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Getting into Ottawa this afternoon after hearing about such wonderful weather all summer, having a biking loop planned to do, and it is so windy that I may (WILL) postpone my first bike ride until tomorrow! But the good news is that tomorrow should be a PERFECT day!

Well well well. Old Dog hit 2000 posts! That's not like utility posts is it? Keep it up and we enjoy your contributions.

Just as an aside, the comment about stereotypes struck a nerve. IF we all reacted and responded to prevailing and existing stereotypes, then perhaps none of us would have discovered the women of CERB and therefore learned just how wrong stereotypes are. I have had my mind opened to an incredible world of intriguing women and THAT negative stereotype that certainly was there is gone forever.

No I would not do it in an unrespectful manner, but it would be very clear as to what I think of his character and manipulative tendancies and and and.... Would you switch jobs with Stephen Harper for one week, with all the associated responsibilities included?

Congratulations hardly covers it Samantha. It is more like a very sincere thank you for your contributions to CERB. I am certain that many of us look forward to seeing your name beside a post, knowing that when we read we will be treated to a well thought out and extremely well written opinion. Well done Samantha and thank you. May you never have "writers block."

The very best purses, as visual accessories, are those that women wear over a shoulder with one strap between the breasts. A defining quality in more than one way. I really have to figure how to insert images on here!

When the first baby laughed for the first time, the laugh broke into a thousand pieces and they all went skipping about, and that was the beginning of fairies. - James M. Barrie Happy birthday Samantha from across the ways.

Service Providers Are Simply Magnificent Next: ANGEL

Would you buy me a drink at the next social??? You only get a drink on me if you are lucky. I am dropping off a bottle of wine as a doorprize, so Old Dog you can try to stuff the ballot box. But, if I was there, it would be my privelege. :) Would someone give Angela and Nicki hugs and kisses for me at the social in my absence?

Angel with dark curly hair is pretty awesome. :) I am trying to visualize a blonde Angel. Oh it is dangerous for me when I start visualizing. Ahhh, hmm, a little logistical question from a guy who has zero experience with women wearing wigs. What happens, if I would be so lucky, that said Angel is in control and has me just where she wants me and with my usual loss of rational thought, I pull her hair - oops, wig. One must consider that Murphy's Law rules. :)

No I would not, but only because I would have my Canadiens jersey on. Would you verbally ( but politely with no anymosity or abuse) protest from the visitors gallery in the House of Commons?

I have had several 'revelations' of late and they have caused me to try to put them in print, wondering if this is common for hobbyists or perhaps even for SP's. There have been a number of threads started previously and well responded to regarding relationships between SP and client, friendships between SP and client, and for me this aspect of CERB has been the source of questions about what is real, what is not, what are the boundaries, and where are the boundaries blurred. I am meeting with someone in the near future that I am terribly excited about. It will occur over a significant period of time and much of the activity will not be in a hotel bedroom - much will be like being a couple together, having a picnic, doing an extended physical outdoor activity, visiting a nice restaurant and I know there will be lots of talking about lots of things. It will be the most like a 'girlfriend' experience that I will have experienced. Another SP wrote me a note recently suggesting that I need a girlfriend, and she has suggested previously to me that maybe I should not be relying on the 'pay as you go', approach as I have been doing but perhaps looking elsewhere in the 'real' world. The fact is of course that for reasons of my own I do not wish to have a girlfriend or a relationship. The Catch 22 is that I REALLY enjoy personal contact - just the chance to engage in normal fun day to day sorts of things with a woman that can include anything from going out to dinner, having a walk on a nature trail , whatever, and yes of course more than that as well. The more that one partakes in these sort of activities with a paid companion the more one appreciates just what wonderful people the SP's are but the more that traditional thoughts and feelings learned over a lifetime kick in. Spending longer amounts of time with women that I like does cause me to enjoy their company even more. It can bring questions to mind about what if we had met under different circumstances outside of this industry. I also cannot believe that sometimes SP's don't have the same thoughts or questions about the occasional client that they meet regularly. Hence, the title of this thread, Time Donations - A Security Blanket. For me, it is that time donation that I use to remind myself of what is going on and helps me to keep things in their proper perspective. The time donation is what separates the reality from the fantasy and reminds me that I am merely a patron of some fascinating women who have brought the art of being a courtesan to the level of an art form. For me, money does not grow on trees and is not in unlimited supply, but I do not begrudge the costs of this. It is that very thing, the time donation, that helps me to keep this in perspective and to maintain the boundaries that could probably become very blurred if one were not careful to think this through. I am just thinking aloud and wondering if in fact there are others here, men and women alike who consciously remind themselves about the role that the time donation plays, besides the obvious one of being a cost or an income. Is it a security blanket for me alone?

Gabriella and Carley? Hmmm, I wonder what they have cooking? Two beautiful, sexy and personable women. Just the thought is a story in itself.:)

Not the voice of great experience here, but, I am VERY confident that if you set up to use Visa or MC that on each transaction they will keep a percentage of the amount charged on the card, out of your pocket. I believe that it is in the area of 3%. From a volunteer organization that I was a part of, I believe that I recall there was also a monthly fee that would be to you of $50 from Visa, regardless of whether it is used or not. For myself, I am a firm believer in electronic funds transfers. It is totally anonymous for you as the receiver. The sender need not know your real name, any bank information, only an email account that you can set up at gmail, or wherever. I have put out enough $ in the last year that I would love to have had the airmiles that come from using a credit card however :), but as I said, credit cards carry a fee for you. Hope this helps and that it is accurate.

No I would not. Would you let an SP shave your pubic area and balls and find it a turn on, or vice versa, would you as an SP shave his pubic area and balls and find it a turn on?

Dear God, PLEASE let that be a lie. :) Not a chance of that happening unless I get that million dollars mentioned on the last page in which case I would have all the help I would need. Would you studiously avoid speaking to an SP/hobbyist who you have met, if you coincidentally saw her/him at a large group mix and mingle social activity that had no bearing on CERB activities?

I have just now heard this news and am so sorry to hear it. Mr Layton was a Canadian first and foremost and one of the rare political leaders of recent times who stood by his principles rather than respond depending on which way the wind was blowing. Canada will miss his idealism and determination and his passing leaves a huge gap for us in having a voice to speak for the common Canadian. Blessings to his family and friends.

As a patron of paid companions I have come to appreciate that there can be critical issues of trust and that these issues do indeed apply to both parties in the arrangement. As a patron, one wishes to feel assured that you are going to meet with the lady that you thought you were going to see, that you will be in a safe environment, that the interchange will be fun and respectful, and that your own personal information is treated confidentially. All of those same considerations are due to the lady as well. For the patrons of CERB we have an opportunity to communicate ahead of time through PM's or sometimes email, texts or even through telephone calls. We can read contributions of the SP in the forums, we can read recommendations and I suppose even contact other gentlemen who have seen a specific SP. With time and care and due consideration, one can be reasonably assured that your privacy and other concerns will be met. For the SP's there is potential in some cases to do the same sorts of things. There is a difference however. It is their body that they are choosing to share with us, in many cases it is their own personal space that they are choosing to share with us, and ultimately it is their decision as to whether to meet us. I am only surprised with the apparent number of SP's who do take last minute bookings, and I always wonder just how safe they really are? Every encounter involves two people, each of whom have their own ways and means of providing for their own protection. Each party has the absolute right to determine what it is that they need to know in advance. If and when that need to know becomes too much for the other party, then a, "Thanks, but not this time," is all that is required, from either one. I do believe that it is uneven ground, and that it is the women who need to be even more careful than the men. So do what you need to do to feel comfortable and safe. We will work with it.

I would not. Not a chance! I DO recall the odd dream now and then. :) If an aquaintance of the opposite sex who you know only to a minor degree invited you to go to a small swingers gathering with them, would you attend?

Happy Birthday Soleil. May your day today be happy and the coming year be one of peace and happiness.

I believe that it would be redundant for me to post my nominees as they have all I believe been previously nominated, and most multiple times. What a nice gesture it is to be able to participate in such a positive aspect of CERB and to have found myself in such rarified company. Thank you for that! I have not been involved in this previously, so I am now wondering about voting. I see that the date is Sept 5th, and I know that I shall be away and with less regular access to a computer. Is it a one day procedure or is it held over a period of time? Perhaps Mod will let me vote in an advanced poll? :)

The French say, 'Les yeux sont le miroir de l'dme (The eyes are the mirror of the soul) and variations of that go back centuries. I love the eyes. Intimate eyes. Questioning eyes. Loving eyes. Disappointed eyes. Inquisitive eyes. Sensual eyes. Laughing eyes. "Fuck me," eyes. Mysterious eyes. Sparkling eyes. "Are you sure," eyes. Helpless eyes. "Don't stop," eyes. Orgasmic eyes. One can carry on a conversation with your eyes alone. J'adore les yeux.

Although this thread was not started by me, it was initiated as a result of a comment that I had made elsewhere. To this point I have been merely reading and digesting the thoughts and opinions expressed by others, and it does seem as if there is a consensus developing. I am going to present a dissenting opinion, dissenting in the sense of a viewpoint that takes into consideration some very personal aspects of my situation. Every person involved with CERB has their own very personal reasons for doing so and everyone's situations are different. What I would like to express is going to cause some to think that I am living in a fairytale world and to others it will probably just appear as being corny or too much. I am widowed with three adult children. I have always been close with my girls, but until recently never in the way that they were with their mother. They were like four best friends rather than a mother and 3 daughters. Since my wife passed away I have become closer with my kids than at any time ever in our lives. They have introduced me to the world of texting and there are constant little messages back and forth, and yes, they are watching out for me and watching over me. It is pretty touching actually, but as it relates to CERB, rather inconvenient. None of them live with me or even close by. For me to visit an SP normally requires a minimum of a four hour trip each way that often results in an overnight. My kids know that I am not home, and I lie to them. I HATE that. I hate making up stories, I hate even lying by omission. So with certainty, my first reason for wanting them to know that I am seeing SP's is 100% selfish, it will make me feel better. My biggest concern is that I also know that initially they will look at this as a betrayal of their mother, by me. THAT is why I am thinking long and hard about this and have to ask myself if it is worth it. My kids are smart. It won't take too many "mystery" disappearances before they will be talking amongst themselves. They probably already are doing so. Yes, I am parent, and the idea of a parent being sexual may not be their preferred image, but they saw the intimacy their mother and I had and they know that it extended to the bedroom. They have to be wondering how I am coping with that aspect of my loss already. My kids are smart. With proper preparation on my part, and yes, with time, I am confident that they would be OK with this. A bottom line for me is that I am not looking for or interested in a girlfriend, or a relationship, or a wife. I had my soulmate and I know it as do they. Several SP's have recommended a book to me entitled The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy as a means of further educating myself but also as a resource for my kids. I have only recently started to read it, and I shall consider that information as well. A whole new paradigm for sure. Am I going to do this tomorrow or next week. No. Am I going to think long and hard? Yes. Have I decided what is best for them? No. And ultimately, what I think is best for them is where I shall go. It may well turn out to be that the 'unspoken secret' that they will figure out all by themselves is best for all. I really do not know what I shall decide. I have received a few PM's from CERB members when they saw this thread, wondering what good could come of it, and just cautioning me to think about it. It is those sort of little PM's that have made this community a special place for me. This sounds corny, but is very real. I want to be open and honest. I trust my kids and that they will accept what is best for me . I do not want to lie. I am not ashamed of meeting such amazing women as those that I have met. Every time I lie to my children I am in my own way putting the SP's that I have met into that stereotypical nether land of being people to be ashamed of. You don't deserve that from me. Thinking, thinking, thinking. Learning, learning, learning. Thank you Cerb.

Happy Birthday Steve from one Islander to another.

Happy birthday Scott, and may the day bring in the start to a fun and exciting year.