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Ugh, I certainly hope that was very awkwardly and poorly expressed rather than blatant racism; equating pimps and violence to women of colour. What the OP says is true, I once had trouble meeting up with my preferred dancer, who happened to be black, at a club and she explained she was having trouble getting shifts because they already had too many black girls at my preferred club. It's sad and ignorant that this practice continues.

To clarify, can I ask for opinions and request a pm reply, or is the public request alone out of bounds? Thanks!

If I am interested in learning more about someone on the DNR list, is it appropriate to ask for feedback via pm or is it improper to ask at all? Thanks!

I'll weigh in on this one, since this is right in my wheelhouse. You have received very different advice and both options (hosted, self-hosted) have pros and cons. The determining factor will be your level of knowledge in the area. Regardless, you should treat whichever path you choose professionally. You should never blindly trust someone because they 'know something about websites'. You are placing a lot of information and power in the hands of your web guy if you provide them with the main login to your accounts. I see people and businesses blindly passing around their account credentials to developers and have lost access to and control of their sites, either because the developer hijacked their site or disapeared along with the keys to your web kingdom. If you are just starting up and don't have a connection with a trusted web developer (and no, it should not be a client) you should probably follow Kate Von Katz's advice an go with something like Wix. You will have complete control, you will not give up access to someone who could invade the privacy of you and your clients and Wix is responsible for basic site security. If you had a technical background, wordpress would be a great option, but wordpress sites draw particular attention from malicious bots. This isn't a problem if you know how to secure and protect a site, including immediately updating wordpress and plugins when updates are released, but if you don't, do yourself and your clients a favour and don't pretend to be a web developer. I see plenty of professionally trained and experienced web developers who are woefully inadequate, let alone people who have no training and experience. The web development field is no longer a DIY place, unless you're highly trained or using a fully hosted solution; and stay within the confines of their interface.

Was it late afternoon? I was there early afternoon and did not see Isabelle.

Totally agree. There is nothing sexier than a teasing handjob. Very overlooked.

Agreed that Vegas is gorgeous but not a spinner. To simplify, I understand spinner to mean very pettite. Vegas has curves everywhere you want them and is lean. All labels aside, She is strikingly beautiful.

Interesting perspectives. I'll throw in my 2 cents on two different issues: CR dances: My view is that anyone who visits a strip club should be prepared to take at least a few dances. As pointed out, the ladies pay to be there and aren't compensated for the stage. If you enjoy the stage, it's only fair to compensate at least one of the ladies with dances. It's just the right thing to do. The who and when is purely up to you. Declining an invitation: while I find a polite 'I'm waiting for someone - thank you' is best, you will sometimes, though rarely, get a followup asking who. Often it is sincere and well intended, other times confrontational. Overall, be polite and respectful and dancers will typically be graceful.

The flip side to all of this is that some will prefer providers who don't offer bbbj. I respect boundaries and safety. You lose some, you gain some - so long as you are comfortable with your decision.

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No doubt this will vary greatly from person to person. For me, the key factor is how it's delivered. It has to be authentic. Fake performance dirty talk is actually a turn off for me. Alternatively, if genuine, even things that aren't otherwise arousing for me can become insanely hot in the moment. Not a helpful answer but to me dirty talk is highly specific to the chemistry you have with your partner.

Isn't Netflix addictive? I love documentaries; inspiring, demoralizing, thought provoking, humorous - reality really is more powerful than fiction.

Cristycurves - withholding the personal information you indicated above is certainly reasonable and expected. I think virtually all sensible people would understand and view it as a pragmatic security/safety issue. Sounds like you are genuine and honest in the ways that matter. Something many appreciate.

To clarify my earlier comment, when I refer to honesty I suppose the more accurate way of framing it is that I appreciate someone being genuine and real.... To a degree. I don't need or want to know your real name initially. If a level of trust is reached then I would be flattered but its not important. Your name, birth date or any other personally identifiable information is rightly yours and none of my business. The honesty pertains to who you are as a person. I'm attracted to a person as a whole, not just a set of attributes or menu items. Chemistry is important and true chemistry requires a level of authenticity and human connection, at least that is my opinion. Genuine, authentic and honest. Let me know who you are as a person. What you like. How you think. What you believe. Just don't tell me everything and certainly not right away

Honesty is generally appreciated. Getting to know someone on a personal level is pretty important to deepen my attraction. Intelligence, humour, kindness are just some of the very attractive qualities that can be revealed to heighten a connection. Drama and negativity should not be shared and are certainly turnoffs.

Greed ;) I'm a giver so that sounds like a lot of work!

I almost always go for a block of time. Counting songs should be very difficult if you have good chemistry with a dancer. Time eliminates hard feelings over song counts that don't reconcile, and djs who short shift songs. My objective is for a better overall experience rather than to get a deal but I have had dancers offer a deal on extended visits

I recently had the pleasure of an extended visit with Kiki and she is breathtaking. Beautiful face/eyes, stunning body and sensual persona. Incredibly hot dances within the rules. I hope to see her again.

In my limited time here I don't see the hourly rate as a reflection of services provided. In fact, I've read a number of posts regarding 'only' service - which appears to validate the notion that hobbyists pay for the time, not a more advanced menu of services. It appears the general rules of economics also apply to this world - supply and demand is likely the bigger factor. If an SP has limited availability due to a strong regular client base and/or other demands that force a limited schedule, then she will have less available time. This will likely lead to both higher rates and more restricted services. Just an observation from a novice.

Troi! Christmas Carols - Bing Crosby or Nat King Cole? For me, Nat King Cole - especially since it turns out Bing was a real douche.

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Are you calling Cinderella, Poison & Ratt tacky!??! <gasp> Don't make me bust out Dokken :) <cranking my 80's Hair Metal playlist> Did I just out myself? <crawling back into the tacky closet>

I am new to the hobby, so I haven't met anyone. That gives me a pretty big pool to draw from :) Overall, I have to say that many of the ladies demonstrate impressive intelligence and class. If I had to choose someone I'd like to meet for each category based on my impressions so far: 1. Local: Georgiana Sweet 2. Non-Local: Kylie Daniels 3. Outside cerb: no idea... haven't made it through cerb yet.

Ahhhhh.. solipsism. I wrote a university paper on solipsism back in the day. Who knew it would assist in following a cerb thread? While its impossible to disprove Solipsism, the prospect that one exists purely or substantially within the confines of one's own mind isn't really a very meaningful proposition. If all you can truly know is your own senses and perceptions and you contend that those senses and perceptions might not be authentic.... well.... its fun and all, but what are you really going to do with a belief system like that? Though we ARE forgetting the first rule of Epistemology Club.... Don't talk about Epistemology Club