foofer

Saw her a couple of weeks ago. Took no less than three calls while I was there. Very repetitive massage. Starts good but ends up being mindless one-handed rubbing to kill time. Very nice person, but I didn't like walking past her family outside working in the front yard.

Here's my review. Booked an appointment, drove all the way across town, showed up on time, nobody home. I think the bait and switch of Forever and the like is preferable. No more home businesses for me.

The trick is weeding them out. I know of a couple of popular SP's who are at the point in their lives of wanting to retire due to being sick of putting up with men's crap (harassment, no-shows, etc.). They are only staying in it to pad their retirement savings and already seem to be on autopilot in their sessions. They don't need to stay in business. Are they a risk? Dunno. The way the law is written and the propaganda, SP's are victims and will be given "help". Clients will be tarred, feathered, and dragged through the dirt. And that's if they have a good lawyer. As victims, SP's probably won't have anything to lose, such as having their name published would only further exploit them. Not so for the criminal, pervert clients. The risks are going to be many. A new(not LE) SP that gets into the biz and during her first client decides that she made a big mistake. Maybe she freaks and calls the cops. Or a long time SP that wants revenge for some reason. How about blackmail? "Give me $500 or I call the cops and tell them how you exploited me". It's a criminal male's word against a female victim. The balance of power has moved completely to the SP, which forces the client to put total trust in a stranger who's job is acting. (no offense intended) There has to be risk and reward for both parties for the arrangement to work. Then there's the reality that the law does curb the hobby. The LEO's will have more time to stake out and "rescue" SP's that don't need or want rescuing. One thing for sure is it's going to be an interesting winter.

Face pic is most definitely required. This is the face I'm kissing, the face I'm looking up at. The eyes tell a lot about the person. If you don't look like a trustworthy person, the rest is immaterial. It most definitely doesn't have to be a mug shot. Plenty of SP's have just enough of their face in their pics that you have to see half a dozen to get an idea. That's totally fine.

That was evil, Emily.

Here's a view from someone that recently managed a swing club. There are a lot more posers now than ever before. It used to be that people would go to a club to play or at least dip their toes in the water. Now, everybody wants to watch and judge. It's like "hey honey, let's join this club so we can get excited watching people have sex, and then go home and fuck!". All they want is to be spectators in a "naughty" atmosphere. They'll call themselves swingers, but have never participated due to them endlessly waiting to find the perfect couple. "We have high standards!" There'll be a few that are more adventurous and actually make out with their mates in the same room as someone else. The girls might (gasp!) kiss each other or feel each others boobs! Those sluts! If I had to give numbers, I'd say 70% of people calling themselves swingers are really just spectators, 10% do the same room, girl only, pretend to be naughty thing, 10% are soft swap - meaning same room or a little oral with lots and lots of rules, and 10% are full on old style swingers. That last 10% is slowly dwindling. Being a swinger is about sharing, not just putting on a show for some stranger to perv on. When everyone you have an interest in playing with says "we're just here to watch", you give up trying. Most clubs I travel to are now filled with people spending the whole night waiting for the show to start, then going home disappointed. Even the Vegas clubs are like this. Being a bi woman is so last year. Now swinging, open relationships and hall passes are all the "new thing" to be into. Unfortunately, the noobs trying to call themselves swingers are changing the definition of the word. So when you hear someone saying they're a swinger, take it with a grain of salt. Ask for details, like "what's it like to watch another guy unload in your wife/girlfriend?" Then sit back and watch them squirm and back peddle.

I have to say both. Sometimes a surprise is nice, sometimes it isn't. We all have things that turn us on or turn us off. If I'm getting the best striptease in the world and she turns around to show a bunch of tattoos and piercings, the effort is lost. Show me a tongue stud and I'm gone. It's not her fault. Right or wrong, that's just me. A couple of tasteful nudes avoids any awkwardness or wasting both persons time with questions.