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I meant what I said, and I said what I meant. But really, can an elephant be faithful, 100 percent?

This recommendation is long overdue. I recently had reason to make a coast to coast trip and I arranged a stop over in Vancouver while en route. The trip was scheduled months in advance and immediately that I realized where I was going and who was in Vancouver I made contact with Samantha to see about the possibility of spending an evening together. The idea of being in Vancouver and not attempting to make contact with this wonderful lady was simply not an option for me. I was most pleased when Samantha agreed to meet. I ended up leaving the Maritimes on a flight that left at 6 AM, meaning that I was up and on the go at 4. I arrived in Vancouver after flying for 7 ½ hours before noon BC time on the appointed day. As we were planning to meet for dinner at 5, I went down to the waterfront and walked around enjoying the sunny weather. Samantha and I had exchanged a number of PMs over the months that I have been a member so we were both at least a little familiar with each other in that context, and of course with me reading her many and varied and well thought out forum contributions I was very excited to meet her but also very nervous of it as well. Samantha arrived promptly at 5 and we spent a few minutes in the hotel to say hello and make a brief acquaintance. She has a great smile and a great personality and we moved from our email contact to a much more personal and face to face level very quickly. As she put it, it was like meeting a friend, and I felt exactly the same way. We went for dinner and it was a most delightful few hours that we spent together there. The several hours flew by. She is even more interesting and intriguing in person than she is as I know her through her writing. We covered such a variety of topics - from personal, to Cerb related, to whales, to professional interests and more, and I am certain that we could have continued for many additional hours. Following dinner we retired to my room and our mutual exploration of each other continued but in a very different context. Suffice it to say that this time also flew by and was a perfect culmination to a perfect evening. Over the months that she and I have corresponded, including time long before we ever thought that there was a realistic chance of actually meeting, Samantha has helped me a great deal in various personal contexts. She is an amazing person who is genuine and caring and in person, she did exactly that for me again. It was a privilege for me to have met this wonderful woman and she treated me to an evening that I shall treasure over time. I look forward to a future opportunity to meet her and further explore together. Thank you Samantha for being all that you are.

Sometimes one can have a tendency to find yourself in a period of down time, when you have the blahs, when you are just out of sorts and nothing just seems quite right or quite good enough or quite satisfying enough. For some it may be pretty easy to go to that place, others go there rarely and the fortunate few perhaps never go there at all. For me of late I seem to go there more frequently than I wish to or certainly need to, and luckily for me I recognize it and take steps to alleviate it. One of my steps is to look at whatever it is, and then pull out the good from it, because there are always bright sides when one wishes to take that perspective. For example, I recently broke my leg, and that certainly hampers my mobility, and everything that I do takes way longer than it used to. But then, if it were the other leg that I broke I would not be driving at all for six weeks. If I had not had the experience in previous times in my life when I learned how to use crutches and my wheelchair extensively, then this would not be as easy as it is. And a neighbour brought me biscuits and banana bread last night because of it. I am a fortunate man. For the first Christmas ever, one of my kids will not be home for the holidays. But I am retired, and I can travel, and I am going to go see her for a few days at her home in December and we will have our own little personal Christmas. I am a fortunate man My wife passed away totally unexpectedly a little over a year ago, and yes, it is hateful. But I look at her things and I smile and I look at pictures from my mind and I smile. I recall our times of being together for forty years, and I smile. I am a fortunate man. I have an amazing family and amazing friends all of whom support me and help me, no matter what. I am a fortunate man. What is truly amazing is that I have Cerb friends. Friends that in some cases, I have never even met. I have people that I could write a personal email to who would give of their time to reply with their wisdom and compassion and humour and best wishes. I am a fortunate man. Perspective is everything. We just need to remember it sometimes. We are all fortunate if we decide to choose that point of view. I am now smiling as I write this. So what is your perspective?

Welcome back Penelope :). It is nice to see you back and that you are doing well. Every small step forward is a step in the right direction. May your strength and perseverence continue to serve you well.

One can never be too well showered and scrubbed and clean for an encounter and when that can happen with a shared shower or bath then all the better. As has been pointed out however, after that. whatever happens happens and one cannot change ones metabolic nature. That being said, an incredible turn on for me is when I see women who have such personal self confidence that they can go out and exercise and do physical activity and be involved in strenuous athletics and be absolutely drenched in sweat. How sexy is that! That may be a pretty silly statement for some, but I know many women who would be mortified to be seen in that state.

Congratulations Cat. I would like to say just how much I appreciate your posts. You are a woman that has intrigued me (and many others I know) with your way of ever so clearly expressing yourself with such wisdom and honesty. So again, congratulations and thank you for all of your contributions that have helped to make Cerb a very special community for people such as I.

You are never too old to just want to sit on the couch with a woman, eat popcorn, and have the evening evolve into an amazing makeout session.

This could be a rambling response, as recommendations for me have become an issue - a personal issue. In the early days, I did not write reccos at all for the first number of encounters. I did not feel confident enough to do so as a new member, and wondered who would even read them much less take any stock in them. As time went on, I realized that after a woman had taken my interest through her posts and contributions that I would then go on to look at the recommendations made for her. I am 100% confident that the reccos did not result in final decisions for me as to whether I would contact them or not, but having read them I am sure that it must have had at least some influence. Influence however is the key word here for me with my personal dilemma about writing them. What 'works' for me might not necessarily work for someone else. I do not like being in a position of influencing others. Every person is different. I realize that I am way more 'into' a personal connection than many CERB members are. When I have written reccos, for the most part they dwell on that personal connection and are written from the heart. I take that as a personal goal to present the lady in a respectful manner and to share some of the personal characteristics that I found so intriguing and amazing. To write with the "same format" each time for me would be meaningless. At the same time, as I have said in previous threads, I have never ever had an encounter that was not pleasant, unique, or repeatable. But I have not written reccos for all of them. Why, I am not entirely sure. Perhaps one that I delayed for so long was one that meant to me so very much on a purely personal level and I did not want to share it. That was wrong because every SP deserves recognition and if I as a client can help them be more successful, I do feel an obligation to them to do so. Generally I feel that I am at least a decent writer, and a positive person, and most of my reccos reflect what I have spoken about above. I hate the idea of comparing one woman with another, and would never ever do that on paper. I do not like to do it even in my head. Every experience is and has been unique. As I said I would do I know I have rambled, but for me reccos are a difficult aspect of the CERB experience.

Childhood dreams. Well the usual was to be an astronaut, but that did not come to be. Next was a pro football player and then, of all things, a teacher. The pro football was truly ever so close and declining to go to a pro training camp is probably the only major mistake I ever made in my life. So teacher it was, and loved it. Well except for little Johnny, and then there was George, and then there was Cathy. But yeah, I did love it. Now when I grow up, I want to be a male SP. Oh well, it is called childhood dreams, right? :)

Dr. Who?????

But is it an emergency?

Three weeks tomorrow. Shopping for it almost done. One adult item, and one very cuddly item for a child. Oh oh. It is more cuddly than I am. That could be a mistake. See you all soon. :)

Porn is something that is available when I am alone. The WHOLE point, for me of meeting someone is to meet someone. One on one. The two of us. Simple question for me. As for environment, hotel rooms are always the same, and not reflective of the persons individuality. I truly enjoy meeting in my surroundings or theirs. For me it enhances the experience.

Just a WAY better day than yesterday. Snow tires on for the winter yet to come. Some Christmas shopping done. And three weeks from today I set out for Ottawa and then points west for the social. :)

Whoo Hooo Malika, my little pink haired girl, at least in your heart. Congratulations from way to the East of you on 2000 posts! See you soon to give you a real hug to go along with this.

Well, my voyage on Cerb has been totally one of exploration. The more one explores and the more one fulfills, the more one realizes what is still unfullfilled. Mudbaths Erin? I might be in. :) You are carving a new niche perhaps. :)

I like Alexandra-Sky because she is the person that started this great thread, because when I met her briefly at the May social she was so genuine and personable, and when she contributes to thread topics her views are well informed and must reads. :)

Splng cofee nto yourlaptop and you see what hppens. Grr4rrrr

I like Lee because I never know what he is going to say next in a post or in the Shoutbox. Still waiting for him to come East for that beer though. :)

A beautiful day for a drive home from NB and a short visit with a friend along the way.

Ones personal privacy and personal anonymity in relation to involvement with CERB are exactly that, personal. In reading the various posts over time I see both men and women who are very open with their involvement and those who probably would come under the category of being paranoid, and for each of us our reasons are valid. My situation Castle is very similar to your own. No SO, no potential issues related to work, and nothing that ultimately would cause me serious issues were I 'discovered.' I am completely aware that over the time that I have been a member and because of the nature of much of my writing, that a determined person could probably identify me. The specific posts that I have written that would allow that to happen were knowingly submitted because they were very important to me personally, much perhaps in the same sense as your avatar is to you? I have had after communication back and forth with some SP's no issue with giving my real name, email address or phone number to them, and I have not had nor do I expect any negative repercussions from that. In fact, that personal trust has been returned to me in kind. For me, an underlying belief about CERB, about the nature of what I have become involved with, is that there is no shame, there is nothing morally or ethically wrong with my participation, and that the women (and men) I have had the good fortune to meet are amazing people. So no I am not putting my face picture on here, nor signing with my real name in public, but neither do I feel paranoid about someone putting two and two together. I am a lucky person to be in that situation.

Congratulations Julia for all of your contributions. I enjoy reading your posts so looking forward to the next 500.

Have a Happy Birthday Lexy. :)

My highlight today other than in the fact that it was just a really good day was that I wrote a simple little thing that made me realize that I still possess the spirit of idealism and optimism. Feels kind of good. :)

Oh to be a fly on the wall Malika. :) But I shall try not to be a wallflower this time.:) I am so looking forward to renewing some past acquaintances and meeting some of the people that I have not yet had the pleasure to meet before.