Cara Silver

Hey cerbies, for years I've been trying to find a way to put this job on my resume. I know that sounds silly but this job has been a major part of my life for 6 years now. I feel I've acquired a number of invaluable skills and substantial life experience. Here is what I have learned: I have started, owned, and maintained a business of good reputation. My business has been successful. I have acquired skills in the business, financial, marketing and interpersonal arenas. I have done all this alone, against great odds, and have put myself through school at the same time. (None of this encompasses the rich and meaningful relationships I've developed with clients, friends, and other sps but you can't put "I made great friends" on a resume! The business skills are a sidebar to the friendships but I definitely wouldn't get the job if I said that) It would all sound SO good on a resume if these skills weren't listed under the title of "Escort". Here's my question: Is there a way for sps to credit their sp life in the real world? Is the stigma too much for employers to move beyond the word 'escort'? What job term could I use instead to describe my time as an escort? Is this even possible? So many of the wonderful skills you learn as an escort are transferable to the real world but it seems that the very nature of the job makes it impossible to claim as experience. I want to be loud and proud about being an escort and my lifestyle and my community but I'm not sure how to spin it. Does anyone have any ideas? Thanks so much xoxoxoox Amelia

Dear Men of New Brunswick: You fucking rock. Best trip ever, and tons of fun. Thank you thank you thank you!! xoxoxo Amelia ps. You will be cursed with my presence many times in the coming years!!

My clones are all dating the clones of Vladimir Putin. Jealous.

Actually she's a bizarro world clone. I also have parallel universe clones. We keep saying we'll get together for lunch but we never end up at the same restaurant. WEIRD.

Hey guys, sorry I didn't reply earlier-- I was busy making out with Amelia #36. The really nice thing about her is that her hair is parted on the other side. We're crazy like that!! xoxoxoxo Sexy clone

Hey cerbies, what up? I've started to tour recently and have had great success. Touring is a fun way to meet new people, see new places, and get out of town. What I've noticed, though, is that some guys react badly when I'm not going to their town specifically. While the overall feeling is one of appreciation, there are a few men who think it is thoughtlessness/rudeness on the sp's part to not include all cities in that province. It's very discouraging when I make an announcement about touring to immediately receive several emails asking why I am not coming to a certain city as well or instead. I just want to say that I'm doing the best I can!! I can't visit all Canadian cities. It's lovely, and extremely flattering, to hear that people want to meet us girls. I'm sorry if your town is not included on a particular trip- it is not meant in judgment of your town. It's just that we can only do so much!! Thanks guys, and hoping to make it your way, wherever you are.... Again, the sentiment is much appreciated :) xoxoxo Amelia

Good morning everyone, I just wanted to conclude this thread on a positive note. I always know when something goes wrong I can come talk about it here. Sometimes that's all I need to feel better. Thank you for all the support and I look forward to the resumption of great sex in the very near future. Isn't it nice to have so much sex in our lives? Let's count our orgasms as blessings and divine gifts. Oh god I'm going straight to hell lol. Have a great day! xoxo Amelia

Studios/brothels are much worse from the inside looking out than from the outside looking in. That's all I'll say about my time working the studios in Vancouver and Edmonton. Studios don't survive, or survive on a very poor reputation, because ladies don't want to work there. *Shudder* xoxo Amelia

Asking an rmt for a handjob is incredibly offensive to the rmt and the profession. Women don't naturally acquiesce to any sexual inquiry just because there's money involved. I cannot imagine this scenario ending well for anyone involved. Hand jobs for money don't enter into the RMT's sphere of life any more than they do in a doctor, nurse, or physiotherapist's sphere of life. That's what cerb ladies are here for :) We're just as relaxing! Sometimes a full body orgasm can do wonders.... xoxo Amelia

The overlying theme here is that it's not about what you think your partner wants. If what you are doing is hurting your partner, what you are doing is wrong. It's not that your partner is dysfunctional in some way. If someone told me that I was hurting them, I would NEVER give them attitude or accuse them of having dysfunctional anatomy. I posted this exact thread on my blog, hoping for some understanding. One person wrote back: Do you actually enjoy sex or are you just here for the money? This is the type of client who thinks he is so talented, so skilled in bed that my lack of enjoyment points to a deeper physical or emotional problem in me. I think that "you're just here for the money" is the go-to anthem for bigots. That, and "you don't enjoy sex." We ALL work for a living- none of us would be at our jobs if we didn't have to support ourselves financially. BUT I am lucky enough to enjoy my job, and I enjoy sex. The key is to find a job that you actually like. Just because I'm an escort doesn't mean I'm predisposed to enjoying EVERYTHING that's done to me, just as a cashier at Walmart is not thrilled when the customers are rude and arrogant. The closeness and intimacy of my particular job does not invite physical pain any more than any job. I am sensitive to Daty and that same client suggest I put a disclaimer up about just how sensitive I really am. I don't need a disclaimer. I need clients who listen to my directions, who respect me, and who understand that spreading open my vagina and attacking the clitoris is not what every girl enjoys. I need a client who understands that after an HOUR of aggressive daty I am chafed and angry. I need a client who respects my need for a break instead of arguing with me and surreptitiously returning his fingers to the same painful site. I need a client who understands that I am a person and not his personal play thing. Bottom line: If daty is done according to what the woman enjoys, all is good! I enjoy daty as much as the next lady. But if you attack my clitoris right off the bat, it becomes sore and oversensitive for the rest of the session. That's why I will continue to tell clients to start slow. And if they don't like that they don't have a free-for-all pass to do whatever they want with my body? I stand firm in the knowledge that there is nothing inherently wrong with me, or any woman, but there is everything inherently wrong with a man incapable of offering respect.

Thank you. I feel human again- sometimes that's a luxury. You're good people here. Amelia

This is part 2 to a thread I started long ago about painful DATY and digits. I tried to implement a system wherein I told each and every client the value of safety and comfort during those activities. After a while I stopped having that conversation because clients got to know me on cerb and through my website and blog. I am a woman who speaks up. I met a client this week for whom "it hurts" was an aphrodisiac. I would say "I'm sore" "that's enough" "STOP IT" and he rolled his eyes and threw up his hands. I said, stay away from that area entirely, but his fingers gravitated towards my vagina every 2 minutes, as if I wouldn't notice stabbing pain. I just want to say: I am a person. The vagina is a very delicate area. Money does not offer anyone VIP access to my body. Money does not buy anyone the right to treat escorts as blow up dolls. Not every woman can sustain, or enjoy, repeated and aggressive DATY. When I say it hurts, it hurts-- it is not my way of 'cutting down' on my services, or 'cheating' the client. Instituting boundaries is a key part of being a happy escort. It is not a sign that I am uptight, prude, chaste, damaged, or other words. There is nothing wrong with me if I don't like what the client is doing. I have found that some clients tend to see the escort as defective if she does not like what he is doing. There is an automatic assumption that something is wrong with her. It's not that I need to 'relax', 'take it easy', or 'go with the flow'. There is nothing inherently defective in my sexual organs or personality just because I don't like certain styles of daty or sex. I may be an escort but the thing that sustains my business is my personality, not my ability to orgasm at the slightest touch, or my ability to withstand pain for the sake of the client's enjoyment. I am so sore right now, and feel so low. Yes, I will once again become defensive about daty. I just wanted to explain why. ps. This was a non-cerb client. This thread is my way of seeking support, not an attempt to call out anybody. I have never met a cerb guy who treated me like this-- thank you for that.

A guy who doesn't tell you he's the best client you'll ever have. They are invariably the worst, if only because of their arrogance and inability to take advice when it comes to sexual skills or hygiene.

How do you block a user from seeing your posts? Thanks, Cerbies! xoxo

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Wow, I just found this thread now- i'm so touched I'm tearing up. Today is my convocation. I get to walk across the stage in full academic dress and be proud of the 105 pages of my thesis. Hopefully the graduation speakers aren't too boring! It was also my birthday, I'm now the oldest I've ever been at 26. It's not so bad. Many thanks to all of you for the kindness. I thought I'd get a straight job right away but I actually love escorting. I have never met kinder people than cerbites. Thanks again (love you, Emma). Love Amelia

lol, LOVE this. I would name myself Master of My Domain!

We're laughing WITH you. lol.

BACON! Enormous vats of.

Ooohhh didn't know about this! Thanks et! xoxoxox

Hey guys, does anyone know any publishers/editors in the Maritimes? Thanks! xoxo

I'm so turned on right now.

Wow, that's some review... I could very well say the same about you. So guys- if you're looking for the real boyfriend experience, look no further than Swegin!! xoxoxoxoxooxoxooxoxoxo

I firmly believe that rhinestones enhance ANY sexual experience. 'Cause they're dressy, and you might as well make a night of it. :mrgreen:

- boarding a flight ON TIME! - realizing you are undead