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Erotic Lounge, that's the one I referred to in my earlier post. That is awesome. Thx Miss Thora. I love that smooth jazz vibe. Just find it completely relaxing and sensual.

That kind of text seems to be a common theme. Seriously, I can almost feel the frustration that you ladies must have at this utter nonsense. Would it honestly kill a person to say hello? And, to be frank, if that was the initial contact, it is just wrong. Never have I asked for a ladies address or location until after booking, confirmation and right before the encounter. Part of the problem, imo, is this whole "text speak" thing we have going on in the world today. It seems that many people are completely unable to put together a coherent sentence structure. Hell, most of the time they can't even finish a word correctly. Our language is being flushed down the digital toilet.

I completely understand how hard this really is. I went through it with both my dad and mom. You do need a support network to help you with it for sure but not everybody has the ability to deal with these things. The siblings may just not have the tools to deal with it. I don't know, obviously but perhaps there are others outside of the immediate family who you can trust to take some of the burden. It is emotionally and mentally draining on a person and that also takes a physical toll so try to eat well and stay as healthy as possible. Wish you well to get through this.

Was listening to some Bob Dylan today and thought of another song... "Lay, Lady, Lay"

My thoughts are with you Victoria. Sounds like your "Mami" is a remarkable lady. Hope she rests easy and goes peacefully. Thanks for sharing with us. Big hugs out to you. At least internet hugs. (((((hugs)))))

It's kinda all just background noise for me but if I had my choice, it would be a toss-up between some Coltrane or Miles Davis maybe. Some other possibilities would be Santana's "Samba Pa Ti" or Van Morrison's "Moondance". One of my all time favorites. Now that I'm thinking of it, I recently had an encounter where there was a compilation of covered 80's songs done to a bluesy/jazz style. That was pretty awesome. Then again, the lovely lady I was with was beyond awesome so maybe that had more to do with it. It was nice while laying there after though.

Well Victoria, as someone that has met you in person, you are neither stupid nor ignorant. What you did is something that many businesses do when they need extra cash flow on a short term basis. You offer a special to attract extra customers. Virtually every small business does this at some time or another. It's quick sales to generate a little extra cash, nothing more or less. I, for one was happy when you were running your specials when we met, although I don't think I took advantage of that too much. :D Anyway, don't listen to this jerk and you are right. If all a person has is insults, then they should just keep their big mouth shut. P.S. Any plans on coming back out west (and north) in the future? Would love to get reacquainted with you. You are such a lovely lady. In the meantime, be well and safe out there.

I'm with you guys on the title reeling me in to look further. Then my biggest thing is the wording the lady uses. I absolutely love a well thought out bit of prose or poetry that shows an intelligent witty sophisticated person behind the beautiful picture. The alternative to that is one that is very cleverly humorous and makes you think this girl can make you laugh all day. The pictures are important only to the point of helping with the visual. We are, after all, visual creatures but a lady could have the most stunning, sexy pics in the world and if her wording was too generic or came across as a vapid 80's "valley girl", I would have no interest.

I couldn't agree more. We seem to have an ever growing issue in today's world of accepting the word "no". People assume that they flash money and everybody should be at their beck and call. This business is like many other service businesses out there. Just because we advertise a service doesn't mean everyone gets to have us at a moments notice. And there are certain times when a potential client just doesn't "feel" right. I get it in the business I am in too. I talk to someone about doing their plumbing job and get a feeling that they will be the type that I have to chase payment for or the job is just too much trouble and not worth the ensuing headaches. They, however, act like 3 year olds who can't have candy while in WalMart with mommy. Back to you ladies, you have every right to refuse service to anyone for whatever reason you want. Guys need to understand that and move on. And no, you do not need to provide your reasoning. The only thing I would want in that situation if Iwas being refused is courtesy of a speedy reply and a politely worded refusal. Nothing more.

I think that hits the nail squarely on the head piano. They regurgitate the same rhetoric that they hear from there favorite conservative voice, be it politician or clergy or whatever because they haven't the capacity for coming to their own conclusions based on fact checking and intelligent reasoning. Part of that is sheer laziness in their part but a lot of it has to do with a lack of intelligence and a bunch of brainwashing. We've seen this throughout human history. The Crusades, the inquisition, prohibition, the drug war, etc. Prostitution has always been the easiest and most targetted. And yet, here we are in the same old boat, the minority of intelligent, logical thinkers trying to persuade fools of their folly.

A simple but apt truism, imo anyway, is that you can't use logic and reason with those that are illogical and unreasonable. They will never try to walk in someone else's shoes or try to see anothers point of view if it doesn't conform to theirs. The vast majority of people are unintelligent sheep that follow blindly and unfortunately, they have the loudest voice in our society. They have no idea of what they speak (the perfect example being the one that talks of sores, disease and lesions, etc.) and are likely the same people who refuse to educate their pre-teen and teenage daughters and sons about sex because they have a misguided belief that talking about it will make them promiscuous. Then are shocked when said teenager comes home one day pregnant or in the case of the boy, has gotten a girl pregnant. Back to the comment about disease, he has no clue that legalization of the industry with proper support will drastically reduce the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. Honestly, seeing a reputable SP is probably the safest sex there is. A helluva lot safer than trolling the nightclubs, etc. Just sayin.

Thank you Peachy. Good to know that it doesn't effect things too much. And I totally agree with you, negotiating the price is never an option and should never be. Just being informed and making a decision based on that information is enough. I think the only thing that I would avoid would be the DATY, as much as I love that part. Just as a precaution. I would never worry about the FS otherwise. One thing to add before I get off here, I do agree that despite the shock of something like this happening, I don't think that I would take all of my donation back like that. I would more likely have just said I couldn't continue and left it up to the lady to possibly offer something. A reschedule or whatever. If not, then so be it. I do agree with some that have posted that this would have been very hard for her too. I think that a few moments of pause and reflection when an accident of this nature occurs could have made a huge difference.

Well, looking at that list of foods, some that jump out (for me anyway) as a hell no are asparagus (makes my pee stink), bananas and figs (make me fart) so those things would make the experience worse because it would make me nervous. Nothing worse than being in the middle of coitus and have a loud fart come out the other end or worse yet, during 69, omg, omg, omg.:icon_eek: In all seriousness though, I think it is nothing more than a placebo effect. Oysters have never really done a thing for me as far as enhancing the desire or experience.

I would say that possibly disclosing that this is happening would probably be a good option but obviously, some ladies don't feel that way and it is their decision in the end. I think for fellas that love DATY, this could raise some issues if this accident occurs or if there were any leaking or anything of that nature. So knowing up front and possibly taking DATY off the menu would just be a little better way to go. Just my opinion. I do have a question for you ladies out there though. During this time and having the sponge in there, does it negatively impact the pleasure and experience for you? If so, do you just do your best to "fake it" so to speak? I'm just curious here because a big part of the enjoyment I get out of this hobby comes from the mutual pleasure. If I get any thought that the lady is just "going through the motions" and not really getting pleasure, it is a big turn-off for me. I do have a lot of experience and am pretty astute at picking up on signals but obviously, some are better at acting it out better than others.

I agree with what RG said. Her safety trumps my privacy and honestly, if I can't provide her with some sense of honesty about who I am, then I shouldn't be in this lifestyle. I don't pick up ladies off of street corners here. It should never be an issue to have a phone that is not blocked or to provide her with some basic info. As for references, that could be hard if one hasn't been with a lady registered here but I would think if I have been with other ladies out here in the west on CAF, for example, or a touring lady, their reference would suffice for a lady in Halifax if I was in town visiting. And if it's a first foray into the hobby, then politely say so and there are some ladies who do offer first-timers. Pretty simple really.

Although this is an older thread, it definitely is something that has to be brought up from time to time. There are certain lines that should not be crossed in this industry. Actually, in any professional relationship, when you stop and think about it. I don't wish to be "friends" with my family physician and that little prostate exam is pretty damn "intimate". Okay, that rather silly joke aside, honestly, since when should we ever ask to be friends? Friendships grow and develop on their own if they are meant to be on both sides. I would say that I can be friends, to a certain extent with several people here, even though I have not met, nor likely ever will, meet in person. I would never ask for some "special friendship" consideration from even my most favorite SP, even though we could be considered friends, in a very real way. We really have to think with the big brain and make sure the little brain doesn't think, just goes with the flow. Gabby, sorry to read that you are having some tough times. Wish you well and hope that this passes and makes you better and stronger. Be well and stay safe.

Wow,12 grand and counting. That's a lot of ramblings RG, but always well said and honest. Keep them coming, good sir.

Eating my dinner and watching the Ken Burns documentary on Prohibition. Absolutely amazed that politicians have been that short-sighted and stupid for so long and remain that way to this day. Two lines in the commentary stand out. The first being "making the law is one thing, enforcing it something entirely different.". The other one being,"In a democracy based in the notion of individual freedoms, how can you enact a law stripping people of their freedom?"

Well, let's see. I'm 5'11" tall, 155-160 lbs. Dark hair that I keep cut short (a little grey sneaking in there now). Stay clean shaven, no tats or piercings. I am skinny but muscular. The ladies I see always ask me where and/or how often I work out. Fact is, I don't and never have been to a gym. Just blessed with good genes and a very high metabolism. Nearly 55 and still the same weight as when I was 20. Aside from the arthritis, actually more fit and stronger than when I was at 20 or even 30. Of course, working in construction for 25-30 years will do that. Eyes are sometimes green, sometimes light blue, sometimes grey, they change with my mood. As for who I look like, damn, I just can't think of anybody that's really close. Maybe a tiny bit like Ben Stiller with bigger ears, bigger nose and glasses. I could be way off on this part. It's hard to picture yourself.

These ones always make me LMAO. "I'm young, hung, handsome and don't have to pay to get laid." Uh huh. Awful bold words from the guy who A.Contacted an escort, not the other way around and B. Is still willing to pay but wants to haggle with this lame ass shit? I think there should be a translator for this stuff. This one would read,"I'm a broke ass loser that has worn thin with every girl I know because I'm an obnoxious moron so I will try this crap to see if I can get laid by a pro within my budget."

Yeah, the opening few minutes really set the tone for the whole session, for me anyway. It isn't even anything in particular, just something that makes me feel welcome and comfortable. After that, the other stuff is less important. Not meaning that as it doesn't matter, just that I am flexible regarding the actual encounter.

This might be the hardest thread on here to respond to. Seriously. The female form is the most magnificent thing ever created and every part is so enticing and inviting and erotic. I guess all the obvious places are right up there near the top of the list but for me, some of my favorite places to explore (kissing, caressing, tongue, etc.) are what I consider the "transition" places. Where the bottom of the bum meets the thigh, where the hip and waist come together, the underside of the breast to the ribcage, the neckline to the shoulder, and of course, the back of the knee from the calf to the thigh. Damn, getting hot and bothered just thinking about it. :icon_redface: PS. large, small, curvy, athletic...it doesn't matter. They are all beautiful.

Exactly Ice, she is willing to maybe discuss something off menu but safe means safe. BBFS is not safe, obviously. I can't see that being a hard concept to grasp.

It seems to me as I read through this thread that the term was meant by SP's to be just a phrase to advertise they are willing to "entertain" unusual requests but because certain people in our society are fucked up in the head, they can't figure out that there is a line we should not cross. I don't know if SP's need to stop using the term because of a few bad apples. It seems kind of a shame that you have to rethink everything you do because of what amounts to stupidity on some peoples part. Of course, for me, the term may be akin to being absent minded, I don't know. I'm open-minded because there is a big "open" void of dead brain cells from the 70's up there.:tongue:

I agree with RG. I don't see how there can be any suggestion of a double standard. And the "friend" thing is something that rarely works, if ever. At some point, no matter how hard you try to deny it, there will be something that changes the dynamic. We can't help it. It just is what it is. Myself, I really like the ladies I meet in this hobby. I mean that truly. Even when I've just met them in our first encounter, there is a true connection there. However, I would never, ever suggest any type of relationship outside of this "professional" one. It is simply that I have too much respect for the ladies and our arrangement (for lack of a better term) and would never want something that would risk changing that almost perfect situation. As for the ladies being friends, that is, to me a very good thing for them whenever possible. It gives them somebody that can honestly understand the issues that arise in the profession and they can help each other face these issues and be better for it. By their being better off and happy, it makes our experiences as clients all that much better.