muncher459

First let me make a statement...there are only 10 types of people in this world. I tend to see the humorous/ironic side of things, even in the darkest moments, you have admit that life has the most fucked up sense humor of anyone around. Those that know me are often surprised, those that don't often just go ..huh.. I am really very simple and down to earth,uncomplicated guy, but not stereotypical, oh yeah, before I forget, oh never mind get back to me if you think you know the types of people from my opening statement.

The ability to enjoy those moments that cause us to reflect upon life and ourselves is a frightening experience for some. I too sit beside a window and listen to the low rumbling of thunder and hear the gentle sound of the rain coming down. I appreciate days like this because I can just sit and relax and not feel guilty about what I should get done next. My favorite time of day is just after the sun has set and world is in a state between light and dark, there are no shadows, only the muted colors of the world as it exists in the moment of time that separates day from night, life from death. It is moments like that, where we must learn to accept ourselves and our insignificance in this world, and wait for the sun to arise bringing back life to the world and a new day to live.

For me every step of the process is filled with anticipation and excitement. but there are two steps of the process that stand out to me, the first is when I am getting ready for a playdate, the thrill and anticipation is a wonderfully positive experience, the second is the knock on the door. Actually that's not quite correct, it is stepping thru the door...the point when we first meet and the lady sees me for the first time...in the back of mind I am worried that once she sees my worn old mug she might send me packing...but a welcoming hug and kiss let me breathe a sigh of relief, I have never thought much about this before but it reminds of being a nervous young boy again, and it is actually quite refreshing to realize that there are things still make can me nervous and excited.....probably has a lot to do the whole experience and why I enjoy it so much. I appreciate hearing the ladies point of view on this, it is good to hear that they feel some of same excitememnt and nervousness that we do, although it is unfortunate that they have the added fear of their safety, that is something we, as men must try to alleviate by being as open and upfront about everything that we can.

As a new comer to this and another board, and as a participant in this lifestyle, I read through this thread this morning with interest. But after reading all the posts I was exhausted.....waited till this evening to make a reply. I much appreciate the opportunity to read through the threads and see how others react to things that are said.....much can be learned by listening, but as a newcomer who still has not satisfied my 5 post quota, I sometimes feel hesitant to wade in on most threads, but this one I find particularly interesting. I see two issues here, first the value or credibility of some one giving an honest review or reference, secondly there is the issue of confidentiality and discretion. The first thing that I see with most reviews....good or bad, is that they often tell more about the reviewers personality or ego than they do about the actual lady being reviewed, what I like to see in a review is what the ladies style, personality and attitude is. This is what I look for on their websites and in their posts that I see on the board. The act of sex is what you make of it, in an ideal world giving is as important as taking, please remember this is just "my" opinion, and I do realize that this is NOT an ideal world. I like the idea of only positive reviews on this board, the lack of positive reviews can be just as telling as a hurtful, often disrespectful review I see on other boards, and creates less drama. In regards to references and confidentiality, this is simply a trust issue. Clients must make their choices by doing research on the SP they are considering seeing, basically trusting your natural instincts. If there is not much information to go on then you must make a decision, but you are responsible for that decision even if things go badly. The ladies on the other hand do not have reviews, ads, or websites to make their decisions as whether to see a client or not. They only have the information they get from our emails or conversations with us. It is a natural instinct not to trust some one who is not open and forthcoming. So I see where the more information we are willing to trust them with the better they can trust us. Now for those clients who are concerned about their partners finding out their activities, the onus is on the client to find a provider who they know will be discrete and trustworthy. We are all adults here and should know that everything we do may have consequences, and be prepared to accept our responsibility if things go wrong. Finally in regards to a paid membership to provide verification, it would work for some, but probably only the honest open clients. Those that want to cheat the system and are probably the ones you want weed out will just lie, cheat and manipulate the system to get what they want. in the end we are all responsible for our own decisions, this lifestyle comes with many dangers, but we knew that before we got into it....each one of us must do what we think is best to protect ourselves

certain words definitely change their meaning depending on the context they are used in...I once had a lady friend who explained the c word to me, her take on the word was.... yes I have a c**t, but don`t ever call me a C**t.

Very well said, everyone talks about showing respect to the SP's, everyone deserves respect. I have been on the other end of a situation like this before and it is a hard pill to swallow. In fact is because of this that I am in a situation where I am free to partake of these wonder honest women, I no longer want the entanglement of a relationship but still enjoy the physical relationship they provide. I have friends who are women but do not want to risk a friendship by becoming romantically involved. Sorry for the rant....but respect and honesty are at the top of my personal qualities list.

well the message that shows up on new members log in says I have been a member for 10 days. I have reading though the forums gleaning as much information as I can, there is a lot of good information here and I appreciate all that I have learned. Well then, I guess I will just say " Hello and Thanks" and be on my way