oldblueeyez

I'm kind of guessing that you're attached and you don't want to transmit anything to your partner, which is respectable (been there done that). Being attached prevented me from doing things I love to do and it's liberating to be single. Wrap it up and learn to love it that way: no BB fellatio and no cunnilingus and even no kissing. If you're single, then hey, forget the numbers. What are your chances of eating pacific seafood containing Fukushima radiation? Eating meat with PCBs? Living in an older house with asbestos? Etc., etc. Wrap it up for the main event and learn to live with the odds.

You are a very lucky man. I envy the fcuk out of you!

I confess I'm glad I'm not alone!

I have to admit I love Costco, but yeah, waiting in those huge queues makes me feel like cattle being led to slaughter. If you're of a certain generation, this pic will make you drool. Ah, to be 10 and innocent again:

Where's the "Empty a 12 gauge at this page" page? just sayin'.

Geez, I remember when the Maritimes was a quiet, quaint, folksy place to live and, believe it or not, I would walk around Halifax many nights, weekends included, until the sun rose and never, ever felt threatened. Now we're just as friggin' whacko as any other place in North America. That's it, I'm buying an island. Who's in? That being said, guns really can't be any more controlled than they are now. I mean, they could have achieved the same result by stealing a dump truck and crashing it into a crowded bus stop filled with bleary eyed commuters, too tired to react, at 6:00am.

(Second time I've mentioned children; I mentioned PPD once.) Well, if you want frank then here's frank. They don't have the financial nor emotional capacity at the moment to have a kid, so whatever he does, don't get her pregnant until she either gets better or he abandons ship. Depressed or not, that princess attitude will wear pretty damn thin as time goes by, so make sure she learns to suck it up and fly economy class without throwing a shitfit. Tiptoeing around her feelings for the rest of your life out of fear of sending her into a depression is no way to live. That gives her the upper hand, control, and you'd better believe she'll use it. I know a married couple wherein the woman uses her depression to manipulate her husband; not pretty. If she hasn't tried meds yet, pursuade her. There are lots of them out there; have her try them until she finds one that works. It's not just her sanity at stake but yours too. If she refuses to try meds then it's ultimatum time. If a lack of luxury saddens her, tell her that once she meds up and gets better then she can get back to work and you two can enjoy some extravagances together. You're a much better man than I and I hope it works out for you. But don't bring a child into the scenario until you're sure it's what you really want for the rest of your life. It's too late once you're chained down. 50% of marriages end in divorce and an unstable ex-wife has the potential to make fatherhood very miserable for you. I've been taking an AD for quite some time now (as they say, depression is the common cold of mental illnesses, so tell her to med up or shut up), I've pulled the plug on more than one major relationship because of bullshit drama, and I have kids, so take my advice for what you think it's worth. If I were talking with a buddy over beers in his shed, I'd say the same thing to him.

This is way out in left field, but there's been chatter about magic mushrooms successfully treating depression and anxiety. As for their safety, this chart pretty well sums it up: I've never tried them, but I'm seriously considering it. Also consider that postpartum depression could drive her to further, unprecedented lows should you one day decide to have kids; the consequences could be tragic beyond belief.

I marvel at how similar the smell of my toe jam is to Stilton. Damn I'm hungry now!

I don't have much advice for you other than to take things very slowly and think about how your life might be if kids were in the picture and plan accordingly.

I've been there only once, but it seems like a cool little city. The hypocrisy of the situation astounds me (a city full of Draconian lawmakers indulging in the "evils" they legislate against), but maybe a flight up there is in order.

In a previous business, I got haggled to death almost every day. Depending on my mood, I either dickered or I raised my voice and said, "The price is low enough as it is.... F you and get the F out!" I feel your pain. There are things in life which you can negotiate, typically the purchase of significant tangible assets, but when it comes to services (mechanic, plumber, etc.), I don't negotiate because I figure they'll get the price they want one way or the other (if one were to dicker for a lower hourly rate, they'd just bill more hours). When it comes to services I go for reputation, not price. This industry is unique of course, but if you lower your asking rate once, you'll get caught in a downward spiral (the discounted clients won't see you again unless it's at the discounted rate, and even worse, they could spread the lowered rate they received to other potential clients, thus snowballing into a bunch of drama: "he got that lower rate, so why can't I?!). I'm just an average Joe, but when I play I prefer a quality experience, so I have no problem paying the posted rate. I go for quality over quantity. If I have to set aside spare cash for weeks on end, I'll do so. If I don't have the full required amount, that's my problem not hers, so I'll be patient and wait until the piggy bank's full again. Only you can decide your own policies. Anybody who haggles with me now gets a polite "I'm sorry, I can't do that" the first couple of times; if they keep pushing and they push the right combination of buttons, once in a blue moon I'll still explode (I'm getting mellower as I age though). And you want to F-ing know something!? It's the fckers with the BMWs and the Acuras who are the worst! The richer they are the more they think they deserve a special rate!

Is it Russian, is it Scandinavian? It's Super Electric and you had to be there!

I never watched any of the Pierce Brosnan 007s because I think he's pretty cheesy (even moreso than Roger Moore), but wow, Famke Janssen rocked! I know her only from Taken and I thought, "Meh." Nice to see her in a new light!

Does anybody have (or had) low testosterone? My horniness has nosedived and I have no idea why; I'm almost to the point where I couldn't give a fcuk if I ever got laid again. If I were 60-something I'd chaulk it up to age, but geez I'm 40-something. My doc put me on blood pressure meds and I'm wondering if that's the culprit. I'm feeling kind of depressed and I've read that's a sign of low T. Has anybody ever had their testosterone level checked, and are docs open to doing the bloodwork?

Sorry to hear about that, Joseph. It's not much fun at all. I guess if she's refusing mediation, then she too refuses to talk/email one-on-one to settle things before lawyering up? Get professionally informed and get an idea of how it's going to go down, then try to work out a reasonable settlement with her. Divorce lawyers, or any lawyers for that matter, are not happy when you come to them and say, "Look, we've worked it all out and we need you to do this for us." (Ask me how I know, lol). I had to fire a lawyer who tried to get me all antagonistic and hire one who would just do what I damn well told her to. Remember, you're THE BOSS and the lawyer is the HIRED HELP who WORKS FOR YOU! If you have school-age kids and she doesn't have a job but is accustomed to living well at home and you have a very nice salary, I'm afraid to say, prepare to be deballed.

I feel for your friend, but it's not just this biz. With Yelp, Google, etc., the damn net lets anybody slam the fcuk out of you and there's almost siht all you can do about it. For any of us in business for ourselves, it can be a royal pain in the asre. Good sites will let you reply to customer complaints, and it's better to reply wisely than to not reply at all.

Minus the pretension:

I was going to start a 'Favorite Villain' thread but then I thought to search and I'm glad I did; I hate rehashing. Voted best bald, bespectacled villain by me!

"And you, to whom adversity has dealt the final bloe With smiling bastards lying to you everywhere you go Turn to, and put out all your strength of arm and heart and brain And like the Mary Ellen Carter, rise again!"

For me, about February-time is when winter starts losing its charm, so looking at Eva's latest pics made me very happy! I don't know which is more enticing, the subject or the location! Ultimately, what makes me happy is freedom, as much freedom as I can squeeze from this increasingly clutching world.

Has anybody else seen this? This guy's my new hero! www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEsZkTTgydc

To quote my new favorite hero, "Tata and farewell!" Speaking of paths, I'm considering a path to Thailand to study, ummm, Buddhism, yeah that's it!

It's made me happy in that I don't have to put up with the bullshit drama of relationships anymore just to get the prize. And when I look back at all of my encounters, both civilian and professional, the professional ones are always the most vivid and satisfying. So thank you for the memories! A long time ago I used to think that hobbyists were losers, but hey, we're winners! We're living life on nobody's terms but our own and you can't do any better than that! To me some of the biggest losers are the so-called Alpha males who marry a trophy wife who soon makes them miserable, but due to kids and finances they're locked into that marriage unless they attempt a very costly escape.

Aren't pics of her at 17 child pornography? Whoever took or distributed those pics could be in trouble. I'm thinking that sex-ed in schools these days should include "NO NUDE PICS!" Really, isn't it common sense in this day and age that you can't trust any digitized information, no matter how private you think it may be? But after the fact, this seems like a good way to handle it. You can cower or you can fight back.