Midnite-Energies

Love IS acceptance. If you have someone who says they love you but the can't accept you for who you are and constantly want to change you, that is not love. Llove is not conditional on meetings someone else's expectations. You can be happy without someone else's acceptance as long as you have your own IMO. Spending your time chasing after someone else's is just a waste of time and energy and never really makes you happy in the end because their conditional love may change conditions. Happy comes from within. It is important to focus on what you have versus what you don't have because with one you can be content and happy while the other is always chasing something elusive. There are very few people who achieve complete happiness but the right perspective can give you day to day joy.

Reading the comments is SO frustrating. Such ignorance and these are the people influencing the laws the government makes. We don't pay taxes, we're diseased, even if we're in by choice it's because the demons won or because we're poor and destitute or have a drug habit. We're out to desecrate people and relationships, I mean *ARGH*. So frustrating. Let's hope the Supreme Court is still on the ball as I have no faith in the government or the voices being heard over those of sex workers. Would have been nice to see a comment or two from them.

I don't believe we can live without love. Love comes in so many forms, not just human entanglements. There is romantic love, familial love, love for a pet or a career or a cause one is passionate about. Love is a central need that we, as humans, have. Even those who never had a relationship or sexual relations have probably still felt the need and lure of love, just in a different way than most people perceive it. One of the greatest of these is self love. Very few people would look at this as love or a fundamental need but when it's not present, everything around is impacted. Self love impacts esteem, acceptance, overcoming fear to take on new challenges, to go after what we're passionate about no matter what it is. Babies, disabled, mentally challenged etc all have needs of love, they just look different and sometimes it takes a different perspective or a lot of searching. This, I believe, is ingrained because these people must rely on others for so many things. It is not a choice, it is a fundamental need. There have been so many studies done on behavior and learning and in most of these, there is a thread of love and connection. Love is such an expansive concept that to touch on even half the aspects would require a much longer post than anyone would care to read. Bottom line is, I believe no matter what form it takes, it is a need and one that everyone has. It's when this need is denied that life is negatively impacted and the side effects come out. There are so many stories based around people not having something important in their life or losing it or fearing it. No matter the topic, I believe a lot boils down to lack of love in some form or another.

Have an amazing birthday. Full of smiles, love and things that make you happy!

I think that media and advertising plays as big a role as it always has. We are force fed certain standards every day and sometimes, whether we want it to or not, it sinks into our thought patterns and we slowly start thinking a different way. It takes effort to think your own thoughts in this electronic age. Not only that but I think when we're young, we view older in REALLY skewed ways so when we GET to older, we remember those comments. On top of that because we're human, our bodies start doing things they never did before and behaving differently and looking differently. At that point, many people have to deal with the whole ego shift and it can be a hard effort that weakens us to all the stuff we're inundated with. It's then that we think, maybe it IS better or if I had that I would be better. PS. In regard to Mrrnice's comments, there seems to be a gender specific thing I see a lot where woman are more accepting or maturity and aging in men then men are in woman. As always, there are exceptions, this is just a trend I have personally seen and experienced. There are so many facets to beauty, sex, aging, youth and they all have impact. I would love to see the real goal be to see beauty and sexy in everyone regardless of age, sex, race etc. It is a real gift and I'm very thankful to be blessed with it. Sexy to me is more than an outward appearance. It's personality, playfulness, the curve of a body that's normally hidden, the twinkle in an eye, the teasing smile or deepness of a laugh. NO, there is no age limit on sexy or beautiful, there is sometimes an age limit on mental ability to be accepting and open. I hope never to find that one! In response to Mrrnice...I do believe there is a gender issue, and I comment from personal experience and observation, that women are more accepting of maturity and aging in men then men are in woman. Always exceptions of course.

I dislike being put between a rock and a hard place. If I ask you questions or for info and you answer me yet ignore my direct questions then I have to choose between wasting my time on someone who I feel didn't respect me enough to answer my questions and then repeat them...sometimes more than twice or I ignore them and risk being spoken of negatively behind the scenes. I don't like being put in that position.

I have a weird sense of humor... http://fav.4rnet.com/post/86686792669/sigh

First off, let me say that anyone who finds them self in a B&S situation or a fake advertisement or whatever, has no obligation whatsoever to compensate the individual. When it comes to this, I think I missed in the thread where someone said to compensate. I'm not sure what to say about your thoughts on actually asking to be compensated without sounding rude. In my knowledge, many situations of this sort actually involve other people who attempt to intimidate, bully, threaten etc. and the only thought at that point should be your safety. Be thankful you were able to step away from the situation intact; there have been others who have had their money stolen. In the other situations, if they are willing to go to those extremes, you are potentially looking at an elevation of the situation. If someone is willing to B&S you, who's to say they won't also scream, make accusations, get others involved etc? I'm not sure asking for compensation is the safest bet. There are avenues of disrupting, preventing and warning that can be followed afterwards but again, your safety should be paramount. A couple of the posters alluded to issues but didn't specifically state the issue. If it's a case of the pictures and advertising being real but the reality in person did not meet expectations, that is when compensation might come into play. By that I mean, if most of my pics are face or breast pics but I say I am a BBW and you show up expecting a spinner, I advertised truthfully but the expectation was incorrect. In that situation, yes, it would be a good gesture. If the person is using old pics, wrongfully advertising, or even is not well presented, that would be up to the client in question. Personally, because I believe in honesty, I would not. If it's a matter of her looking like your best friend or there are kids in the hotel corridor or other personally upsetting little things, then yes, compensation would be a nice gesture. Much of this is personal and what you would or would not feel comfortable doing. You might be comfortable with a confrontation to demand compensation at a B&S while many others would be happy to just get out of there intact, hopefully with money in hand. This is one of the great things about CERB, you have the ability to read posts, read recos, see info on B&S and fakes and talk to other hobbyists. Like anything else, it's important you do your research and think about what you see/read. This is like any other industry that involves people, you have both good and bad and have to determine what works for your own personal comfort. Beyond that, welcome and good luck with finding who and what you're seeking.

Congratulations on your milestone. You have been a definitive voice in the community, sharing your experiences, supporting the ladies and occasionally throwing in a dirty comment or two. I have enjoyed reading your posts and look forward to more!

Mmmmmm Greek! Bring on my toga! I love it and have for a very long time. For me, it's about a good lube and guiding the initial approach. Of course, it's also about being relaxed. If you're not relaxed, it is definitely much more difficult to accomplish and not as pleasurable. If it's something that you've had bad experiences with (as a woman), my recommendation is toys, varying sizes. Learn your own body and reactions and then you'll be much more open and comfortable with the exploration of a partner. There are times I crave it and times that a little tease and penetration with fingers makes everything else feel so much better and more intense. It is a very intense pleasurable experience and I indulge whenever I can. Like anything else, it's a personal thing. Love it, hate it, tolerate it, feelings about it are as individual as people. I do believe that there are many people who would probably love it but their experiences haven't been good because of having a partner ignorant of what they're doing. I also whole heartedly believe that men should at least solo sample this as well. The ass has so many amazing nerve endings that not exploring it because of whatever per-conceived notion they have about it, is a shame. In closing....I love me some butt!

I'll miss you. I'm sorry you were feeling outside it all, you were a wonderful and unique person and I always viewed you as a great part of things. Good luck with everything!

My breasts are big and natural. They have hang, are sensitive and fun to play with (I know because I do). If some exclude me because they're not perky and whatever... to each their own. My breasts are fair game to those who see their value.

I am both sad at the many things that are bandied about in the media from ignorant and hurt people while I am also thankful for the may blessing that enter my life. Mementos are all about the focus!

Honestly, I don't pay much attention to married or single, for me, it's about the PERSON who shows up at my door and what energy they bring into my oasis. Everyone has a reason for seeing an SP, something is needed or wanted. Single or married, I care about the person that shows up and their story. Everything else is part of the connection story and is written as life progresses. I appreciate the time and energy given to me, the pleasure and enjoyment, the energy. To me, it's not about the label, it's about the person.

Good Morning! This is probably a post best placed in the discussion section for the city you're from. The way it is now, no one has any idea "which" jewel you're asking about and you won't get much feedback. Good luck in your search.

Happy Weekend All and what better way to enjoy some of it then to spend some time in my dirty mind. Whether you like a little or a lot, there is always something to entice. Enjoy http://midnitemassage.tumblr.com/

Happy Birthday beautiful lady. May your day be filled with smiles and pleasures and be the first of the next best part of your life!

Same Thread and discussion going on here http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=176118

I will be honest with you, YES, there are still many stigmas attached to both sides of this industry which is why most people are very discerning about who they tell about either being a client or an SP. There are still so many people who have no idea about this industry or who is involved in it making judgements every day based on what they were told or past stigmas. much of that isn't true but there are some minds you can't change. I will say this, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to indulge in this industry for whatever reason. It has been proven that sex is a need and is one of the things the human brain craves along with water, sleep and food. Everyone has a different reason for being here and all are legitimate and worthwhile. This is why CERB is such a great place because all the stigmas are left to those outside and we are a like minded community supporting one another in the pursuit of whatever we need. SP's support clients just as clients support SP's...they also support one another client to client and SP to SP. Within this industry, you are free to explore and enjoy without stigma. Outside the industry there are still many stigmas that many work daily to alter, fix or change, promoting sex worker and client rights, liberties and safeties. If you are concerned about stigmas, indulge carefully, wisely and be discreet. This is your choice therefore it is good for you. Share it with those who will also see it that way not with those who will judge you....unless of course you want to pick up the gauntlet for the industry. Good luck!

Have a pleasure filled day that includes everything that makes you smile and drool! Enjoy!

When you are paying for an intimate encounter that involves sharing both your and someone elses' body, you are in fact negotiating and haggling over the value of a PERSON which is not the same as haggling a better price on an air conditioner or lawn rake. Inanimate objects bought and sold have a cost associated and most have mark up's. This is not the same as a person who is taking the time to clean and straighten, shower, do hair and make up, chose clothing and give the best experience possible. Never reduce a person to an inanimate object. Buy a blow up doll or fleshlight instead if that is the value you have for another person, including yourself.

I was reading another thread in which the comment was made that the gentleman booked an appointment, arrived and while the SP was the lady in the pictures, they were taken in a way that "left out" certain aspects. Now my first comment is that every SP, no matter who they are, takes pictures in a way that plays up their best features and downplays others. Honestly, we as people have a good side and a bad side and features that look better certain ways. When a picture is presented, it is to entice people to delve deeper into the "who" and stir the senses to the point of wanting to meet. I'll use myself as an example, I advertise as a voluptuous woman, a BBW, rubenesque etc. I use those terms consistently and throughout. When it comes to my pictures, I focus more on my face than other areas because I believe the face is very expressive of both inner and outer nature (where in many cases it's the body that is the focus and not the face). Would this be viewed as misleading because you don't see the whole package even though the body type is very much presented? Or is it that perhaps with all the labels bandied about that BBW, Curvy, voluptuous etc. have a certain mental image and reality can sometimes be outside this? This is just an aspect I hadn't thought of and would like insight from those who are showing up at doors unknown about what constitutes "misleading"

I believe a lot of the "nice guys finish last" stigma comes from women who have things to repair within themselves. People generally go after the person who they believe is the best for them at any given point in time. If you have esteem issues or something unresolved you may gravitate towards the person who can provide what you believe you deserve. As you realize and come to terms with what's inside, those who you are attracted to generally become better people with more right than wrong. Unfortunately confident people with much goodness inside tend to see the good in others whether they can see it themselves. This is sometimes where the "saving" trend comes in. Unfortunately you cannot help or save someone who doesn't want to be helped or doesn't recognize it within. As for the other, I think people should cum when it feels good and natural for them not at any given point in time. Why put pressure on when or who or how...just do it!