dazedandconfused75

Good advertising ce I,tried that Friday at Barns a girl with a great smile and we,connected outside,the CR but not in.. :( still great girl and made sure to tip her... I still haven't seen you at the Barbs unless you have a different dancing name ... Mind you I'm an afternoon person

Very old thread but lots of great tips!! I find I have a very hard time making eye contact and getting the girl over that I would like to talk to... And when I approach a girl and ask for a dance it leaves me very unsatisfied.. No mental connection ...

Damn i hope that isn't true about Paige ....

That's what I was wondering too!

Oh that's awesome all-in that the girls respect your choice and they are big girls if they didn't want to spend time with you and chat they wouldn't so I wouldn't feel bad. Its about $ but I'm sure people forge friendships (work or personal) Like how at the office I have friends I chat with and have lunch with bit would never see them outside the office. And others I met and forged long friendships with

Never bothered me .. If it doesn't bother the girls why should it bother me...i have noticed that some girls clean everything and others don't ... I bet 1/3 of the guys they dance for don't wash thier hands after the bathroom

I wasn't able to quote on my phone but this really explains everything. As does the points about personalities clicking etc.

What a great post thanks a bunch! I wasn't looking for a list just talking with people more experience than I...

Absolutely its their job after all. Being new I didn't want to just post little one liners here and there and I ha ent seen anything but "its gotten out that dancer x gives good mileage so she's always busy" So i thought there might be something fun to talk about preferences and why people choose them

Sorry for being unclear I just wonder what peoples preferences since most of the posts that I have read talk about how far the CR goes (mileage). I had a great chat with Paige who explained the business and made it clear money is the major factor for sure. I have said no for sure that was,the first rule I read don't waste their time or your own. Sorry again I ramble sometimes

Now I searched through the first couple of pages to see if there was a thread I could necro but I didn't find any. I'm kinda new to going to SC, I've gone to them in the past it was always when my friends suckered me into it, or I just wanted a quick drink, I'm a shy person I have a hard time making eye contact with the dancers and I'm probably easiest client in the CR because I don't try or expect anything because I just don't know what to do.... I follow the Dancer's guide... But two years ago I went to the Barefax and after being approached time and time again for a "Dance" one girl came up and just starting talking to me, she sat in my lap she was petite I don't remember the color of her hair, very pretty had glasses, and I remember she had a tattoo on her back or bum of a $ (Funny the things we remember) anyway she chatted with me, she talked to me, she nuzzled my neck, there was playful kisses, silly jokes, she made it personal. Up to that point I've never had that done before.. wish I got the girls name she gave a very good dance and by the end of it I was talking on cloud nine with confidence in my steps...I never went back to see her again my mistake... It got me thinking as I read around the various threads about clubs and girls, it seems like mileage (how far they go I'm guessing) is the most important part for many or at least a huge factor if one dancers mileage is higher than another it seems like she'll get more clients. I can't be the only one who appreciates a beautiful young woman coming and sitting close and chatting. Its the little things that got me into this ... a freak visit earlier this month with a dancer won me over with intelligent conversation and making me feel maybe wanted is the wrong word but appreciated... or attractive at least not sure how to say it. But I'm wondering out there if someone had to choose between mileage in the CR vs a dancer coming to your table and chatting and sharing a moment, or some personal(Dancer Persona) details pictures of friends or cats or just tries to break the ice... (I get its an investment from the dancer that may or may not pay off) I'm curious what others would say.. And if there are other dancers on here ... what's your take? Which do you prefer ... Myself ... I'd take playful flirting, nuzzles, head close whispering, affectionate smiles before I'd take high mileage (I Hope I'm using that right) Okay this seems super long and I'm not even sure if its in the right place..its sort of a "General" opinion but I don't really care about people in BC's opinion I wanted the local flavor.

Sounds like a great place what about those of us who are language challenged.. (anglophones) any issues? I can't be sleep the only person whose French is pretty bad.

Good to hear gives me time to save up some $$ I didn't mean any disrespect for the club I sorta like the club, small good feel and so many pretty ladies :) If only i was rich :0

I was there Friday and Paige was in a white outfit and a plaid skirt and sometimes black outfit with plaid skirt. Not sure what a spinner is but it was probably her, very pretty brunette petite slow sexy walk and a great smile.

Just to play devil's advocate I wonder how many times a girl sits down talks to a fella for 20-30 minutes and then the fella just gets up and leaves or chooses a different girl etc... I agree I like when girls come to me due to how shy I tend to be in these clubs so its not always cut and dry. A girl on her phone doesn't bother me depending on what's she is doing .. (sharing a photo picture story etc) is okay txting friends etc not so much

I'm very new to this whole thing going to SC's.. I'd go a couple of times a year for a beer or two and then head home. Never saw a girl twice and generally never for more than two dances. Last week I got talking with a friend who is a bit more experienced I'd say an avid hobbyist and he got into the how clubs work and we talked about various clubs I'd only been to the Fax and the Nuden and generally perferred the Fax. Anyway he prefers Barb for various reasons so I thought I'd go and check it out last Friday. It is a smaller older building for sure but the atmosphere is awesome the girls are all lovely and super friendly.. I drank a couple of beer watched some dancers from the corner of my eye ... being new I still don't find it very easy to talk to the ladies or make eye contact with them... last Friday there was a girl who caught my eye for sure... She was with another client chatting with him and when she got up she glanced at me over her shoulder and smiled and I about melted. Took another 1.5 hours and two beers to actually get the nerve to make a second or two eye contact when she got close to me but she sat down and we chatted... Her name was Paige she was from out of town and she was incredibly pretty, smart, sexy and sassy. Has a great personality and made me feel welcome and appreciated pretty quick! She was super patient given that I have 0 knowledge of how this stuff works we went to the CR where she gently nudged the do's and do not's without ever making it feel awkward... as I normally just leave my hands on the chair cause I don't really know how it all works :) She was exactly what I liked I never felt rushed she chatted on and off the whole time but it felt different from my other dances. I never felt like a $ even though when we chatted she was very open with how things work etc.. Needless to say she was the first dancer in my 38 years I had to go to the bank machine for... and she was the first dancer ever I went back one week later to see her before she left town ... she remember my face treated me nice sat and chatted had a drink with me never rushed ... I would highly suggest to meet with Paige and have a dance with her! She is like candy for the eyes and the brain ... Hopefully she'll come back to Ottawa and I'm lucky enough to meet up somehow :)