Eric Northman

So imagine one got into the hobby as a result of marital problems. Lack of sex, lack of intimacy, etc. Now the marriage is perhaps starting to work again. Reconnecting, having more sex, experimenting, becoming close again, communicating. It feels good and you really want the marriage to work. You're putting in legitimate effort and falling back in love again. But the genie is out of the bottle. One has discovered uncomplicated, attachment-free sex with beautiful women who might ordinarily be out of one's league. There is no longer any 'justification' such as neglect, unhappiness, etc. One needs to simply accept that one is doing it because, 'I like it', and 'I want to.' So what does one do? Stop hobbying and put all ones effort into the marriage? Be "good"? Is it possible to have a true loving and intimate relationship with a partner and still have a secret life on the side? Perhaps one woman just isn't sufficient? Is cheating something that happens with your body or your heart? Dunno if anyone else has found themselves in the same boat. It would seem like the right thing to do would be simply to decide. A life with a wife or sex with many women. Black and white. It sucks though because both are really awesome in their own ways. It seems a shame to not be able to have your cake and eat it too but promises have been made. Or does it just mean that it's the wrong wife? That one needs to find a partner that can come along on sexual adventures. Those seem like exceedingly rare creatures though. Difficult questions. Wouldn't it seem that if you truly were with the right woman you wouldn't even WANT to see escorts? Or is that just an old-fashioned romantic notion?

Dude! That sucks. Manly hugs for you.

For many years my wife wouldn't let me go down on her and for someone who loves DATY, it was a bit of a problem from my perspective. There were many excuses but recently came out that she just doesn't like her vagina. She thought it was 'ugly' and 'weird looking' and it made her feel self conscious to have someone down there. Nothing could be further from the truth and you know what turned out to be the solution? We started watching some porn together. I think she hadn't seen a lot of vaginas before and it's fun to hear her say things like, "Ooh..that ones got an interesting haircut" or "Look, her lips are big like mine." There's been a lot of negative talk about media but as a counterpoint, seeing a variety of women with different and unique bodies has helped her realize that she's not that different and there's nothing wrong with her. Things are looking up for me! :-D On an unrelated side note, if anyone has any good tips for 'couple friendly' porn, perhaps they could PM me? It's not always easy to find stuff that won't make a somewhat naive wife go, "Ewww...gross". ;-) Gotta work up to that stuff.

Such a great thread. Definitely needs to be sticky. Heck, you should put them all in one list and make it into the FAQ. Thanks for the laugh.

I met Rebecca tonight at her convenient South End location. What a cutie. Charming smile and delightful little French accent. She's not very tall and has great curves. Lovely skin and hair and all around cheerful and fun girl. It's funny how every encounter goes differently. We were enjoying talking very much but also taking turns doing our best to distract each other at the same time. She would be telling me something and I would start running my tongue around her body until she would forget what she was saying. I be telling her something and then suddenly she would be sucking me, making eye-contact, daring me to not lose my concentration. I think the thing I liked most about her was her responsiveness. If you're doing something she likes, she immediately lets you know. In my case, I was being very gentle, touching with finger tips, caressing, kissing and licking all over. She seems to be one big erogenous zone and loves to be touched and teased. Some delightful oral eventually led to my first shot on goal and then it was time for me to get serious about taking care of her. Some girls are a bit of a puzzle. You have to experiment, guess, read the signs, figure out what she likes. Not Rebecca. Constant feedback, "oh yes", "Ooh, I like that", "keep doing that", etc. So much fun. After a while she asked if we could do 69 and I was very happy to oblige. Not everyone can multi-task but she had no trouble and eventually, with some coaching, I was able to find the magic formula. Pro tip boys: she's got a slower pace...some girls like quick tongues, she's definitely one to enjoy the slow grind. Not that you'll need the tip...she's not gonna make you guess. What a rewarding orgasm it was to give though. Her whole body shook and shuddered and she needed to take a couple minutes to recover. At this point it was time to get some protection and proceed to the main event. We went at it in various positions for a while...I especially enjoyed doggy and whatever it is you call it when she lies on her stomach with you on top... She has a lovely bottom and feeling her underneath me was fantastic. I think we actually had both kind of finished ourselves off with our first orgasms though. I mean, we were both having fun banging away but I don't think either of us were going to cum again. She insisted on trying to get me off again orally because that's just the sweet type of girl she is but I had her stop after a while so as not to give her a sore jaw. We cuddled a bit and talked about stuff like work and exercise and diet. Such a charming lady with a lovely personality. I was sad to leave. Definitely would see her again.

Loneliness is one of the most crushing and destructive of all human emotions. We're such social animals and being deprived of human contact and intimacy has been proven time and again to have effects far beyond the emotional. Lonely people heal slower, stay sick longer, die earlier. Everyone has been lonely and I never feel so sorry for someone as when they're suffering in solitude.

Another advertising site has little icons beside providers names showing if they see men, women or couples. I think it's not permitted to link here to other sites but PM me if you don't know which one I'm talking about. Just looking right now I see about 25 providers (many who are here on CERB) advertising as seeing couples so not a bad selection.

An unfortunate missed encounter left me all dressed up with no place to go so on a whim, I picked up the phone and called a girl I had been looking at earlier, Adryanna. She used to be called Chanel but has changed her name because, as she says, "it just sounds nice". On the phone she has the cutest little voice and it turned out I was in luck. She was available right away! We made a date and I set out to her location at one of our fine downtown hotels. When I opened the door I was blown away. I had seen her pictures but hearing her voice, I had expected a tiny little thing. She was there in tall platform heels and a fishnet mini-dress and I think she must have been well over six feet tall. Without heels she's probably about 5'7" or 5'8" but at my height I'm definitely not used to feeling short when I meet a new lady. Her body is outstanding. Thin but curvy in the special way that island girls can be. Perfect firm breasts, a killer booty, legs that went on for miles, soft, perfect skin. Amazing. She has a cute face and was wearing some very blue contacts that really stood out against her dark skin. I confessed to her that I had never been with a woman of color before and she laughed and said that for some reason, she's always the first for people. What a great choice though. Her gentle manner and shy smile put me at ease and we went to the bed and started kissing and touching. I'm kind of bashful and tend to wait for the girl to start so after a while she sensed that I wasn't going to ask for anything and took over and offered a CBJ. What enthusiasm! She definitely knows how to work the pole and to be honest, I didn't mind the fact that it was covered at all. She loves the deep throat and she managed to get my first shot off in pretty short order. Now it was my turn to return the favor. She has a gorgeous body and I took my time exploring as I worked my way down. Her breasts are amazing. So firm and perky. Her pussy was shaved and beautiful and as I started to work, she let me know with little sounds when I was hitting the right places. I suspect I'm average at best when it comes to oral and I was starting to feel like I was being a big tease. Every time she started to respond and seemed like we were getting somewhere, I'd somehow lose the rhythm and have to start searching again. I was at this for a while but at some point realized I was ready for round two so we searched out another condom and went to work. What positions did we do? I'm pretty sure all of them. Missionary in 2 or 3 configurations for a while, then doggy style both with her up, her down, me between and outside her legs, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl. I was working up a huge sweat but to be honest, in spite of some crazy cowgirl riding, I think she never even got tired at all. This girl can go. I thought I was going pretty hard when I was on top but when she jumped on me, I thought I was going to get a cracked pelvis. Awesome. At this point I was ready for a bit of a break so I asked her what we could do to get her off and she suggested 69. Excellent. Something we hadn't done yet. Apparently she has no issues with multi-tasking because finally I was able to get her there. She shook and shivered and cried out and I could just feel her relax in the way only an orgasm can do. Very proud of myself I was. I gave her a few minutes and returned to missionary and managed to finish off my second shot on goal. Very impressive. I almost never get the second shot off so it's a real testament to just how incredibly hot this girl is. My only regret was not budgeting for Greek (seriously...what an ass this girl has!) but to be honest, I'm not sure how we would have found time for anything more than we did. Afterwards we just cuddled and talked about general, non-sexy stuff. She's a smart, ambitious young girl and I think she's going places in the world. I sure hope I get to see her again the next time she's in Ottawa.