If you have an SO and your lying to her about anything whether it's hobbying or anything else. Anytime you choose to lie to your SO, wouldn't you say it's bad? Not trying to judge anyone, I just know that my reasons for being on this board and seeing Sp's is for self improvement. And if I ever do find an SO then I would absolutely retire. Actually once I feel I've gotten everything I can for my own self improvement I'll quit.