j-theperson

Wow, thanks so much for the great feedback, info and advice. I'll be much more relaxed about it in the future. I'm really glad the board exists to help newbies out!

I've had only one session with a provider, and let's be clear that I don't know what I'm doing. ;-) I was really conscious of the time, because I had an idea of how I wanted things to go and didn't want to get rushed at the end. I was nervous, but it was fun and she was super-nice. Having the time limit is a bit of a drag though. Anyway, we're all done, at the end of the agreed-upon time and my thoughts are, "Well, time get out of here before some other guy is due to arrive." I'm dressed and basically set to go. She's still naked. Then she asks if I watched last night's hockey game. I hadn't, and neither had she. It was just an attempt at small talk I guess. I thought she was just trying to end the encounter in a friendly way and I responded in kind - a short exchange and I'm on my way. Remember that I assume she wants me out the door at our time limit, and I definitely didn't want her to be anxious for me to leave. I tried to respect the agreed-upon time. So now I'm wondering if I was so focused on the time that I missed that she was just looking to hang out and chat. I probably gave the impression that I was in a big hurry to leave. Maybe she had nothing scheduled after (it was the middle of the day) and she was bored and alone in a city she's not all that familiar with. Maybe the whole encounter could have been more relaxed if I had been following her cues. What do you think? How do SPs get clients to leave on time, when they want them to? And how do clients know when it's OK to stay a bit longer? Thanks! J

Yeah was hoping to see Runa too...hopefully she'll be back soon!