Sex is not penatration for me. I've had ED for the past 20 years. The day Viagra was introduced, I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. No such luck... None of those drugs did anything for me. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy a damn good sex life. I have the ability to be stimulated... Generally orally... To a climax. I please my partner with kisses, massage, gentsl touching, digital stimulation, with adult toys, and of course orally. 99 times out of a hundred, she climaxes with oral stimulation.