Midnite-Energies

I love that last connection before someone leaves especially as I genuinely enjoy (and will miss) many who grace my door. This is something I always feel the urge to do however with new clients (and some repeats) I will let them make that move as I have encountered those that prefer to just "go". As long as they leave happy, I'm happy but I do miss the final hug and kiss when it doesn't happen. In some cases you never know if it might be the last time. Life happens.

There are so many ways to deal with this that you really do have to find what works for you and for the lady you're with. If this is a personal issue to want to deal with in life, there are many ways to "train" yourself. The best technique for you is the one that works as we all have our own ways of learning. Thought control, edging, cock rings all help with that. If it's just with an SP, we are here for you, talk to us even if it is first contact. This is what we're here for, to make your experience the best for you. Maybe some close contact with a HJ or BJ is in order shortly after you arrive so that you can then relax and enjoy the rest of your time. Maybe you need some conversation to calm down. Or maybe you just let her know and then enjoy who you are and what happens. Not knowing the extent of the situation or the details this is all I can offer. Everything is personal to you and what works for you and makes you feel comfortable. As has been mentioned, many offer MSOG, ask or research. Most of all, enjoy!

I think some of it also comes from one gentleman believing they might have a better outcome with the lady in question so wanting to determine the issue to see if this may be the case. IE: maybe it was a chemistry issue and I'll be more compatible. For the number of times I've seen gentlemen want more details on a "no comment" lady, they can't all be that gossipy....can they? I think a safe assumption is that when a gentleman says "no comment" or anything related to something not to be stated out loud on this board, unless it's specifically stated "PM me for details", accept that it's not positive, the person in question would rather not talk about it and if you still want to sample, it's on you.

Welcome! It's all a bit overwhelming when you begin as there is so much goodness crammed in here but you'll be sailing smoothly in no time. Enjoy and good luck with whatever you seek!!

I'm a Beaver or a Dolphin. A couple of the questions had answers I would say equally so i took it twice. lol

OMG Brad, you made me howl and then I thought of Old Dog and how he'd probably be howling louder and longer. And the 1oth Doctor gif fit SO perfectly. You Sir, are priceless! *muah*

I have only seen one local gentleman advertising this service and he is registered so unsure as to whether he does anything. I wondered due to the places he advertises if he might. He also will come to your home or host depending on your interest. I should ask him, this might be a good place for him if he does more.

The question I really dislike is "how's business?". How do you even answer that? I'm an honest upfront person and that one throws me off every time. Each answer has it's own downfall. As for a short notice evening booking, just be polite and respectful. IE: Hi "so and so" I know it's short notice but I was wondering if you might be available this evening for an hour at 11pm. The rest would depend on whether she knew you and specific things she would want to know. Know what she requests and have it ready. IE: do you want GFE, PSE or something else. Just don't try the "hey, are you available" routine. I would never offer something I didn't enjoy. This is about shared pleasure which means we should also share the enjoyment. There are many things I like or would explore that aren't listed on my site due to lack of equipment, being limited to someone I trust or something I haven't explored enough to be able to offer it as something I offer. Most responses from gentlemen state they want a lady to control the flow so my thought is I need to be well versed. If someone brings it up that I'm seeing and we explore together, that's different. PS...I like dick pics, at least after the initial meeting and that had a little effort put in to taking them.

@ A1B2C3D4E5 It sounds like you already have the high points of being a great client covered. The things after that I say are specific to you and your provider. There is a laundry list of things you an do to be a good client but to be a great client, you need to be on for your specific SP. We are all individuals and have likes and dislikes, things that excited us and turn us on and people we connect with. To be a great client, you need to develop a relationship within the boundaries and learn her as she will learn you. Great clients are not born, they are created with time and attention. I for one love both my regulars and meeting new people. Both create excitement, energy and possibilities. There is always the potential to build and I love that aspect with both. I think a regular client is anyone you see regularly but that is "their" regular. It could be weekly, bi weekly, monthly, every few months etc. It's a consistent thing. Personally I love two hour sessions as it allows that extra time to snuggle, talk, laugh or explore. These sessions say that you enjoy the person you're with. Shorter are still great especially in this world of "busy". I love maintaining a connection with people whether just to say hi, acknowledge a birthday or a holiday so when someone thinks of me, it is definitely smile worthy. I always like to acknowledge someone after our first meeting as everyone provides me something to smile about. I follow the lead of the other person though, if they don't go for that sort of thing or don't want it, then I don't do it and I don't expect it. It's difficult sometimes when you just want to say hello when many times it's taken as a play for business.

I wish you all the happiness in the world, wherever you find it. I have very much enjoyed your voice on CERB and will miss it but follow your instincts where they lead for they won't betray you! *muah*

@Rob369 as Emma said, you can always engage in some conversations with the person you're interested in prior to meeting to determine if they are open to what you're looking for. This is also a great time for post reading as well, especially the ones involving topics that are more affectionate or sensual in nature ie: kissing, touch, cuddling, playfulness etc. This will give you a deeper understanding of the person you wish to see. Websites, blogs etc. are also great indicators. It may take a little effort but your pleasure is worth it for finding someone who can give you what you want and need! When it comes to a partner wanting to indulge in the hobby, I have to say it would depend on the circumstances. Trust is definitely needed as is communication. If they are interested in pursuing this because they are not feeling loved or valued, than that is something that needs to be dealt with and not ignored because it can lead to many issues. If it is simply a matter of variety, interest or treat, as long as there has been open communication about things, then certainly. Indulging together can also be a great experience to deepen the relationship and keep the fires burning. I have had clients bring me a thoughtful gift or write just to say they were thinking of me. It's the simple things that mean the most to me. I am myself in what I do so anything genuine makes me smile. I care about people and it's nice to have that returned.

This is quite the accomplishment in a short period plus you have the boys enjoying. Congrats and keep up the great posts!

I agree with Empty83. Beauty is all inside to me. Looks are on the outside but don't make someone beautiful. Someone who can find the positive in any situation or look at someone or something and see the beauty and worth especially when others look at see "less than". Someone who raises others up and does not tear them down, laughs at the joy they see in life even if it's for their own pleasure. Someone who is just as happy alone as with someone because they create their own happiness. Someone who is mindful of the world around them and is passionate about something. There are so many traits that equal beauty but in order to see true beauty, you must take the time to know someone. THAT is beautiful.

Thank you for many wonderful comments, pictures and sharing of stories. You have made me smile on numerous occasions and giggle on others. Can't wait to see more. *muah*

I think most of us would prefer "no labels" except then how difficult would advertising be to promote yourself and find the clients you seek? Unfortunately labels are a way to distinguish what you're looking for from what you're not and a required component of this industry.

I find 10a-1p is my busy time but then again my hours are the way they are to accommodate other responsibilities and commitments I have. I expect I lose the afternoon business because of this but it is what it is. When I originally started I thought there would be more evening business but it didn't turn out that way. My preference is for anytime I'm able to spend time with someone!

From my experience there are very few late night calls and even fewer "good" late night calls. From a business perspective, it's not worth being available when there are consistently no clients. Sorry your night wasn't enjoyable.

What does one give to a most unique and wonderful person on their birthday? In your case...anything you want *grrrr baby* Hope your day is full of pleasure and goodness and that you get a few spanks on that sexy rump! Enjoy!

Oh Frank, I do so love many of your posts and have quite enjoyed you from afar. Thank you for all you do and please keep it up. *kisses*

When it comes to services I'm very open to many things and many conversations. Limits presently include space and instruments and appropriate partners. I love meeting and exploring with someone. Finding out what they like and enjoy and then seeing what else that might expand into. You have to have someone open to a longer term relationship and open communication for that though. I'm very fetish friendly and even if I'm not into something, I think it's great the other person is and would try to recommend someone for them. Mostly for me it's about time and space. @Lee...you can keep the oysters, I'd rather you be the aphrodisiac although nekkid with bibs might be fun! tee hee

I get excited about meeting someone from CERB especially if we've chatted prior to our date. Some I'm more nervous about if from their posts or interests I'm not sure what to expect. There are some I would love to meet just to see what they're like in person because I'm curious that way. I don't get tired of meeting people in this way but I sure did in past people related positions. Compared to things I've dealt with in the past and ignorance, denseness and gall of people, what I do now is a walk in the park...or should I say a roll in the hay! There are days you have to put on the game face prior but once with the other person, everything is great.

I think I should venture in here more based on some of the questions I've seen. It's okay to be nervous but don't let it rule you. Research the ladies and find the ones that interest you. See their contact method, view their website (and READ it), be respectful and articulate. You'll gain a lot of information doing those things and will be more confident when approaching a lady. If you contact someone and they don't get back to you within a couple days (check for a calendar on their website) send a polite note of inquiry to see if they received your first email. If you still don't hear anything, move on to someone else. Most serious ladies will answer within 24 hours unless away or on vacation. Most will catch up when they return. If nothing comes from it, there is probably a reason so let it go. There is someone here for everyone...sometimes multiple someones. We're not scary...promise!