50 Shades Raven

getting a 4am call from a Halifax number, claiming to be in Fredericton for an outcall to 2 'party guys' when I'm in Saint John and do incall only til 10pm! Then badger me by text offering me drugs in exchange! No thanks, you just made it onto my 'never accept' list! Why do guys think it's ok to do this? Be respectful & don't offer me drugs, it's not acceptable to me in any way.

if you are sending a message through PM to an sp it is perfectly acceptable, if that is their chosen mode of communication. Some like calls, others text, some strictly email or through website contact page. Take a look at the ad of the lady of your choice and see which mode they prefer.

I just had some idiot ask me on my legitimate therapy ads on another site (for a registered therapist) if I did happy endings! Geez guys, if its on a legitimate site with a website connected to a clinic or a hospital, they probably won't be giving anyone services like this! Please don't ask for services like this of legitimate therapists, it just pisses them off.

butter chicken (home made not store bought), jasmine rice with cilantro and curry, and a lovely cold reisling to wash it down with ;-)

you might want to let people know where you are located? That way someone can let you know. Or, you could look through the listings in the area where you are ........

go into the Ottawa section on the main page and choose which area you wish to advertise in, then just place your ad :-)

a new cell phone! thought it was time to try another brand :-)

hello Mona and welcome to Lyla :-) I have on my website a note (in a couple of places) that states that I do not see any one under the influence in any way. I'm pretty sure there are a few girls out there in the system on other pages that will condone this activity, but if you are looking to inform a potential guest that you don't see anyone that is 'under the influence' it's perfectly ok to say so. it is not being bitchy or preachy at all to let people know that you are uncomfortable with this. Happy playtimes :-)

@50ShadesRaven

there are a few resident providers in Saint John, I being one of them. We do list ourselves in the listings for Saint John, and visiting ladies will also list their availability in that section also.

thank you everyone for your comments and voting. I have tightened my screening a lot more since this. I have found that if you have booked with me once and ncns, I may give you a chance, but twice, then it's a complete blocking from calling/text & from email. I value my time, and in my time I have to schedule for such things as shopping, social time, sleep time, work time, play time and just plain 'me' time. Yes I love my 'playtime' with guests, but guests that wish to waste my time will not be gracing my presence. A lot of effort goes into scheduling, booking, making sure my location is neat, clean & fresh. Just as any other professional service, we make ourselves available for you at certain times. If you cannot make your designated appointment, be courteous, let us know. I have only ever had to cancel one appointment in the years that I have been providing this, and it was because I was involved in an accident (a real one). Not only was the gentleman gracious enough to forgive me for cancelling our time together once I told him what happened, but he covered my hotel bills because I had to stay longer than I had planned in that city. It was generosity without reciprocation and I feel truly blessed that there are real gentlemen out there that feel this way about us. That gentleman is someone that I will always make time whenever possible :-) As for the consistent ncns guys, they will soon find out that not one girl will want to see them when they have ran through the list and have exhausted it. We do remember great experiences and really bad ones. It's the ncns that I have a on a personal block list that I will never see. Thank you again to this community on Lyla, your input is fabulous :-)

'whats your availability today for an hour?' 'I have 6pm and 11pm available' 'can I come between 12 and 1?' 'no, I'm sorry but I don't have availability then, 6pm is the earliest' 'I can't guarantee I'll be free then, so if you can't do noon then just forget it!' This guy texted me at 11:45am! and he's about a 20 minute drive from me when there is no traffic. Sorry, but a little bit of notice would be good, and I happen to not be at my location, there are sometimes when we girls go to the hair salon in order to keep looking good :-) **update** sheesh, its 12:10pm and he's now asking 'are you sure you're not available at noon?' I'm pretty sure I know when my availability is lol, right now in a salon waiting for my appointment at 12:15pm lol ** Please guys, give us a break when it comes to our availability, we do have other things that we do sometimes :-)

ladies & gentlemen, for a bit of entertainment (for myself lol), I thought I would ask what are some of the dumbest questions you have been asked or that you have asked someone? Here are some of the dumbest questions I have been asked: - how much for the $200 encounter? (kinda like asking what's the number to 911) - I know you said incall but can you drive out to me? I'm only 90 minutes out of town? - what does $15 get me? (me answering my door and taking the money for a starbucks!) - I'm so good you'll want to pay me, is that ok? If you have asked, or been asked a dumb question, let others know .... could be a great form of entertainment. It doesn't have to relate to providers (but those are funny), it can be anything you have asked (or been asked) that you find weird.

'can I come see you in 10 minutes'? love this, especially when my ads state 1-2 hour notice required! What do guys think sometimes, that we are sitting around all day at our incall in lingerie, never going out anywhere ever, just in case they call? I'm 90 minutes away in another city

I get quite a few requests for bookings that will come in the form of a PM. Of course I look to see the persons profile. I also look at what they have posted, how active they are on here and look at their stats. What I find most of the time is there is absolutely nothing in their profiles in the 'about me' section, that section contains zero information. When I am looking at this, I have no idea what gender you are nor do I know which country (let alone province) you are located in. An SP or MA's profile usually contains information about us. Things like what we are all about, our gender, pictures and a general area of where we are located are all contained within our profiles It is extremely frustrating when someone has a great rapport with me over communication in a booking, only to find out in the end that they are 3000 miles away from me because of the simple fact that they didn't even look at where I am located! I do post in the shout box, but I always put the location of where I am at that time. I do tour, and I will announce an upcoming tour in the shout box also so that anyone wishing to book for a certain location will know exactly when I will be in their city. Having a general idea of where you gentlemen are, whether that be western Canada, central or East coast, it would be nice to know that we are actually in the same region. This would end frustration of going through an entire booking only to find out it will take you 6 hours to drive/fly to me to have your appointment. Is there a reason the gentlemen don't state which region they are located in? I had someone tell me they don't put the region they are in as someone may figure out who they are ...... when you are using a handle instead of your actual name, just naming the province you are in and at least having your gender listed, who on earth is going to be able to figure out if this is you or not? Some gentlemen have their actual city listed, but at least the province or region would be nice.

The best con line I received was 'I sent you an e-transfer and it didn't go through and my bank doesn't work online, I will send you the fee when I get home' (which was about 5 hours from where I was) Needless to say that guy is never seeing me. If your banking isn't online, how in the hell were you expecting to send me anything. Another bs story. There are a lot of 'photoshoot' cons going on, over the past number of years, we all get them once in a while, all bogus. It's just a way of a guy to get nudes of you for free

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why don't you post that in the reco section?

Hello chocho, here are some answers that might help :-) I was wondering what's the proper etiquette on how to do all this? 1. Does the time start right away? depending on who you are seeing, being on time for an appointment is necessary, there are very few 'clock watchers' on this site, so there is usually a few minutes leway on your booked time 3. exchange pleasantries first? Absolutely! Having a bit of a conversation at first is a great way to break the ice 4. Do you pay immediately or after and do you actually give it to them or is it the whole "oh i dropped this" kind of deal. This depends on if you are going to a club/spa, and MA or an independent provider. As an independent provider I like this upfront. I ask during booking that it be left on a table as you enter. This gets it out of the way and leaves all the room for enjoying your session. Reading ads & websites of ladies of your choice will familiarize you with how they like this to take place. 5. Do we tip or not?Although tips are never expected, they are most certainly welcomed :-) If you feel that a provider has gone out of their way to make you feel comfortable & you have enjoyed yourself, then by all means leave a tip Last but not least, do read the ads and check websites as to how the ladies like to have communication. Some like text, others by PM, some by phone call, others by email, many through their website contact pages. It is important to introduce yourself a little and communicate in the lady's preferred manner. Hopefully this will give you some insight, and happy hobbying :-)

Having lunch with that certain someone special ;-) Made my week, not just my day!

MistressPandora, I also will not 'tolerate rude people'. I do not like explicit text or negotiators either.(the fact that negotiation is against therules on here) But some of them do not think these rules apply to them, they are the exception to the rule .....not It is unfortunate that he had to aire this out here with his seemingly derogatory comment. I thought the motto of this board was 'if you don't have anything nice to say, please do not say anything at all'. The fact that you have been in the business for 10+years without a blemish means that you are doing something right. He was just gunning for you from the get go. I never let anyone dictate to me how I should conduct myself or run my business, that is my affair.

Lets play a game :-) Do you feel it's right to ask for a deposit when a nc/ns is begging to book you again? Many book through the method that I have requested. After confirming their appointment, they disappear. We take the time to get ready, we turn down prospective clients as we are expecting someone and now no one is here. No call, not showing up, but then days later that same person wants a booking (with no thought to why they didn't appear in the first place). What would you do?

there will always be the idiots that actually don't read the ad itself, they just take the number and text/call it. I don't know how many times I've had to say to people that my availability and rates are clearly in my ad, but they want every little piece of information that is on my website in a call or text sent to them! Some guys think with the wrong space lol. I saw your ad, and I think it's as clear as crystal as to what you offer.

hello jasontrent, the advice you got from blowinsmoke is very accurate. Some of us advertise on multiple sites, such as cl, bp and many others. Reputable girls will have a website you will be able to peruse, so that you can get a general 'feel' on if you think that person suits your needs. A great way to find out if pictures are real is to put them through tineye. Multiple hits may come up, but in that, look to see if the ads are consistent (like I said, some of us post in multiple groups/forums), if there are differences in age, many different phone numbers, the person is in europe and posting here, chances are it could be fake. Another great resource is Cowboy Kennys diary. If its a faker, they will be found out and listed on there :-) Go through ads, check websites (if there is one), contact in the manner asked for. Make sure she is within your budget. Not everyone has reviews, I for one ask not to be reviewed without my permission, as everyones experience with me is going to be different from the next person. There are lots of wonderful local ladies and traveling ones, do your homework and you will have a fabulous time.

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