SuperNewf

I figure my last words to the executioner will do for this. My behavior has the characteristics of somebody trying to do everything he can to learn the ins and outs of this social arena and make his first experience with an SP as perfect as possible for both of us. I will not apologize for this. If the feathers of some people I do not know and who more importantly don't know anything about me got ruffled because I didn't immediately take their (occasionally rude) replies as gospel without even trying to understand what they were saying, then it is much better that it happen here than during an actual encounter with an SP that would ruin the date for both of us. Although it is unfortunate and regrettable that some people misunderstood some things I was saying, I have attempted to clarify them and further explain at every turn; if they chose to ignore my posts and make incorrect assumptions about me, then there is unfortunately nothing more I can do about it, as I have already tried my best throughout my posts. Since I have taken the time to fully explain all of my questions, detail why I was asking each of them, and address all points brought up to me as anyone would do in courteous discourse, I find flat outaccusing me of being a 'troll' with zero facts to back it up to be extremely presumptuous, dismissive, and outright offensive. Far from respectful or civil. In exactly three threads I have received replies to my questions that misunderstood the question, made incorrect assumptions that were not related to it, or flat out used an angry or combative tone to me. In those instances I have done my best to politely address the speaker, attempt to clear up the misunderstanding and explain the question more specifically to alleviate the confusion. When the answer was partially relevant or brought up another question, I attempted to ask clarifying questions to ensure that I did not misunderstand the answer and could fully understand where the other person is coming from. Making assumptions or just ignoring the reply like what has been done to me would be uncourteous and disrespectful. Whenever I was provided a complete, relevant answer, I replied with my understanding and thanked the person, usually both in a reply and with the thank post button. I have been observing this board for quite some time, and to be frank the biggest pattern I have picked up on is a small clique of people who go around posting nearly identical one liners that don't really explain much and then all thanking each and every one of each other's posts just because they already agree with it. This isn't useful or new information. Intellectual discourse for the purpose of learning or exchanging idea is useful. Patting each other on the back while not providing anything that makes anybody else think is not. I do not make assumptions, and take great care when thinking about responses and questions not to. The fact that others seem to be making assumptions about the nature of my questions or in their replies, and stick by them despite my attempts to explain otherwise, is what seems to be causing their frustration. For example, I have explained multiple times that I do not care about reputation points, once directly to you, and you continue to insist that I seek them. You are at this point blatantly calling me a liar for no discernable reason. That is a trolling and combative tone, and even when others have used a less than courteous tone against me I have still replied to them carefully and politely. Trolls blindly seek to intentionally say 'inciteful', intellectually vacant things for their own amusement, like calling genuine, thought-out questions troll posts. They also do not crave 'rep points', quite the opposite. They want red pips, not green. I can tell you for a fact that I am not anything close to amused, but rather deeply upset by this, whereas a troll would have taken glee in receiving an infraction and then a ban, where somebody wasted their breath saying stuff he wouldn't bother to read. Drama is serious, actual emotional words and hurt feelings. Trolling is poorly thought, pointless puff said with minimal effort resulting in extracting large effort from others, resulting in a net emotional loss to the other person. So, with that in mind, here's the drama that you created, the combative tone that you self-fulfilling prophesied, the "QQ MOAR" that makes your day: I expected more from this community; by virtue of its industry I thought that the people here would be more open-minded, understanding, and accepting of those with mental disabilities, social difficulties or who otherwise do not fit the stereotypical mold of a normal person with normal relationships. Instead, I feel like I am in high school again, and am being bullied just because I do not automatically think exactly like the exclusive, elitist group of 'cool kids' and want to try to work to understand them rather than blindly fear and worship them. This community thinks itself special, in a 'business like no other' consisting of a completely unique social dynamic. However, as somebody that has spent his entire life trying to study and understand humans and their social dynamics I can tell you right now from my experiences today that it is not. It is completely identical to every other congregation of humans on this planet, its relationship dynamics just as pedictable and shallow, its self-image just as dogmatic. Unfortunately for me, it was only in hindsight. Nevertheless, principles come before intimacy. Goodbye and thank you to the people who did try to understand and help me with my quest to get better at relationships. It is a shame that I won't be allowed to get to know you better by virtue of not being good enough at relationships. Best regards, Mike P.

I know that virtually all SPs have a very strict 'no contact outside the paid client/SP context' policy with clients, but at the same time I see SPs on this board arranging to just hang out with each other socially all the time. I'm just curious as to what leads to this double standard, and why a casual friendship similar to the ones between the SPs is not possible with a client in addition to (or perhaps instead of if the client, say, finds an SO and retires from hobbying) the paid intimate one. Or, perhaps why all the SPs who use the reason that they have lives and schedules outside of their SP identity as a reason not to see clients in this way see other SPs in this way, clearly bringing their SP identity with them as it's how they connected with each other.

Hey, I was just wondering if there were any other ethical Vegans on this board, or even people who are considering trying to go Vegan, cut back on animal products, or have passion about animal rights in general. I'm thinking of trying to start a social group for it here.

Hey, I was wondering if there were any SPs in St. John's with an 'alternative' or heavily tattooed look as I find it (and the usual accompanying attitudes) to be extremely attractive (although it isn't required to still be attractive). Any input would be appreciated. I'll also note that I have several tattoos myself and am planning several more at the moment.

Hi, I was wondering if there were any other Vegans kicking around in St. John's; I'm having a huge amount of trouble trying to find a Vegan community to engage with here. Also if there are any local SPs who are Vegan or who are at least considering it or are passionate about animal rights (and of course after looking at my profile would still be willing to entertain a rendezvous with me), feel free to post here or send me a PM and I will check out your profile/website.

A thought randomly entered my head today that I found mildly amusing, so I would like to know what other people think of it. Many of the ladies' websites around here have 'week long getaway' specials and some also mention being able to sometimes extend a date at the client's request, but have also sternly said that clients should not ask to see them outside of the professional relationship. So, what I am wondering, is what if there was a billionaire client who came along who wanted to extend the week long getaway special indefinitely, or simply keep booking them one after the other? All time of course is paid at the asking donation or perhaps even a greater amount. What would your reactions to such an offer be? I assume that most ladies would reject it, but I don't understand logically why from the information I have gathered from the websites. What makes a certain amount of time/money booked with multiple clients different than the same amount of time/money booked with one?

There are no rules in the rules section that say that only SPs or only advertisements are allowed in the shoutbox or anything, but ads are the only thing I ever see in there. Is there some sort of rule that I can't find?

It seems for some reason that everybody else besides myself appears to have over 10000 reputation points if they have been thanked at least once, even if they only have 1 post and 1 total thanks. Is this a display error of some kind or is there something about the rep system I am misunderstanding?

Hello, I am wondering what kinds of conversation topics are considered inappropriate or should otherwise not be broached while on a date with an SP. I have already gathered that discussing money or services breaks the immersion and are big no-nos, but are there any other topics that should be avoided? For example: Discussing Significant Others (theirs or yours)? Other clients of hers? Her day job or personal life outside the industry in general? If anyone has any information to offer, I would like to compile a "Do Not Discuss" list. On the other hand, are there any particularly good conversation topics that are recommended as well? Mainly for during a first meeting but some could be for regular ones as well.

Hey, I am wondering what an appropriate time would be to wait before sending a follow-up message after your last message has not been returned. Several days ago I contacted an SP for the first time, who replied warmly to my e-mail and gave me some basic information (A portion of the message was standardized but that's expected.) When I replied to that e-mail I gave her my phone number as she said I would have to at some point. However, it's been 4 days since then and she has not replied. I am wondering how long I should wait before messaging her again, as well as what possible reasons there would be for not receiving a reply. The most obvious one I can think of is that she is just busy. In that case I would not want to risk hassling her as she will reply when she can. However, I am worried that I might have accidentally said something to offend her and she is not replying intentionally, in which case I would not want to harass her with further e-mails but would also want to know what I did wrong so I can correct it in the future. Or, the worst possibility (aside from something bad happening to her) is that she did reply via text to my phone but for some reason my phone did not receive it, in which case I am accidentally ignoring her! In that case I'd want to send a message asap. Any advice on my situation or on timing for follow-up messages in general?

Hello everybody, Thought I would introduce myself and ask for some advice. A bit about me: I am 26, ex-military, vegan, an animal rights and autism awareness activist, and a high school tutor in my spare time. I am based in St. John's, NL, and completely new to this kind of scene. I recently went through a series of very bad experiences relationship-wise and am no longer interested in traditional relationships but I still want to develop meaningful connections and add some adventure to my life. However, I have no idea where to begin. I have Autism and even though I am highly intelligent and have a lot of 'worldly' experience (mostly with hardship) I have a great deal of difficulty with even simple social interaction, let alone the rules for contacting, meeting and interacting with an SP. I was wondering if anybody would be kind enough to tell me what things I should do to prepare, to expect, what questions to ask, etc, even if it is something that is usually taken for granted that people know. I have been researching a lot of stuff on these boards but I usually need instructions to be extremely specific to be able to understand. I have only ever been with one woman, who herself had some serious mental issues, so I would consider my sexual experience rather limited, even though I am confident with what I do know. I was also wondering if there were any ladies in my area who enjoy working with 'new' guys and teaching them things about this industry and sex in general. Thanks!