LisbethNova

Hello Lovers... Take a step out of your busy life and bring a little fire into our escape together,,, I am Lisbeth Nova. Toronto's Elite Entertainer With a Firecracker Personality and I am happy to say I have returned for another Hot Summer in Toronto! I am an energetic, personable companion who enjoys the company of anyone who can fulfill me intellectually, spiritually and of course sensually. I am naturally drawn to those who seek out adventure and new experiences. I am well-travelled, university educated and I am known to many as having quite the appetite for passion and pleasure. Standing at just 5"1, I have an athletic curvy build, with striking blue eyes that are known to make those who meet me weak at the knees and putty in my hands.... Available for incalls or outcalls in the heart of Niagara Falls. I will be staying at an upscale hotel right near the falls! Pre-booking highly recommended! Please email me in advance including references. Don't forget to check out my website, Twitter and blog!! [email protected] @lisbethnova3 http://www.lisbethnova.com

This next blog is definitely not spoken about very often and might even be a topic that many girls would avoid. However, for those of you may already follow me on Twitter and read this blog, you may already know that I am not one to really hold back on my opinions. For those clients who want to believe that all of us ladies are fancy free, single and don't care about our mental well-being at all, I would recommend to stop reading now. This blog is probably way too honest for you to handle and I would never want to jeopardize your sexy fantasies with all those wonderful ladies out there. This article is for realistic readers as both providers and clients alike. As someone who has been in the industry just a couple years, I can honestly say that it is a difficult world to be on your own. Unfortunately many of us providers are quite isolated from one another and face further complications trying to sustain personal/private relationships in our free time. This job can obviously be incredibly taxing on us emotionally, mentally and physically and without proper stable relationships it can be extremely daunting. It's an industry that can definitely do your head in if you don't have anyone who respects your personal boundaries and time. Having the right friendships and partners in our lives can help us sustain ourselves in this industry even longer or at least long enough that we can get out of it feeling positive about our experience. I guess I have learned from the good, bad and the ugly in my own experience, but I hope I can offer some insight to what many providers may have experienced or may need to keep in mind in their own lives so they can make healthy and happy choices for themselves. One of the most important things I could learn from being in this industry is that it's incredibly important to know your personal boundaries with both your clients and your personal relationships. I will go more into detail about boundaries with clients in another blog, but I think it's important to discuss in this context, because I think that providers may need to save certain physical and emotional actions for their own private lives. Whatever these actions may be, some providers may feel better saving certain things for their partners. There are so many unspoken rules and variables between client and provider relations that vary depending on the individuals involved. It is truly difficult to know when to draw the line in the sand, but again I will be discussing this in a later blog. Due to the nature of this business being sexual and incredibly personal, many women in this industry can often become confused about their own physical and emotional boundaries in their private lives. First and foremost, I can say that entering into this business changed my perspective and my boundaries with people BIG TIME. As I mentioned in a previous blog, I was in the swing lifestyle before, which I can honestly say really started to feel like sexual slavery, as my partner and other partners in the lifestyle made me feel I should feel obligated to give particular sexual experiences, whether I was feeling up to it or not. Suddenly, my sex life outside the business became incredibly important to the point where previous partners who thought they had endless access to sex with both myself and my industry friends whenever they pleased became questioned. I had never felt more threatened by both my previous partners and their spouses to get on board with whatever or with whomever they pleased. After giving so much of yourself to other people, nothing is worse than having your personal relationships guilt and threaten you into situations despite the fact you may have had a rough day or may not feel like doing something crazy and kinky. It is important for some of us to feel grounded in our personal relationships and simply want to come home to something just boring normal vanilla, especially after a long day of spanking, slapping and sucking. Or maybe we had a long therapy session with someone who has been severely traumatized. Or maybe we had to be ON all day long, that it would be nice to just kick back, watch some TV, smoke a joint and have a laugh. Whatever kind of provider we are, don't we need balance in our lives? I am not going to say that every day I have some hectic, intense experience. And I am not going to say that I don't enjoy these experiences, but nothing is worse than having the people around you in your personal life making you feel guilty or bad about what you do for a living. Especially when it's something you feel passionate about. There is truly nothing worse than having partners disrespect what you do to the point where you feel so guilty, that you give most of your money or treat them to things whether they be sexual or nonsexual out of feelings of guilt and obligation, because you worked hard all day. At the end of it all, there is nothing left for yourself. The importance of having time for yourself and the personal relationships you have as a provider are so crucial to feeling supportive in this industry. For myself personally, it has been a serious struggle and maybe that is why I decided to speak out about it today. I hope that other girls will take my advice, as I know how difficult it can be to balance yourself in a world that doesn't necessarily have the full support of not just mainstream society, but those within the system. There really are no rules in the escort world. We make our own and struggle between understanding what is right or wrong for ourselves. I hope many know how to create their own social world that will fulfill them emotionally so that they can feel the support they need to keep going in this business. It is a wonderful world that we all deep down love, but if we don't have the support to take care of ourselves first, it's easy to get lost in it all.

2015 marked the end of a lot of many chapters in my life and the beginning of many new adventures. I had some of the greatest encounters with ladies and clients and was able to go on a number of interesting tours both across the country and the U.S. Taking the Love Jones parties to Calgary and Vancouver was fantastic! Both parties were definitely stamped into my memory as being some of the sexiest times of the year. I also had a quick tour of Halifax which was not as successful as hoped, but I enjoyed the endless amount of seafood nonetheless and east-coasters are always so nice. I enjoyed myself in all of these wonderful places and hope to definitely return to at least some of them in the New Year, while also touring much more internationally. New York, London, LA, and Tokyo are all on my 'to do' list in 2016! This past year was also a drastic shift in my personal and business relationships. I was very fortunate to meet so many lovely ladies in this industry and I realized just how many great ladies Toronto has! It is also not just the ladies who have been so awesome, but the community with the clients has had quite an effect on the success of many ladies. I was lucky enough to be introduced to such amazing ladies through clients, which I could never be more thankful. In such a dog-eat-dog-world, it is truly the community we have made though such sites as Lyla, which I can owe my successes in this business this past year. Thank you guys for creating the space for us all to connect! So bring on 2016! As my final year in the industry, I have been compiling my 'to do' list for the year and it is quite extensive! I hope to see many more of you sexy ladies and gents in 2016! Happy Holidays and Best Wishes To All My Lovers Out There! xo Lisbeth

It will be 2 years in March since I first began my career as a professional companion/service provider/adult entertainer/sex worker, (whatever title you would like to give it). It had been an incredibly tumultuous time in my personal life. No it wasn't anything like "daddy issues" or any other typical stereotypes that get attached to this line of work. I was working a normal 9 to 5 office job, getting paid barely enough to get by and consistently butting heads with a boss who treated me horribly. While pushing papers and pretending to actually work [checking Twitter and client emails], I knew that I was just another cog in the wheel. I didn't matter and I was replaceable. The stresses and strains of trying to make ends meet working a "normal job" while also having a personal relationship with a partner (who was not sophisticated enough to handle a lady in this industry), took a serious toll on me. Coming to terms with the job and having this particular person in my life made it incredibly difficult to function daily and I was constantly made to feel guilty about my very well-thought-out choice to enter into this industry. Professionally, however, my life drastically contradicted what was going on in my personal life. Clients were treating me very well, beyond what I ever could imagine or have ever experienced. In fact, how well I was being treated by clients began to really reflect how poorly I was being treated before and during the beginning of my time in the industry. Gradually, I started to realize how important I was, how special I was and how happy I made some of my clients feel, and their gratitude for my company, friendship and intimacy really got me through the toughest of times. To this day, I am blown away by their graciousness, whether it be taking me out for a wonderful meal, showering me in lavish gifts, dressing me in sexy lingerie or even writing me a sweet email to say how great of a time they had; it all means a lot and really helped me push through the discrimination that both my partner and society challenged me with on a day to day basis. In a society that both loves and hates the sex industry, it can become a roller coaster to feel confident in doing what we believe in and to do this work without the tender loving care from our clients. Even better is if we can find a partner in our personal lives that can deal with it. But that is a whole other blog I will have to address at some point. Many outsiders to this world, (and maybe even those on the inside), may think that this industry is ONLY to do with sex. Don't get me wrong it's a very important part of it, but there really is so much more involved. Clients will not be named in this blog of course, but some of the incredible things I have experienced have seriously made my dreams come true, not just by the amazing intimate moments I have had with them in the bed room, hotel room, and various other rooms. The surprising moments have been none stop. Everything from Agent Provocateur lingerie, to concert tickets to see some of the legends like Madonna and members of the Beatles, to surprise visits in swanky upscale condos with all my favourite sexy lady friends in the industry! And believe it or not... I was even lucky to meet my hero Buck Angel who was requested by a client to hang with me for a whole weekend! It's all unbelievable, but definitely not expected. I am also grateful for a simple kind word after we have our moment together, and if you make me laugh, even better! Through many of my client's generous actions, I can never be more grateful. Their kindness had gotten me through those times when I wanted to give up or had no confidence about the work I was doing. My battle to stick in the industry I can seriously give thanks to the clients and friends I have made and I hope that other sex workers feel the same. The generosity of our clients helps us stay focused in what we do best,,,,,,,SHAG LIKE A PORN STAR!!! Hahaha.. okay sorry I had to end that paragraph with something funny because this blog was ending up to be way too sappy for comfort, my vagina was seriously starting to get bigger. But you get my point. Smooches! Love you all! Lisbeth

I am aware that my blogs may not always be able to be posted on this site. But for some topics I will be writing about I will be posting them every couple weeks or so if the topics are suitable. Unfortunately this week blog is not Lyla appropriate and I wouldn't want to get the boot. I apologize for breaking any rules with my blogs.. they are meant to be funny. I personally would like to see more creativity and SPs insight without all the fluff...

Thank you for your input. I definitely met some amazing couples as well and not all my experiences were bad.. i had some really great ones. However, I think overtime the bad outweighed the good, so I wanted to tell people some things they may not read when researching swinging.

About 3 years ago before I decided to become an SP, I began to explore the swinging lifestyle as a Unicorn (single female). As you can imagine, single females have their pick of the litter and pretty much everyone wants you just like any other rare mythological creature out there. It was exciting and fun. I realized I genuinely really love being with couples, men and women alike. Coming out of a very sexless long term relationship, the swing lifestyle was exactly what I was looking for and it really helped me discover my own sexuality and liberate myself from the rigid and torturous ideal that we all must be in monogamous relationships. Whenever I met couples that seemed healthy and happy, I admired their ability to overcome jealousy and possessiveness, which permeated most relationships. What a liberating idea it was to be able to express yourself sexually with many different partners of both sexes and still have the kind of bond and love between partners. Here's the thing that people need to know; Everything I said in the above paragraph is true... but only for the lucky few who it really works for... the likelihood that you can continue in the lifestyle consistently and regularly for a long period of time is slim to none. Eventually, either you or your partner is going to have a seriously shitty experience and be completely turned off. Here are the things that I found in the swing scene that totally turned me off. 1. Partners not being on the same page. Meeting numerous couples, I began to really see how they varied from couple to couple. All had different rules and expectations. But the worst thing I came across was a lot of reluctant girlfriends/wives who were really only doing this for their husbands sake. The worst thing ever is knowing this woman is not really into girls but is feeling like she has to go along with this for her partner. As a 3rd girl joining in... I knew to tread lightly at first and that any sign of jealousy or disagreement between them meant run the hell away! Secondly, when I did bring a male partner with me, he would get so carried away, I was left on the sidelines just watching or stuck with a guy who I definitely had no interest in at all. It was very unlikely I would ever meet a couple with my partner who we both liked the other couple equally. Basically I would feel obligated to take one for the team, and I refuse to ever do that... unless I am getting paid! 2. Drama & Gossip This pretty much goes along with number 1 and of course is to be expected when you are dealing with straight couples in a taboo lifestyle. Again everyone has their own rules and expectations and sometimes these rules get broken a bit and one partner might feel disrespected or become jealous if they do not feel the situation to be fair. The general first golden rule to swinging is to never use this lifestyle to "fix" your relationship. Without the proper communication and boundaries set between the couples, there is always a chance that things can blow up in your face. There have been plenty of relationships that end quite soon after exploring this world. I will also add another personal account of when gossip became extremely apparent and very disturbing to me. I started to get invited to these private swing parties at various condos. There was one particular couple there that definitely shouldnt have because they purposely loved spreading rumours and turning people against one another. I became extremely disturbed to find text messages on my phone the day after the party with that same couple reciting all the sexual acts I performed and with whom I did things with. How creepy is that!? 3. DRUGS DRUGS DRUGS!!! Lastly, I would warn anyone getting involved into the scene to be aware how drug fueled these events usually are. I have gone to parties where everyone is on MDMA and feeling all lovey dovey, but there isnt a single hardon in the room because the guys cant get it up! I have often had to supply viagara to help these poor boys out, but even then they would have difficulty not just with their boners but paying attention to what the hell was going on. Nothing is as big of a turn off when everyone's pupils are dilated and look like gigantic black holes and their eyes are rolling in the back of their heads. Along with MDMA, people are often doing coke and GHB amongst other things I am sure. GHB is the date rape drug and I won't lie when I say that it makes people super horny and more likely to end up doing something with someone they really didn't want to. I once saw this young girl at some parties who was always so high she could hardly communicate and 2 guys were just pummeling her. Whether she would have done that sober... I highly doubt it. Too often things happened in intoxicated states that began to feel like women were being sexually exploited at these parties. What once was a liberating and free experience... started to feel like sexual abuse. I will end this blog by stating that I learned a lot about the swing lifestyle and probably would not have become an SP had I not entered into that world. However, being an SP is far more fulfilling and way more empowering than being in the swing scene. I find that I get treated with a lot more respect by clients and I have never felt like I was being exploited. Being able to compare the two worlds, one cannot help but be completely turned off by swing events. Why would I want to feel pressured to have sex with people I don't even enjoy and I don't get paid, when meanwhile I enjoy my work and get paid and have fun with some of the sexiest girls ever at the LJX parties! This choice was very easy for me to make!

Being an SP is one of the best jobs I have ever had. The benefits to having a flexible schedule and enjoying the company of many awesome clients has been super rewarding to me. I really appreciate how this industry has benefited my life.

Heading to Halifax at the end of October. Does anyone have any recommendations for great restaurants, bars or sightseeing spots that I should check out? I have only heard positive things about this lovely city and its been ages since I have been out east. Would love anyone's recommendations! Thanks Lyla members!

Lisbeth Nova.. best known for her luscious booty!

I have always been a big fan of documentaries. Just recently I watched one called Black Fish, which was about the whales used in Marine land and Sea world. It was actually quite shocking. I had no idea how many whale trainers have been attacked in such performances... and it shows how inconsiderate the parks were about whale behavior. I also have watched a number of documentaries on sex work and trafficking. Most are so cliché and do not give a well rounded view of the hobby. Very over generalized. The best one I have seen was produced by a former sex worker. It's called - American Courtesan. Both of these documentaries can be found on Netflicks. Anyone else have any good recommendations???

Always take the reviews with a grain of salt.. I have learned recently after a friend of mine had a terrible review on her, that some guys seek revenge if they don't get what they want by leaving bad reviews. This gent was insisting on doing something after my friend had already said 'no' and insisted that he could not pay the full amount and ended up leaving. Interestingly enough, this arsehole had two positive references from providers which I am totally uncertain how that was possible except that maybe they were willing to do whatever he wanted. Long story short, Mr. arsehole left a very obvious fake review on TER, which ended up being a pain in the ass to get deleted. I have been lucky enough to not encounter such jerks, but this situation offers some good advice to everyone (both clients and companions) ...Always read these reviews with some criticism and analysis. IS the writing quality poor? Shitty grammar, bad language and the sort. I have to admit I really don't like over the top gory details about whatever actions took place. It's really tasteless and comes across completely disrespectful. I am not sure if some reviewers understand that they jeopardise the providers' safety and autonomy when they mention particular acts. The SP should be able to choose what she does and doesn't do. Reviewers also need to understand that by leaving a shitty review for reasons like the arsehole mentioned above, is that you conflict with her livelihood. If you have a bad meeting, maybe ask yourself whether you guys were a good match or not. I am not saying that bad reviews should never be posted. Sometimes the bad reviews are totally legitimate. But I would advise in reading them with some care and consideration as to the kind of guy writing them. Anyways, that's my rant for the day! Let's keep the hobby world positive!

That's really terrible! Any debate about my donation is such a turn off and seriously hurts my mojo! Clients need to understand that is the number 1 insulting thing!!