50 Shades Raven

all of him

A hug and a great kiss is always a good start, and end :) Nervousness is great for both, the anticipation of what is going to happen next is certainly a thrill for me, even when it's the 5th time that I have been together with the gentleman. You never really get to know someone totally even after many get-togethers, so for me, a kiss and a hug always is a great ice-breaker.

I agree with Jafo here, if we at least know which province you are in, it may help narrow down the parameters a little more. When you give a message to general discussion - all of Canada, no one knows where you are located, and may recommend someone to you that is across the country from you. Lots of ladies will have listed on their websites what their passions are, all you have to do is look into your local area to find ladies that enjoy what your passions are. happy hunting (oops, I have an 'unfriendly smiley on this, and it shouldn't be there and have no idea on how to remove it, my apologies)

As Darr mentioned, take a look at some ladies websites, see who interests you, contact them in the manner they wish and ask questions. All of us on here at Cerb will absolutely have you feel at ease, and answer your questions. There is always apprehension in meeting with a provider for the first time, and having maturity definitely goes a long way. Take your time, research who captures your interest and have fun :)

the repetitive texts and phone calls is what got to me. If you can't take the 2 minutes to read my website to find out more about me,what is going to make you think that i am going to spend 6 hours defining everything in my website to you just because you don't have the time to look at it! If your going to look at my site, great! But at the same time, take the time to see if I am compatible to you before you contact me. One person turned me down JUST because of my location, I was in a $600,000 condo in Dartmouth, but all he saw was Dartmouth and assumed it must be a run down area! Don't be turned off just because of a location, I happen to be in an area better than some high priced hotels in Halifax, but just across the bridge from it, basically, 'don't knock it till you've tried it'! It's what I offer inside my location that should count, not the area I chose to reside in.

All of us providers have our preferences of who we wish to provide services to. The fact that you are 21, but wish to state that to a provider, is advantageous on your part. Some providers have their reasons for only wanting to see clients above a certain age. Speaking strictly for myself, as long as a client is over the age of 19, I see no problem, as long as they are respectful. I've met clients who consider themselves mature in age only to be immature when they contact me or meet with me, and other clients that are quite young, but respectful and mature. It's not age to me that matters, it's attitude. In speaking for others, just be respectful of their wishes that perhaps you are a little too young for their liking. It's not being disrespectful to you, it's just their preference, just as you have a preference on the type of provider you wish to spend time with. Depending on where you are located, take a look through the ads in your local area, and contact providers after taking a look at their websites. Websites are a goldmine of information, and you may find a providers preferences there. Ask, and you will find a provider that doesn't mind the fact that you are quite young, and as long as you contact them they way they wish you to, things will work out just fine :) happy hunting

I used to display my phone number on my profile page and on my website, but discontinued doing so due to the enormous amounts of repetitive texts/calls I would receive from any one gentleman. Not that I mind answering the phone or texts, but to have over 1500 from one in particular, with no booking in sight, really made me have the final decision to remove my phone number completely and change my number. I will always be open to answering questions, but I do ask that anyone wishing to inquire do so through PM here, or through my contact page on my website. That way, I can have a more detailed question to answer. Should the gentleman be gracious enough to give his contact number and preferred way to communicate, then we can move forward. If the gentleman chooses not to reveal any way to contact him, then obviously we are not going to connect. I will always try to be as accommodating as possible to a gentleman, but please bear in mind that sometimes we, as providers, cannot answer our phones due to where we may happen to be at any particular moment in time. Discretion is a very large part of our business, and having a phone call at a very inconvenient moment takes that discretion away. I prefer to be in a private area with no distractions so that I may hear the gentleman and be able to answer his inquiries. Can't really do that when I'm standing in the line at the grocery store, or waiting in my doctors office waiting room. :) Patience is certainly a virtue, and I most certainly appreciate the gentlemen that do adhere to my request for PM or through contact. I, like them, am not available 24/7. I do sleep sometimes. I agree with Savannah, that if a gentleman wishes to communicate with me in the manner that I have chosen, then there is the start of compatibility. I do give the gentleman the option of having his phone number on my phone, that way, if he chooses to contact me again, I know who is calling and it does bypass the awkwardness of having to state that I am not in a good area, can I call you back in ten minutes. Great thread, will look forward to seeing some other reactions.

I think if you are going to question bbbj's then you have to question daty and even kissing. apparently kissing can also spread this. It's passed in the saliva, as the article I've included attests. I fully agree here. We all take precautions and are very aware our own hygiene. But with this strain of bacteria, it really does make us all take a look at who we are with and what we are doing. Due diligence on all sides would be useful here. Making sure that we all keep ourselves free from any forms of bacteria should be a part of daily living, but one never knows who the other person has been with. It will be up to providers to figure out what levels they are going to give in to when it comes to seeing gentlemen.

escort-site.com, which is what I use for my website, does all that for free

already have my toes painted! looking forward to the warm weather coming though, have to show off the toes!

what are turns offs for me? 1. sending 50 text messages asking the same dumb questions (to which the answers were, and always have been, in my website, and the reason I no longer accept text messages) 2. consistently cancelling the appointment without any notice at all (once someone has done this 3 times, I no longer book) 3. (agreeing with some of the other ladies here) aggressive gentlemen (and I use that phrase loosely here) that think I owe them something for them allowing themselves to contact me in the first place, but having to disappoint them because they didn't read my availability 4. no-shows, boy, aren't those fun! especially when I have taken the time to not do something for myself and fit the person into my personal schedule. 5. those that show up drunk/high/both! Needless to say the date doesn't continue 6. hygiene - need I say more here! 7. anyone that does not respect the boundaries that I set. For instance, I do not and never have provided greek services, its prevalent in my website. So when someone is disappointed in me, once they are in the date with me, when they realize that I'm not kidding about not providing that service, it makes me very uncomfortable. Don't ever assume that a service will be provided just because you request it, chances are that if an sp does not state its a service she provides, then it doesn't happen. 8. not having your donation ready in the manner requested (especially if you have arrived with not enough, or only enough to cover what YOU think would be considered 'right' for 1/2 hour(which I do not arrange) or thinking that a gift you bring covers you for an extra hour). 9. sending messages that just say, 'hi', or really bad messages like, 'hey babe, you available to party/fuck'. First they don't tell me anything about you, secondly they don't tell me what you are looking for and when, thirdly I rarely respond to messages such as these. 10. asking for a reduction! I find this completely unacceptable and rude. Rates are set and not up for negotiating. Just a little of what turns me off. But I have to say, of the gentlemen of Cerb that I have had the privilege of entertaining, I have had a wonderful time with and had no problems with.

When I have someone that wants to extend, I simply charge the rate that would have been for a three hour session to go from a two hour one. Seems the right thing to do, and to concur with what Brad said, there is time that we prepare beforehand, and what we have to do afterwards, this is mainly why I personally have a rate for one hour that is slightly higher than for each of the hours of a two hour session. Some gentlemen don't realize what we providers must do to prepare for someone coming, or even what we do to prepare for an outcall. So that taken into effect is where I have placed my rates the way they are. I don't believe I've ever stated an hour rate to anyone that simply wanted to extend their time, when I have had the time to do it.

personally, I prefer that someone go through my website to see rates, and that is just a simple click on my ad. This way you can see my pics, and services I offer, and then make a decision as to whether or not you want to make a date or not. Just having in ads leads to some looking at ads that are weeks or months old wanting the same rates, when the services could be something more than they expected or wanted. I find its always best to check websites to see rates, this way you will have a better picture of the person you wish to see.

To me, 15 minutes would never be enough. I have been requested for 15 minutes to 1/2 hour, but it's just not something that I offer. I did offer them in the past, but found that they had no substance to them, it was just get in, get off, get out, not my style at all. I really like the time I spend with a gentleman to get to know him, talk with him, share thoughts, and a whole lot of fun!, especially the cuddling afterwards, how on earth do you fit that into 15 minutes?

fortunateone is SOOOOOO correct here. When I was coming into Canada last year for an interview, I was stopped by Canadian Border security and turned back. I happened to be one of those 'randomly selected' for a secondary interview, and I pulled my car up and parked it, got into the offices and was 'grilled' for over 6 hours. I did not have my laptop with me, but I had my cellphone. I also carried my passport, drivers license, birth certificate, social security card and other forms of ID along with the letter of intent from the employer. All originals. At first, there was no big deal, a few questions. It was the attitude of the secondary person that decided to listen in on the questions and answers that had me there for hours. This particular border patrol guy definitely had issues. I had enough luggage with me for 5 days, I brought my cell phone as I was driving in, and all the pertinent documents that I would normally have if I was flying. I had rented a car, so that was what I had with me, all documents in order of course, the car was torn apart while I was inside talking with the border guards. My luggage was gone through, everything that could be opened, it was, such as toothpaste, shampoo, deodorant, etc, and squeezed out. My cell phone was taken from me, and gone through. The reason I was turned back? On my cell phone there was a couple of messages from some idiot that had typed in the wrong number and was asking about something illicit! Even though the text messages of my reply were to state that I had no idea who the person sending the messages was, and that they must have the wrong number, (and the messages were still on my phone, never thought to clear them off) border patrol took it upon themselves to deny me entry into Canada. Even though I was coming there on a job interview with proper documentation that was confirmed by the place interviewing me! I ended up driving to Boston, booking a flight and coming in that way! No problem with those border patrol people! I think it all depends on who you get on what day. But it's true what fortunateone states, border patrol, on either side of the border, do not need just cause, permission, or warrants to go through anything that you are carrying.

Welcome to Cerb, it is a great place for information. Being nervous with an SP is perfectly normal, many a seasoned hobbiest still gets nervous. Take a look in the ads of the area that you are in, look at websites, pics, details of their ads and choose someone that you think you may be interested in. Follow their instructions of how they would like to be contacted, and ask them questions. This way you can find out if it is someone that you may be comfortable with, and any SP will make you feel at ease. Nervousness shows and SP's know that, and any good SP will make sure that you are comfortable in your decision. If it is your first time with an SP, ever, let them know that. It is a great experience when you really connect with someone, take your time, ask questions, and make a great choice. Happy hunting :)

Welcome, come in and enjoy all this great site has to offer :)

Tips for what we provide are always appreciated and never expected. For me, a great tip from a first-time client is a request right there and then for a second session. Gifts are wonderful, and a thoughtful gesture on behalf of the gentleman, depending on the circumstances of the lady in question. As Cat stated, agencies get a huge percentage of the rate (hence the reason I will never belong to one) and although gifts are appreciated, they do not pay the bills. I, on the other hand, appreciate the thoughtfulness of a gift from a gentleman, it shows he took the time to think of something I may like. A tip of cash is always a great standby if you are unsure, but taking the time to read a profile or website, or talking with the lady herself, will certainly give insight into what is deemed appropriate. I tip in the service industry, as I've been there done that, and appreciate the hard work that goes into service.

Thank you to everyone for the fabulous birthday wishes, I'm treating myself to a wonderful spa day, a new Coach purse, Karen Scott shoes and an amazing night out with a very special friend. Now all I need is a massage :icon_biggrin:

I agree with Ann Gallerie on this, PayPal utilizes user fees plus a transaction fee, therefore 1) a reason I don't use it, and 2) PayPal won't let anyone use their services if it is adult based (such as this). I took the time to set up an actual merchant account, and I have a 'register terminal' directly on my phone, just like restaurants that have mobile transaction machines. I can swipe your card directly on my phone, and you sign directly on my phone screen. I do prefer to use this method for booking to take deposits, but I can also take debit cards, and there is always the trusted interac services which are highly popular. Having a gentleman utilize this booking method ensures his time is committed to by me, and that he is dedicated to actually showing up. We all know there are some unscrupulous ones out there that love to 'book' and don't show. I find this a great way to offer more choice to gentlemen, yes there is a paper trail, just like any other transactions, but there are ways to remedy this. My transactions are set up with sku codes and detailed information that makes sense if an SO happens to check the CC bills. If a gentleman is unsure if he wants to use a CC, I offer debit, interac transfer, but there is always the great standby of cash. I do pay a small fee for having this convenience, but to me it's worth it. I also pay taxes on all the income, but I do get advantages from that also. The choice is always up to the gentleman, but having the ability to give a choice of method of payment to him is awesome.

2 new dresses for myself, its my birthday tomorrow, so I thought I would treat myself :)

I don't see what the big deal is with an SP coming to your home. We are expected to have gentlemen in our homes, with the same thoughts of 'is he casing the joint' and do I come home to en empty place some day, or he turns up at some point when it's completely inconvenient (has happened!). We let you into our homes, why are we not let into yours? Discretion is one thing that I have noticed on this site, it is very prevalent here, and the ladies are outstanding in this. I don't believe that any lady advertising on this site would ever do anything to compromise the situation, but I do feel more comfortable going to the home of a gentleman if I have met him before. Timing things properly, and the lady being respectful of the situation (I could be your accountant coming to visit you), we dress appropriately for the public, its whats underneath that the public doesn't see is what counts, and what happens AFTER the door is shut! lol

within 24 hours, absolutely. I have directly on my profile if I'm online, PM me, if I'm not online, use my contact form. I answer messages as soon as I'm able to, but I'm also 'unavailable' when I'm with a client. (I would never answer a phone call or text whenever with a client). There are times when it's not convenient for me to talk to someone, but as soon as I see/hear a message, I answer it.

New table and chairs for my kitchen! Having to buy all new furniture really sucks