Midnite-Energies

I prefer to think of myself as Panther...a sexy woman on the prowl who is smart enough to now how to play, caring enough to enjoy the play, childlike enough to make it fun, lustful enough to make it passionate plus confident and all around awesome! I'd rather make my own "label" lol. :boobies:

Just to add my two cents, would CERB even exist under a Nordic Model? By it's own rules you cannot discuss illegal activity and if buying were illegal.... Might end up being the Canadian Escort Remembrance Board. Thankfully much of the Nordic model goes against the supreme courts comments in the Bedford decision anyway.

Wix is hosting your site but because of the way they are set up, you have to follow their rules. Be warned, they do not like adult content which is why I avoided them and went with escort design instead ...although in the process of setting up my own. Many of these hosting sites either limit what you can or cannot have (such as videos) or limit the amount you can have on your site. They can also shut you down at any point because it's free and their rules.

Good Morning everyone and welcome to CERB. It is what you make out of it which means there are a lot of great people here to chat with and be friendly and learn plus a lot of sexy ladies to communicate with and explore. Any questions, feel free to ask in a new post, a thread already going or even a PM to another member. Most are happy to help. You can post and advertise in shout box however you have to have 5 posts before doing so. Wonderful to have new voices on board. Enjoy your experience!! :boobies:

I follow this amazing woman on Tumblr and many times she is telling stories about her family. She was discussing Valentines Day with her 8 year old who basically summed it up as a day to show love to others not expect it to be given to you. Taking this very much to heart and with her daughters help, she put a note on her Tumblr saying that for every person who sent her a personal note that day she would do a random act of kindness for others. Some of the things she did were to buy bunches of brightly colored bouquets and give them to a nursing home to distribute to those with no one on Valentines Day, took $1, a bag of microwave popcorn and a card and tape them to redbox movie rentals machines in her city, paid for coffee for the people behind her in a drive through. Bought target GC's and had the cashier distribute them to the next customers and the list went on. She must have done 100 of these or more that day. Each act had a handwritten card by her daughter saying to have a nice day and enjoy love a stranger. She posted throughout the day what she was doing as each person who sent her a message was attached to one act. It was an incredibly positive day and very heartfelt and I know made me smile numerous times. This was a grand scale but it doesn't take a lot of effort to mean a lot.

Greek is heaven....I hope you find it!

When you've seen a lady a few times and have a good connection established, do you feel comfortable talking about or requesting things you'd enjoy trying or do you leave it up to her to either broach or try? Or would you look for someone else who up front states they are into whatever you want to explore and not even mention it to the other?

Tumblr doesn't like to host videos because of the bandwidth required to do so. They have so many users that they limit this option. Linking to a host is fine. For hosting.. xtube, xhamster, redtube and pornotube are all options with pros and cons. Redtube is the classiest but it takes forever to upload a video there. Arvixe is a good host site for a website and they do host videos as well, adult content is allowed and prices are reasonable.

One thing that surprised me is that many men involved in this industry are actually more giving and more skilled than those who are not. Many times it becomes a shared experience, which I love, and is much more exciting and fulfilling.

What is sexy? It's the twinkle in the eye and the playful smile. It's being able to laugh at yourself and be ok with that. It's confident and intelligent and playful. It's being yourself even if it's not popular. It's a long t shirt and no underwear, leather gloves playing with a nipple. It's that kiss that promises more, it's the ability to be IN the moment with someone and going anywhere it leads. It's being able to make others feel special without sacrificing someone to do it. It's touching and being touched and having words whispered in the heat of passion. It's the taste and feel of someone you want and crave. It's the curve of a body, and the little personal things that someone does when they think no one is watching. It's love and acceptance, risk and vulnerability. And it's all the little things that are personal to us that make our stomach flutter, our pussies wet and our cocks hard. What is sexy? Everything!

No shows are extremely frustrating not only because it impacts our livelihood but also because it is a complete lack of respect for someone else. If you have a date with your mother, best friend, brother, co-worker etc. and can't make it, I'm sure that you take 30 seconds to call or text or something to let them know. I understand that things come up but to completely disregard someone else's feelings like that is completely disrespectful. The only time that would not apply is in a life or death situation. On a positive note, it gives an indication about the type of person you're dealing with. This works on both sides as well, there have been hobbyists who have had a NCNS SP.

Very well said Roamingguy. YMMV has to be included in everything because we are all individuals. What one person views in one way, another my view completely different. Not only that but even two people together can interact different depending on the day and the activity. This is part of what makes being human special. Extraordinary experiences that are never the same twice (even if they kinda are). To me, being with someone is about connection, pleasure, joy and fun. There are certain factors such as hygiene, nail care and respect that lend themselves in major ways to the experience you can have with someone. After that it's also about the person and how you relate. You may have said you do a certain thing but then realize that an adjustment is needed due to things like height, weight, cock size etc. You may expect one thign but get another. that doesn't necessarily make it negative or bad, just different and sometimes in a great way. The best encounters for me are the ones where someone wants to be with me and is interested in exploring with me. They don't have a lot of expectations besides enjoying their time and things flow naturally. I love when you can be lustful and passionate and also playful and joyous. Sex is bloody enjoyable...whoop it up! Additional Comments: I'm looking forward to Savannah's answer (if she wishes) on your question Chuck. For me, I couldn't be in this industry without genuine caring, desire and want. Everyone has something wonderful and beautiful about them and seeing that in every person is an amazing thing. Discovering what makes someone beautiful, amazing and sexy is intoxicating to me and I love when I'm allowed to fully express that.

I love discussing desires, wants and needs prior. It gives me an idea of the gentleman and what he enjoys. Just because I know things beforehand doesn't mean that our date is scripted in ANY way but it's much easier to follow the flow of desire if I know that you might enjoy this or that and you're giving indications of wanting that as opposed to stopping in the middle to ask and then determine boundaries. I have discussed some things ahead of time only to have desire lead in a completely different direction during. Knowledge is simply a basis on which to build mutual exploration!

Ahh summer, you lovely lady you. As the thread you started on asking sp's a question heats up and is enjoyed by many, I think it's only appropriate to recognize your contributions of 1000 posts and to thank you for wanting to be a part of this great place. Looking forward to more!

I know this message was directed more towards the gents but I wanted to add my cent and a half. I do incall only and I LOVE my space. I have created a little oasis of positive sensual energy, tantalizing scents, lighting, music and comfort that it has become an extension of sex for me. I love hosting and I love when people come to visit and feel comfortable here. It may not be grand but it's unique and it's those touches that I find wonderful.

To me, forgiving oneself is more "acts of self love". We all make mistakes, we all have done something that hurts someone else, this is life. No matter how hard we try, it happens. At that point we can either flay ourselves repeatedly until we believe we have paid the price (and then continue some more) or we can take responsibility for what we did, use it as a lesson for the future and cut ourselves some slack. Big or small, self love is a good thing. We are making ourselves better which gives those around us a better person to interact with which is a blessing for them. When we flog ourselves and treat ourselves badly for the things we have done, it doesn't make us feel very good. We may remove ourselves from the people who care most which is not only punishing ourselves but them too. Or we may then be around them and end up doing other things that make the relationship worse. Guilt is not a good emotion as it sucks the good out of us all. Practicing self love and forgiveness, allows growth and positivity and creates better relationships and moments. Not easy but definitely worth it. It's the little voice that says "I'll try again tomorrow"

Hope I got this right... Hyvää syntymäpäivää uskomaton mies xo

@frenchbrute, if I were to ask that question of a gentleman, it would be a compliment. There are certain attributes that I would chalk up to a sex worker such as being able to put someone at ease, comfortable in their own skin, playful and sexual, skilled, well spoken and versed in many things. There are some men who are just so smooth and comfortable and potentially skilled that one would think they might be in the industry. For me, a male sex worker would be classy and classically handsome because there is such a limited call especially if straight. You could ask how they meant it if it were really a curiosity or concern or just assume you got it going on.

What a wonderful thread, I've enjoyed reading all the responses. For me, I got tired of always giving my best to companies that didn't deserve it. I love sex, sensuality and intimacy and had a couple people tell me that I would do well doing this. My first few encounters were definite learners and I really enjoyed that aspect and the thrill during preparations, still do. I started out mostly as massage but found that while I loved it, I also loved more so now I do a free for all. I love pleasing and experiencing and meeting new people. I especially love connecting with them and as Savannah has said, it's those connections forged over time that make things better and better. I don't shy away from emotions, you can care for someone with no strings or expectations, as long as everyone is honest about boundaries. I love communicating and exploring with someone over a longer period of time. Finding new sensations and interests and sexual/sensual pleasure. There are so many amazing people in this industry and I've enjoyed getting to know them and learning from them. It is rough when it seems like there is back stabbing or undermining going on especially if you're not completely aware of the depths of it. There is so much stigma in the industry you want to believe that everyone watches everyone else's back. Thankfully I've been blessed with a couple friends who fully support me and think it's great. One of the hardest parts for me is when people just fade away. If they have been a connection especially and then nothing, you're left wondering. this isn't an industry where there is feedback on improvement or cheat sheets on market. lol. I have had amazing experiences, ones that I continue to think about and that make me smile. Not only experiences but people. I think anyone thinking about trying things out as a hobbyist should just do some research to find someone they are drawn to and then jump in and enjoy. We're all just people and out of all the women in the world, SP's understand and support the need, fear, desire, longing, anxiety etc. and make you feel alright.

She's a member here although not on much http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/member.php?u=78283 A few members have seen her.

Nice to see you back...

A Birthday Poem I'd like to scuttle your puttle Spiddle your paddle Tickle your wickle And twittle your taddle Stroodle your doodle Cromple your string Brundle your strundle And frondle your ding Happy Birthday

I agree that as SP's or Hobbyists we both have a right to security and to protecting ourselves from those who might do us harm in some way. I don't believe a general public "outing" is necessarily a good thing because it stirs a mob mentality where everyone wants to pile on board and bash. Having a private area for SP's to discuss these issues is wonderful and protects us from potentially harmful situations. I do however think at least THIS section should be readily available to all provider's meeting certain criteria such as (reco, website, pics etc.) within a shorter time span. It only takes one unsafe situation to ruin a life. We do have a section for B&S and such which is also a good thing. Personal discussions between people are more widespread then we thin,k I believe, and I would love to think they are done in the spirit of safety and protection and not other more negative reasons. I know there have been gossip and rumors started both in truth and in lies; some to punish and harm a lady and her business and likewise hurt a gentleman's ability to hobby. Also some "feedback" is also personal in nature. My wish is that people begin taking responsibility for themselves, treating others as they would wish to be treated and keeping conversation based on mutual respect and truth. We are all just trying to live life in the best way we can and I think we've all probably had a situation where someone is trying to screw us over for whatever reason. It's not a pleasant situation to deal with. Think for yourselves, get second opinions, don't believe everything you hear and validate your sources. Keep yourself safe so you can enjoy what life has to offer. I like CERB because you can't just come here and vent and cause disturbances and say all sorts of bad and negative stuff. Who wants to live or work in that sort of environment? This industry has enough crap and baggage of it's own without causing more.

Carry on your celebrations through the weekend and make it wonderful! Happy Birthday and hope you had many smiles!

Positive energy for a birthday weekend filled with love, joy and pleasures of the heart. Enjoy every moment and smile knowing you bring so much to others as well.