible, so that there's less that needs to be discussed over the phone before the in person conversation can start.

There are definitely some talented writers here. And while as with most things everyone is going to have different preferences in styles, I have to give kudos to CristyCurves. If she ever writes an erotica novel, I'll be first in line!

I've been lucky enough to be told that my natural smell is nice, but even so I would never think to head to an encounter without showering and fresh deodorant right before. After all, just because one person likes the way I smell pre-morning shower doesn't mean everyone else will, whereas I don't think anyone has ever complained about someone smelling clean! To answer the original question, I think the problem may be that people mistakenly assume that if they can't smell themselves, then no one else can either (this tendency also can result in the reverse problem, where people apply scents until they are obvious to themselves. I've taught in public schools where every male was doused in Axe body spray so I feel I can say I speak truth!).

Congrats! Always enjoy reading your posts.

What a pain to have to deal with. If blocking the email hasn't worked, you might want to try marking them as spam: Alternatively, you could try creating a filter, where you create a rule so that whenever an email from a certain address comes in it goes to a spot you assign it (presumably the trash can!): To use a particular message to create a filter Select the message in your message list. Click the More button, then Filter messages like these. Enter your filter criteria in the appropriate field(s).

Now I like bacon as much--nay, more!--than the next person, but I don't know about some of these... Now this one on the other hand I can get behind...

I got halfway through the formula before getting so distracted by some of the list items that I had to stop and go have sex in a tree with two women, a vibrator, a bottle of chocolate syrup, and three balloons. I guess I'll never know if I'm a sex addict. :frown:

Well I was petting my cat, but whether I'm screwed or saved depends on his mood. I'd say it's an equal chance whether he would single-handedly (paw-edly?) hunt down all the zombies himself, join up with them and eat me, or just nap through the whole apocalypse.

How about a little fun confession time? Everyone growing up has had at least one crush on a celebrity. So fess up! Bonus points if it's someone embarrassing in hindsight! :wink: Feel free to add in your current celebrity crush too. I'll start... Well, if I go back far enough I guess I'd be naming She-Ra but since cartoons probably don't count, I suppose the first I can recall would be the Wonder Years' Winnie Cooper. I'll also admit that several of my early teenage years were spent looking forward to the next episode of Xena (though which character I had the biggest crush on is up for debate...someone tell me I wasn't the only Callisto fan out there!). As for my current celebrity (non-Cerb) crush...Christina Hendricks (and not just because her name fits this unintended C-word alliteration thing I seem to have going). Your turn!

Not a topic I'd have given much thought to, but it's actually quite interesting when you bring it up (no pun intended!...OK, maybe a bit intended). For me--after I remember how to breath again and grab a shower--my impulse is to get dressed quickly, offer my sincere thanks, and politely exit. Certainly not because I'm anxious to leave, however, but only because I wouldn't want to keep the Lady from the rest of her day. I try to be mindful of the agreed upon time and don't want to seem like I'm taking advantage or risk putting someone in a position that they need to give me a hint that it's time to go. Not to mention that by then my brain is also usually still floating happily in the clouds rather than ensuring my conversation skills know how to string a verb and noun together. So for me if a Lady helped me dress, and continued to flirt and add the occasional stray touch during the process, I would be highly flattered and reassured (and yes, most likely turned-on) . It would certainly add one more layer of sexiness leading up to the good bye and another smile to the memory.

So did anyone ever notice this particular habit of Riker's when watching the show...

How I look being suave with the Ladies... :icon_wink:

It's so hard to narrow it down (though fun trying)! Forced to choose, I'd say when a woman slips her tongue between my lips while kissing. :makeout:

Real name: Schlomo Gasper (no doubt from a long proud line of Gasper's...) Cerb name: Ron Pantsmaster, Esq. It's a good thing the "Esq." is there to make it refined!

I don't want to speak for anyone here, but I don't think there's as much disagreement here as it may seem. Emily, no one would deny that everyone has the right to express their opinion, and you've a lot of wisdom to offer. And yet Cristy's original question is a fair and well meaning one, I would say. I'm quite new to posting here myself, and before I made my first one I read through much of the "new to this" section. As you suggest, it was very helpful and probably saved me from a few missteps. But there is a *lot* of information in there, and it can be easy to miss things. And things are more confused when you do indeed see many other threads asking for opinions. It may not be easy to know where the line is drawn, or at least how to best phrase questions (and answers) so that no unintended offense is given. Again, I'm new, but one of the things I appreciate about CERB is how helpful people are to clarify and gently nudge one in the right direction when needed. And of course things are made even more difficult when expressing thoughts in writing, where tone can be hard to convey. I do think we can all agree that no one in the discussion has intended offense. Virtual hugs to everyone (as an aside, I give the *best* virtual hugs :redface:)

Any that study their history will know that Spring is the traditional starting time of war, and at my house it is no different, for it is this season when the enemy first begins to rear its yellow head. I am of course talking about dandelions. The weed is my eternal nemesis and I'm sure like other springs this one hall be witness to an epic battle (just wait for the Hollywood movie!) Actually, Old Dog's Patio Champagne room sounds more fun...

Since Superman already has his fans and because I'm pretty much the only one who likes the character, I'll give a nod to Cyclops of X-men. That said, after seeing PassionVitto's version of Wonder Woman I suspect she could probably use the Lasso of Truth to change my vote...

I can't deny looks, especially initially, make some difference. Part of the fantasy is getting to spend time with someone I find head-over-heels attractive. That said, there are so many attributes I find attractive that just about every woman has at least something sexy and attractive about them. And there's truly no denying that--after the initial impression--it's the personality that determines whether that initial attraction fades or goes through the roof. It's another thing I appreciate about this site. Yes, there's no shortage of beauty to be found hereabouts, but how many of you haven't found some of the Ladies even more desirable and admirable after talking to them or reading their opinions?

I don't know that I could name one of his films over the others in this regard, but I have to say one of Quentin Tarantino's biggest strengths is the music picks he includes in his movies. I also have to give a nod to Ravenous. The movie would not have been the same without that music; gives me chills! I'll second your nomination of Last of the Mohicans, and also offer up A Fistfull of Dollars, some of the Lord of the Rings tracks, and--why not?--even the bagpipes in Braveheart when I'm feeling like channeling my inner Scot (Ladies like a man in a kilt, right?)

Very touching video. I thought of it when I came across this one today which reminded me that--happily--there are stories on the other side of spectrum as well, and that our ability to be cruel is often exceeded by our capacity to help: http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=6z_LZWk34xI

Almost forgot about this one, an all-time fav: And while looking for the one above, I stumbled across this for the first time. Any gamers out there are sure to get a laugh: (it's a compilation of commercials but the link should jump you to the correct spot.)

Do you have a really heavy (flat bottomed) piece of furniture to move? Just lift up one end enough to slip a couple balls under it and then you can simply roll the object along on top of them. If you're moving a fair distance just use enough balls that as some come out behind you can keep moving them back in front. (Just to be safe, let me clarify I too am talking base/golf/tennis-type balls here...).

I think having a website or at least web presence is very helpful, and definitely a point in favour. They often give you a much better sense of the Lady, her personality and perhaps some of her likes and dislikes. I realize I'm not going to be the best friend of any Lady I contact, but I also prefer feeling like I'm not contacting a complete stranger who I know nothing about. I'd say it's also helpful because such websites tend to answer a lot of the common questions someone might have, which saves everyone's time.