misterdiscretion2014

Personally, I think the cliche, "be yourself, because you'll make a terrible somebody else" applies here. There's really no right or wrong way to construct a website, though there are some aspects that will reflect on you as a person in some way (professionalism, style, etc). Whatever you can do to make your personality shine through (without sacrificing your privacy) will go a long way to attracting the kind of clientele that will enjoy what you have to offer.

I think it's highly dependent on how much of a factor the sp's appearance played into one's original decision to see them, and subsequently, the decision to continue seeing them. If you spend time with someone solely based on their looks, I cannot imagine you'd continue to see them after they had changed significantly. That said, I would think that most hobbyists who choose to see the same woman on an ongoing basis are doing so for reasons beyond just the physical. I do prefer a pretty woman (why lie?), but if she has transitioned from young and pretty to mature and pretty, that's not a big deal to me, as generally, I think pretty is pretty, regardless of age, and if a woman has aged 10 years, so have I! *laughs*

I think there is something to the idea that some gentlemen would like a reco section for hobbyists because they'd like to know how they "rank", for lack of a better term, but they would probably be disappointed by the criteria most sp's would use to grade them as clients. Things like hygiene, willingness to submit to screening, not haggling on prices, not insisting on a menu, etc, would be much higher on their lists than say, prowess between the sheets. I don't want to pull back the curtain on the wizard of oz for anyone, but I don't think a hobbyist's skills are of much concern to the average sp. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they think it's a lovely bonus when you show some level of competency in bed, but it's hardly a dealbreaker if you're all thumbs. If recent board subjects are any indication, not sending a d**k pic puts you in elite company :p

I have had the displeasure of people misrepresenting themselves with their photography in the past, but it was a bait and switch, not an over photoshopped picture. As pro photographers get paid to make people look their best, I don't expect anyone to look exactly like they do in a staged photo in a controlled environment like a studio. Lighting plays a huge role in how you look in a picture, and a professional can emphasize a woman's best qualities in a way that a selfie will not, but I don't think that is necessarily misleading, it's just a photographer doing their job to the best of their abilities. There is one very beautiful woman who has commented on this thread with a wide variety of pro pictures, and while there may be some evidence of photoshopping here and there, I can say from experience that this woman does indeed look quite spectacular in person. I would be quite shocked if anyone felt mislead by her portfolio, and on a personal level, I think she looks much better in person ( with less make-up - another photography *trick* :p )

I think there is a pretty good range of opinions here to draw from already, but I would add my two cents that whenever something seems too good to be true, it usually is. If you apply the "common sense" test/filter to most BP ads, it's not all that difficult to distinguish the reputable sps from the less ethical percentage of our population. One thing I can say with 100% certainty - if it says the poster's origin is Donetska, Ukraine, she's hiding something from you :P

I want to start off first by saying that no one should have their time wasted, even if it isn't a traditional type of business (though many would argue it's the oldest), it's still a business, and if you consider nuisance requests without looking at your bottom line, you won't be in business for long. With that said, I wanted to comment on the various tire kickers out there, that quite often end up asking a zillion questions and making you jump through another zillion hoops, only to NOT book with you in the end. I'm curious how many people who do this have no, or very limited, experience with courtesans. I say this because, before I had seen many ladies, I was much more prone to asking (stupid) questions. In hindsight, I think I was always looking for a reason to back out, something just out of place to justify my inner chicken sh*t and not take the plunge. It's not a particularly good reason, but it was my reason. I was fortunate enough to come across an sp who found a very polite and tactful way to tell me to "sh*t, or get off the pot", which was the nudge I didn't realize I needed. Perhaps this is a very round about way of saying, if you prod these people with a little common sense, they might just come around.

Could we please start a petition to ban all mundane, every day activities that people post on facebook as though they are of actual importance? You went to the grocery store? Really? Tell me more! :P

I find it especially sad that the chorus of voices singing against a legalized sex trade, who hide behind allegedly religious intentions, do nothing else other than spit venom. You will often hear them talk about the "poor girls who are forced into the business", but ask how many of them have ever reached out to these women, or volunteered at a woman's shelter, and you can be assured the answer will be most often "no". It's sad our society is so sexually oppressed that complete strangers feel the need to regulate the activities between consenting adults. Hopefully, someday, people will learn that the negative plight of many women in this industry is caused by the current sex trade model, not an inherent effect of the industry itself.

It's very unfortunate that all hobbyists and service providers get painted with the same brush, but it is the reality. While most of us on sites like this are interested in seeing genuine courtesans, well versed in the art of carnal pleasure and at ease with the emotional toll the profession can take, society sees us all as the guy cruising the streets, in search of "fresh meat", a term I have heard more than once by people who prefer this type of "date". It's not fair, but that's the world we live in - where people assume everyone on both sides of the sex trade is either a drug addict, sexual predator or lost soul. The issue of coming forward in reporting this ugly part of the sex trade is part of the larger issue of the shame and stigma associated with the industry. It's not acceptable to say to people you had an amazing time with an sp the previous evening, with wonderful conversation, intimacy, and of course, quite often, mind blowing sex. Once you "pay for it", you're supposed to sit in silence and pretend like it never happened, this dark secret that must be kept from the rest of the world. By this standard, it will be extremely difficult to change the laws in this country, as most people involved in this business don't want anyone to know, making proper advocacy nearly impossible, as only a select few sp's are brave enough to come forward, and up to this point, almost no hobbyists are willing to face the backlash of admitting they "pay for sex", which is the scope the outside world sees us.

Has anyone else noticed how ads on backpage in Sudbury for ladies travelling to Timmins often disappear within hours?