Elle Diablo

For there to be a connection made between two people does not necessarily lead to a commitment. The nature of the relationship is only dependent on the consent given. A paid companion should know the boundaries she is implementing intimately, considering she thinks it's her responsibility to cater to and be somewhat intuitive of her patrons' needs. Emotion does not always have to be unharnessed to be enjoyed.

I prefer to encourage a connection between myself and a patron, but that most definitely depends on the guy - is he into developing a connection or does he just want to get laid? When I think a 'connection' would be a good thing to start nurturing is when the guy turns into a regular and wants to see me more often than not. Some may say that is 'leading', but I would respond with, "What is your agenda?" In essence my only purpose is to make an enjoyable moment spent between two adults, hopefully, temporarily forgetting that it is a business transaction. Wouldn't you agree that most of everything that conspires between people is often spurred on by fantasy?

I agree, the word negotiate need not be a dirty word, but by using a sensitive perspective with regards to what ladies have to tolerate in an industry meant to provide pleasure and caring anyone with an ounce of empathy would understand why the word would make one cringe. I think the statement "to negotiate" elicits feelings of horror in some working girls imaginations is, perhaps, because to negotiate is somewhat easily comparable to patronizing the common 'streetwalker' wherein negotiation can mean the difference between eating or not; being beaten or not. I am certain that most females who work independently or through an agency, like myself, think of themselves as a different breed with different working conditions and expect to be treated as such.

So would "PSE" then mean to have multiple takes between shots? (lol) I am so glad I came across this thread because it's of some interest to me also. I know what "GFE" means in this business, I think what I offer my patrons is exactly that ... an intimate rendez-vous, but I am confused with what men are expecting when they ask for a porn star experience. Because of what Luxe Mulvari said above about choosing co-stars and the many takes during shooting just to get the scene right ... how can someone recreate that in a hh or h session with a complete stranger?

The World's Best Orgasm ... me, Andrea Bocelli, candles and a hot bath ... Some years back I experienced how wonderful it was to fully relax in a tub and masterbate. This one masterbatory pause I prepared myself for what was going to be a VERY relaxed afternoon, got super romantic with myself and brought myself to such a height of climatic spasms that I clenched up like a tight fist! I couldn't pee comfortably for 3 days. Fortunately I was by myself - how embarrassing it would be to have to show up at the emergency cock attached ... lol

It was asked at the beginning of this thread what's a favourite fashion and what do you like to wear on a first encounter ... The 'little black dress' is always a must - lace, soft materials, very feminine, easily removable ;) ... and don't forget the SHOES! This is the first encounter - show a little skin, but the real clincher is on the second encounter when all I wear are the shoes ... OH MY!

As this thread unfolded i was thinking along the same lines ... not necessarily about "feeding trolls", but where there is discussion there is room for negotiating - negotiating being somewhat a form of discussion. We most definitely want to make ourselves (the Ladies) heard and most importantly understood, but hopefully when reality strikes (as it always does) and Negotiation comes-a-knocking we can hold ourselves tall and stand strong with our decisions of what we will do and will not do and NEVER have to endure being bullied because our choices don't seem to jive with others.

Unfortunately that just is not how an average male "negotiates" with a female ... the negotiation is usually wanting EVERYTHING for NOTHING.

... and also, if business is business and "this" being just another business like purchasing a car or a house it should then make sense if negotiating our wares, we should ask a MUCH higher price so that when negotiated down we receive the original price desired at the end of the negotiations ... ?

Simple ... just don't do it if you expect a favourable response!

The chicken crossed the road so it could "get in my belly"!

So true ... so true, but I do find Bagheera (who is a cat) waiting to be fed while lounging by the door. I like to think she's most certainly awaiting my arrival with great anticipation. I dream BIG!

With regards to the question that started this thread "... are they really necessary and what purpose do they really serve?" I think what "best of's" serve is a sort of validation of one's participation in socializing - something akin to communication between a certain type of people. Considering we are all individuals, I am certain we can agree that we can also be categorized into groups suggesting that there are two distinct types of people: Extroverted and Introverted. Extroverts being personalities that are magnanimous and physical in nature and very visual; probably enjoy extreme sports, watching movies rather than reading, loud bass so that the music can be felt - literally. Introverts being personalities that are more subdued, insightful of the mind (deep thinkers) and perhaps more emotional or sensitive; probably enjoy quiet evenings with a friend talking for hours, a lot of alone time, will cry if someone else is crying. I am certain what attracts a person to viewing pictures more and discussing less could probably hint at the type of validation they need from friends, family and society ... just as what attracts a person to a more discussion type thread than viewing pictures would hint at the type of validation they need from friends, family and society. Whatever hand fits the glove ;)

My beautiful baby girl Bagheera is now 18 years old and has most definitely adopted some strange habits. Most nights she comes to bed with me for I am her human plush toy, but as of the past several months she desperately needs to drink MY water. I bring a glass of water to bed and it sits there on the nightstand where Bagheera has now taken up temporary residence. I thought for awhile that perhaps I hadn't been filling her water bowl, but that not's it - then I thought perhaps my water was colder than hers and that's what she likes, but nope again ... she still drinks hers. She wants MY water ONLY at bedtime! That wouldn't be such a hassle except for the fact that she no longer has the balance as she once had - and even way back when she wasn't the most stablest kitty cat on the block! She falls, topples actually, and doesn't always land feet first. I'm such a worry wart that every fall is making me jump outta bed just to check for injuries. But once everything is a-okay it's back to snuggles and giggles ... til the next sip of water :)

All sound points being made ... but when egos inflate "everything" is taken seriously. One cannot undermine how judgemental comments, such as "the best ___", interfere with the intention of "just having fun". The way we think and what we say is a mind set. When our minds are set in one perspective I can only imagine how difficult it would be to empathize with another's perspective when stuck on "The Best Of ___".

I have to slightly disagree on one point made - I believe awareness can be taught by example and if a group of people cannot discuss (even if disagreeably) everyday, meaningful topics then shortcomings will always be.