50 Shades Raven

Great thread Peachy. Status, or lack thereof, is the opinion of the one doling out that opinion. I know people that have grade 6 education that are smart as a whip, congenial, genuine and caring. I also know people that have PhD's that are arrogant, conceited, manipulative and undeniably narcissistic. And vice-versa. My respect of a person is in the way they portray themselves to me. It doesn't matter what school they did/didn't attend, what line of work they are in whether that be blue collar or professional, or how much money they make. What matters to me is: are they respectful; do they care about meaningful things; are they trustworthy and can they hold a conversation. Society's 'painted picture' of all providers being 'bullied into this'/on drugs/alcoholics' is just way out of proportion. I'm sure there are those that are forced into this, but there are others that do this as a means of survival and those that do this just because they love it. There have been countless incidences when I am asked for pictures to be sent because the potential 'client' has so-called "standards". Well, my answer to that is, 'honey, if I don't have enough pictures for you to look at between my website and profiles for you to make a decision on, then you are not the client for me'. (These requests usually come from the guys that swear up and down that they will be 'everything I have ever desired in a man', but that is their opinion, not mine when they get to the door) If you are choosing a provider, you are choosing based on pictures, rapport with others, style and a little bit of curiosity. Where that persons education or background comes from should NOT play a part in this. Can you imagine if we went to a doctors office and when asking them where they went to school and how they paid for it, if the answer came back to a school that wasn't ivy league and they worked their way through school so you told them you were going to someone else as they didn't fit your standard? How would that turn out? This is the same thing! If you like someone, like them for everything or don't see them. There are no such thing as 'social classes' anymore, I believe that died in the last century. My background, upbringing and education has zero bearing on what I do in providing. Would I still be as caring, compassionate and giving with no education? Of course I would. To those that think we are lower than slime, just because we do this, why in hell do you seek us out for companionship?

Gotta love the idiots that book you for 4:30 then as the time approaches and your having a late lunch with your friend at your place and she gets booking calls from the same guy wanting the same time! Gentlemen, if your going to shop around, at least have the decency to let the lady know you won't be coming, and not 25 minutes before you are scheduled to arrive. At least that way the lady may be able to receive another gentleman instead of having wasted time sitting around wondering if he is going to be there. I have much better things to do with my time than sit around waiting for an idiot.

those who repeatedly ask you in a pm for information stating they saw your profile but don't know how to contact you. Especially when the website is on the profile and in ads! We put this information there so that we don't have to repeat all of that information again in texts/pm's/emails/phone calls. It doesn't take much to see if we have a website or not, on the profile pages it's in 'contact', on an ad the contact information will be there, all you have to do is look. I'm not about to send out 7 pages of information to each and every person that contacts me, that is what the website is for. Information. Please take the time to read the profiles/ads, especially if you have been on here a few years, you should know better.

Happy birthday gorgeous, hope you have a great day

A huge turn off is asking me what times I have available, and when I give them, the person gets cranky and states it's no good for them they want waaay later than I advertise. Since you can see my hours of availability, why don't you expect to adhere to what I have? Learn to read, it pays off in the end

Happy Birthday girl! Hope it's a good one

omg, socks on a guy during activities? What are they trying to do, find extra traction? A definite turn off. When someone comes to me wearing socks, I gently massage their leg down to the feet and pull the socks off teasingly, maybe then they get the hint to take them off.

There are no absolute 'requirements' for vaccines, but you bring up a very valid point here. We as sp's are tested very regularly, just for our own peace of mind and the safety of clients. The fact that this is a concern for you, the advice of seeing your doctor and inquiring about vaccines is a very good idea. Safety always comes first in this. Any reputable sp is going to make sure that you feel safe, and that she is very aware of how you feel. The types of activities that you are seeking are very relaxed and enjoyable for both. An sp will have you feeling comfortable before you even see her :-) Most of us love to have someone that is brand new to this, we make you feel at ease, if you do not feel at ease, then cancelling the appointment is your best bet. There is nothing wrong with wanting to explore, but make sure you are comfortable in your decision.

your health and safety come first in this. The client should be forthcoming with any potential issues' date=' but I feel this is your call. No portion of the fee should be expected returned to client, after all, it is your time and companionship that is covering the fee. As long as there is an understanding between the sp and the client, I don't see why a client would expect anything less. After all, when you are speaking with a client over the phone/text/email etc, we have no idea that they may have something such as you described, it is only upon arrival that you will notice anything. Tactfully bringing it up will reassure any client.[/color']

trying to make my phone go away from stupidness (is that a word?) Awkward people that message me when I'm not advertising/working. I need my vacation time damn it

urgh, don't call me, especially when I am NOT advertising, telling me what other ladies are providing to you for specific rates! I don't care what others business is, and I want peace and quiet right now. What a rotten start to my vacation :-( Additional Comments: If you are inquiring to a lady, in the manner she request, (and as politely as you have put it here) I see no problem with a lady answering you back with that request. Do check her website to see if there is any information on there first that may answer your questions, but certainly if you have a specific in mind, its not out of the way to ask, as long as it's done tastefully. :-) And yes, there are some messages that are sent to us that are extremely crude and rude, they get no response whatsoever sometimes.

lunch with a friend that I haven't seen in a very long time. great food, great ambience and fabulous wine, a day not easily forgotten.

Getting ready to enjoy the first day (starting tomorrow :-)) of two entire months off! Well deserved and relaxed as I sit in a warm bath, sipping wine, with thoughts of sleeping in and excitement of just pure indulgence for two whole months coming up. Ahhhh, it feels good

A matcha latte and a croissant

xxx: state of the union decent movie, cant see watching it again, but was pretty good

waking up to what I thought might be an annoying call to find a delivery of flowers for me! Yaay, I have just felt the first 'spring' feeling, and am feeling appreciated :-)

Massive purging of all I don't need, and co-ordinating packing for a great move.

have a wonderful birthday, and lots of fun on it

The amount of stories that I could tell you in answer to this question could fill two forums. The most requested time for a meeting is the 'now' appointment. This fails in two ways. 1. you don't know where I am located exactly, so unless you are standing directly outside of my door and I happen to not have another appointment, chances are very slim that I will be seeing you. 2. there is life outside of this (for me anyway). I may be at my location, or I may not be. The next most annoying thing for booking is when we receive a polite 'when are you available', yet when we state what times we have, they are not suitable for the person asking. They then respond with 'too late/early for me', 'that's not suitable', etc. As Meaghan states, sometimes its only a 15 minute time period from when they asked, but it's 'too late', then they ask 20 minutes later than that if they can come now. Frustrating as hell. We set up our times as we are available. When you ask for our availability, we usually give you 2-3 times in the period you are looking for, this way it is a fit between both parties. I find it virtually impossible for a provider to be available 24/7. We need sleep, nutrition, hygiene. These take time. Going back to back with clients requires a changing of linens, showering, freshening up hair/make-up, straightening up the area. I absolutely cringe at the thought of any provider that does not do this, hopefully they are few and far between. Being called out as a whore/slut/money grabber just because you were refused an appointment. My ads were enticing enough to grab your attention, but because timing doesn't work between us, you choose to degrade and belittle. Buddy, you are the one that called me, not the other way way around! That has to be the worst of this business. There are always going to be stories of disgust in this business, but I have to say that most appointments that are carried out are done so by gentlemen that take the time to introduce themselves, read the website, and conduct themselves with manners. Those appointments are welcomed and cherished, and will make me smile from ear to ear. Those are the type of appointments that I will go out of my way to accommodate. When I reply to an ad (no matter what it is for), I do my best to let the person know that I am interested, and ask for their direction on how to proceed. Why is it that when it comes to a service such as this, that common courtesy seems to go right out the window? One liner texts or sexting to get off. An absolute no-brainer here, you never hear from me or see me. Same goes with phone calls that are endless questions while you listen to my voice while 'helping yourself' as you look at my pictures. I am not here for that. Nor do I send pictures by text. there are plenty on my website, if that doesn't give you an idea of what I am all about, a picture today isn't going to do anything. Stories from providers could make you laugh, cry, both. There are many, and I am sure I am not the only one in this boat.

bought a brand new place, and super stoked to be getting into it very soon! Totally insane price, but well worth it!

A new really cool digital camera. thought it was time for a fabulous upgrade (for myself )

Ads with 'well reviewed' and 'just arrived' in the same sentence. How on earth can someone be both at the same time? I think it might take a little bit of establishment to be 'well reviewed'.

Fetish play is wonderful, but I don't believe it has a preverbial 'line drawn in the sand' when it comes to geographic areas. I am located in the Maritimes, and do enjoy fetish play very much, but I do believe it is up to the individual providers if they provide such. Fetish play is a lifestyle, not exactly something that can be 'turned on and off' per se. True fetish play comes from within, either a provider has that within themselves or not.

emails with, "what can I get for $70?" my response, if I give one, is usually something back like 'if you read my ad, you would see there is nothing at that range, please check my website for info' Nothing is more of a turn off that feeling like your 'on sale'. This isn't a bargaining table

In the grocery store and in a line-up (they are all long) and the person in front of me has a few coupons. Ok, no big deal, but then she realizes as looking through the store flyer there are other specials she didn't notice. She runs back in the store and gets something. Time is marching on here, and she notices something else, she runs back again getting this second item. Lineups are getting longer by the minute here. Once all the bill is tallied, coupons are run through, she goes to pay, ding ding ding, no money!. Apparently she forgot to do this in her organization, and now we all had to wait as all this crap was being re-rung through to make the poor cashiers tally balance. What a fu*ki*g idiot! Stupid people need to be banished! At least the cashier was nice about it to the rest of us.