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Yep, the more I look around the site the more great information I find.

That was my thought process. I know it's still cheating but I believe having an affair is worse. With an affair you are cheating with your heart and body and I don't want that. Sometimes I feel like I am distorting logic to get what I want. Does that make sense?

Hi roamingguy, I do live in the US but I live very close to Canada and would travel. I would never try it here because of the legal factor. Thank you for looking out for me though.

First of all, thank you all for all of the great advice. I am really glad to have a place to ask the questions on my mind without worrying about being judged. My thoughts on this were that love and sex can be intertwined at times and other times sex is just sex. That is what I'm looking for, a great sexual experience. An experience where I can treat myself and forget about all of life's daily stressors. Like I said, I'm not looking for love. In my mind all of this made sense but I was still hesitant an a little nervous and wasn't sure why. Miss Sophia, thank you very much for the female's perspective. I will continue to be a husband to my SO. I'm wondering if it will make me better because I won't have those lingering urges which may interfere with our relationship. Thank you again Contraman and bcguy42 for sharing your experience and advice also.

Hello all, I am interested in seeing a SP but I am a bit apprehensive about it. I am married and love my wife and I am looking for a different sexual experience and not a new romance. Is it possible to keep those seperated? I'm not worried about getting caught, I am just worried about trying to rationalize it. How do others deal with this and am I making too big of a deal out of it? Thank you very much for your help.