I am just asking for this general question for curiosity
To answer my own question: I am using providers as I was in a bad marriage for 19 years. After the birth of my daughter, sex was very infrequent and I mean once or twice a year. The last two years I did not have sex with her at all. That along with a there things, we finally broke up. I actually tried to get in the swing circuit, but it was very hard for me to jump in as a single male. I started to date a woman, but we lived over an hour away from each other and I still had the need to make up for lost time thus me becoming a hobbyist.
Whats your story?