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Duos Are Really The Hottest Next: VADER

T is for Tumultuous encounters

Masturbation Includes Lascivious Kinky Yearnings Next: HOTEL

R is for R&R...... a great reason for an erotic encounter.

Where should I start? !! I have made references in many other forum contributions to the classic stereotypes and to the many ways in which I have discovered them to be false. These stereotypes are assigned to sex workers and as noted in that crazy 'study', to clients as well. I have met a friend on here who has tried to explain to me how vocabulary usage has evolved and is now changing again. In particular when I questioned her use of the words slut, and queer, and how for me they had a derogatory connotation, she explained how these words are being "reclaimed" and used with pride and purposeful intent by the people to whom they have been applied. Perhaps the word 'john' needs to be reclaimed? I am a John. I am not in any way the John as described in the study. I treat all women and sex workers with respect. I do not buy women. I do pay women for the time that they spend with me. I do have an expectation of sex and intimacy, but honestly, I never have preconceptions. What will be will be. I do NOT expect women to 'perform' or carry out any activity with which they are not comfortable. I would go even further in saying that I do NOT expect women to 'perform' or carry out any activity that is not pleasurable or enjoyable to them. Do I live in a dream world? No. I do know that there are women who are abused and mistreated. I have zero respect for any individual who would treat a woman in that way. As a John, as with all Johns, there are reasons for our participation. My own are very personal and do not involve seeking activities that my wife/girlfriend will not participate in. Sex and intimacy are basic human needs. I need them to be met. I am not going to seek a girlfriend and pretend that there is a future in order for sex and intimacy to occur with her. I am not going to go to singles bars. (Afraid I would be the last man standing there at last call.) What I do, I do with foreknowledge, with respect, and with a certainty that I am not doing anything morally wrong. It emotionally hurts a great deal to know that in many ways what I do is considered to be illegal. This entire issue is presenting a moral dilemma as well. I see and know of women out there who are standing up, being public, intervening in court cases and fighting for their rights. They are also fighting for my rights as they do so. To this point I am a bystander. I cannot think of another situation in my life where I sat back and let someone else fight my battles. I know myself well enough to know that if and when push comes to shove, then I will be there too. Am I ready to precipitate my action? Not yet, and it is in large degree because of the existing stereotypes for both sex workers and their Johns. Like I say, a moral dilemma.

I have similar thoughts as previously expressed here. I love the butterflies and anticipation, but perhaps primarily I have come to enjoy meeting new people as people and not primarily as SP's. I have been blown away (and yes, pun intended) by the women that I met and I love the way that they have shattered every single stereotype that I had when I first began to be involved in this. That is a very important thing. As with any individuals that one meets there are some with whom you develop or have a connection with for whatever reasons they might be. I know with certainty that when some of the women that I have met decide to retire, or when I decide to retire, that there will still be some communication on a friends level. That is a pretty neat and unexpected development, and ever so much appreciated. The SP's that I have met are VERY good at what they do, and in every case have made me feel welcome, and important and interesting and appreciated. They have demonstrated a sense of professionalism and pride in what they do but intertwined with a very personal interest in me as a person. And, the sex is awesome and their willingness and ability to help me "expand my horizons," is a whole other dimension that has helped me to grow as a person.

Oh how some of you are such free spirits. :) For me, giving her an orgasm in a convertible as we crossed Confederation Bridge. On top of a picnic table in our campsite in a National Park. And THAT was soooo out of character for us that it is a "forever" memory. Fun thread!

I am certain that there are a wide variety of approaches to how this is handled. I generally bring along a little something, and it tends to vary from person to person. Being a PEI person sometimes a "something" from PEI makes me feel like an ambassador. Wonder if I can get a provincial grant under tourism. :) I have brought roses, and wines, but perhaps the one thing that I most enjoy is when the women have indicated a charity or an organization that they support. I brought along a small donation for POWER when I visited Ottawa and another lady that I met supports families each year at Christmas time. That is a favorite little gift to bring along.

Excellent thread. Makes me realize that it is time to take my head out of the sand! As a person who until very recently had no reason to require or request STI testing, I am in research mode at the moment. Being from PEI I discovered that testing is normally arranged through a family doctor. There is no anonymous testing clinic available here, but AIDS PEI has information about and will actually set up an anonymous testing appointment in Moncton. Their website is http://www.aidspei.com/education/prevention/testing-services/ It appears as if most but not all provinces in Canada do have anonymous testing sites available. The anonymity factor is important to me being here in such a small community. This topic has raised questions for me of course. What would the "normal" frequency be for testing? I am curious if most SP's do this on a regular basis? Is it something appropriate to ask about as a client? Thanks for bringing this topic forward though I expect that if I search the forums I shall find current threads that will answer my questions.

Different context from here, but as I read the final paragraph I just thought, "I WISH I had the opportunity to rekindle something that is now impossible." Staying in context, Daniel, your personal confidence is a great thing to see. :)

I have such an appreciation for WIT in so many areas. His contributions to the legal threads and the news threads always take my interest and reading time, and I marvel at how much "work" he puts into CERB that is so invaluable to so may of us. I have learned a lot from WIT. TY And hey, another fellow Maritimer.:)

Just about anything I write here after the first key word is probably extraneous information. The word is.... Anticipation From the moment I decide that I would like to schedule a date with someone then the anticipation begins. It is very unusual that I would seek a "last minute" encounter, so we are often talking weeks or in some cases months between an initial contact and an actual meeting. I love that time. I am always nervous about it, even with women who I have seen before, but the nervousness is a pleasant nervousness. The butterflies are working overtime and the closer to the actual meeting, the more they fly around! I truly enjoy email contact between us along the way as it adds so much to have an appreciation for personality, interests, and commonalities, or in most cases, differences. Because of geography I usually end up having a 4 - 6 hour drive to get there and then I have a hotel booking to check in to, to get a rest, cleaned up, and let my mind wander. As I have evolved through these experiences I have discovered that women are not mind readers (I am a slow learner sometimes), yet at the same time the idea of scripting an encounter moment by moment is not something that I like to do either. General ideas now tend to be something that we will chat about, but I love surprise and mystery. Never have I been disappointed. :) As I write I know that I am going travelling later this week, and as each day passes and each little note is exchanged I am becoming more comfortable yet more nervous and all at the same time. Isn't this all so exciting and fascinating.:) Ultimately that deep breath taken the moment before I knock on a door, or when the knock comes on my door is accompanied by such a feeling of "Oh wow, this is awesome. I am glad that I am here."

What did Indiana Jones seek in his first adventure? Answer: Curly, Larry or Moe

NEXT: GABIL Gabby Arouses Base Instinctual Lust Next: CREAM

M is for mutual masturbation. Very erotic. :)

Next ACORN Amorous Cuddling Occassionally Requires Nudity Next: SLEEP

I is for intelligent women....the ultimate turn on.

I think that Cathy is pretty awesome for the way in which she has helped open up my mind and for being such a genuinely nice lady. :)

I love it when one gets a beautiful evening, the bonfire is going, the smoke is rising straight up and there is good company to share it with.

Who sang the classic song, "Dead Skunk in the Middle of the Road"? Next Answer: John McCurdy

What is the Oprah Winfrey Network? Next Answer: Craigellachie

I like Alexandra because when I met her at the social she was one of the most friendly and natural people that I met. And, she has a great sincere smile.:) Oops, overlapped with you too Sara, so I say to you that I really like your tattoos. :)

I have been following this thread virtually from its inception, and have stayed out of it because I tend to not comment on topics where emotions and personal feelings have been hurt or people may have written things that because of the way they were written can be taken in various contexts. However, I do feel that I want to add my two cents worth. For me I am beginning to believe that I have been incredibly lucky with the encounters that I have arranged. I have not met a lady that I did not like, and I have met only ladies who went out of their way to provide a wonderful personal experience that demonstrated their interest in me and showed their professional pride in what she does. However, is that all luck? I do read a lot of forum contributions and far more than reccos, they are the things that cause me to make contacts. So maybe there is luck, but then there is also thought and "work and research". Maybe that is the more important factor. I LOVE the positivity that I generally find throughout Cerb postings. I find it awkward when negative connotations appear in public forums. I have not ever had cause to want to do this, but, if and ever I do find myself in an encounter that is not going well, or that did not include what I have come to consider common sense practices on hygiene, safety, personal interaction, then I hope that I would have enough courtesy to speak to the individual personally rather than bring it through this sort of a forum. I am and remain a committeed CERB member and have no interest at all in seeking out other review boards or avenues. Success breeds success. Well done to all of the members who have been so welcoming to me and to others for their contributions, their incredibly educational and informative pieces of writing, and for helping break all of those stereotypes that I came with only six months ago.

Along the same lines as Angela, I recall seeing the Farewell Tour for Bob Dylan and The Band in the Montreal Forum, again I believe in 1976! But, and this is sooo cool to me, I am 58 but know what, I don't feel the least bit old. :)