Cara Silver

My guess is she's probably reluctant to book with you again. There are always those few clients who like to book and cancel- either because they're nervous, or the thrill of the booking is enough to satisfy them. I've had clients who book repeatedly and cancel repeatedly. I liken them to those guys who call repeatedly but never book. If it's a first-time client who cancels, I'm nervous about re-booking for fear the client isn't serious about meeting me and won't show up again.

I think you'll find most of the girls are pretty good at starting conversations-- we're used to making nervous guys feel comfortable. I'm pretty chatty so I usually launch into a variety of topics. Many escorts are in this business because they're naturally social and sociable, with good people skills. My advice is to not worry about it at all, we want to get to know YOU as much as you want to get to know us. If conversation really falters I always go for: "How bout that local sports team??" :lol: Whatever breaks the ice, right? lol Too bad I know nothing about any local sports teams... Also, sps tend to be quite open-minded and up for most subjects. Just stay away from personal questions, just in case. Hope this helps!! xoxo Amelia

Awww thanks Monsieur Island Spud! I blogged about massage today so you can all check it out at sweetameliaheart.com/blog I'm thinking about setting up a massage day each week, with a special rate. What do you guys think? Have a great day! xoxo Amelia

Hello boys, I've been giving massages for many years. It's one of my favourite sessions. PM me for details. Have a great day.... xoxo Amelia

OOOooooooohhh now I get it. god I'm slow!! thanks you guys for helping me out and let's never mention this to anyone else!!! I do remember completing my masters degree, but somehow those skills don't transfer to cerb. Duh. xoxoxooxoxoxoxoxooooooo Amelia

oh you can only comment when you're giving reputation points??

I KNOW I've been on this site for a year and a half but I still have no idea how to post comments in someone else's post. Does anyone know? thanks!

Yup, emma is pretty irresistible in those candids. To celebrate April as a month of hedonism and dysfunction, I am holding a dirty limerick contest. Here is my contribution: There once was a man from the moon He was hung from here to next June he came down from space with champagne in his case popped a cork and made all earthlings swoon :exagerefesses: lol xoxo Amelia

There are ways to promote yourself that don't involve denouncing others. What is regular to you is not regular to others. The point is to advertise and offer what you want without judging others. At the end of the day, you can't know what most people think, and you can't presume to know what services are marked 'regular' or not. If what is really important to you is what your clients think, there is no reason to judge other sps. What makes this board unique is the cross-sexual-culture of the members, and the encouragement and acceptance of difference.

We here (meaning me) at sweetameliaheart pride ourselves (still me) on showcasing the latest and greatest of sexy bodies. This month's playmate is particularly special and delicious. And I think we all know who I'm talking about-- our beloved Emma A. So if you want to check it out, and be dazzled and instantly horny, check out my blog........ xoxo Amelia

daty and kissing are what define gfe for me. It has nothing to do with charging extra. It's a totally different service so it's a different price. There really is no normal because everyone is different. There is also no such thing as 'regular' services. There is an industry standard, yes, but it doesn't mean everyone has to meet it. Those who charge extra for certain things, like greek, have as much right to charge extra as another sp who charges extra for things like kissing... it is a reflection of the sp's personal, emotional, and physical difficulties in providing a service. For some, providing kissing is as difficult as providing greek. No human mind and body is built alike. It's up to the girl, and as long as there are no HIDDEN costs, you cannot judge a girl for providing and charging what she wants. If it's all laid out on the table- exact prices and exact services- no one can take a moral stand. If you don't want charge extra? Fine! If you do? Fine!

I totally agree with this, and your point was/is definitely clear. Making the 'friends list' a simple and easy reference list for other ladies is smart. From now on my list will contain clients I would recommend and ladies I would recommend working with.

I use cover girl lip stain. it's great!

I guess. But if it's your boyfriend and you're already in bed, it's fucking hot. The bed is such a nice place- you can have sex, sleep, read, watch tv, eat junk food, peruse cerb, and dream about great things- like you're giving a speech in front of a thousand people and you've forgotten your pants, or you're being chased by an axe-murderer. LOVE my bed. lol

I was seeing a guy I wasn't really into. I was ready to break it off with him. Then one night we were lying in bed (never having had really good sex) and this wave of sexual arousal hit him. He was suddenly super hard and I had no interest in sex but he said, take off your panties. That slight assertiveness, arrogance, and total absorption in his own pleasure turned me on so much. He just pushed himself into me from behind and we both came within minutes. The biggest turnon is when someone wants you so badly they'll go crazy if they don't have you.

I'm not sure wikipedia is the best source of information. A word can be reappropriated by a certain community- 'faggot' by the gay community, 'nigger' by the black community, etc.- but when it is used by others who don't belong to that community it IS offensive. As you said, your gay friends call each other 'faggots' as a sign of trust and camaraderie. But outside the gay community, 'faggot' is a term generally used to insult the gay community. Same with 'nigger.' It depends on who is using the word and in what context. I don't know where it came from but to speak of women in that manner, and in so judgmental a way, is misogynistic. I felt the sting of that word very deeply and that seems to make people really angry, but sometimes it's not about an ideal world where words mean nothing. Sometimes it's about how people want to be, and want not to be, described by others. I have a right to say that I don't want women described as ...... by men. Words mutate and transform with time. Just because they come from a neutral place does not mean they stay there. And words do not stay on a level playing field either. Words of a similar meaning can have very different effects.

Thank you Emma. I'm sad to see that word used in reference to girls, no matter the context. There ARE reasons why sps won't give references-- if you give a bad reference there is an actual fear that it'll get back to the client in question (because the inquiring sp won't see him.) I gave a bad reference once, warning the girl not to see the client, and he wrote me several offensive emails accusing me of being a jealous no-good 'hooker.' In fact, he had left two bruises on me. Was I scared? Yes. He knew where I lived. I continue to give bad references if I have a bad experience but I do so with significant worry. I don't want the girl to get hurt, but I don't want to be the target of a thwarted client. That's my story and it's one reason why some girls may not give references.

I don't deny that. But it is still a shockingly harsh description. You may feel some women deserve that word but it is jarring to see any man refer to women that way.

This comment pains me. There is no reason to use such language in reference to women. Some girls might not give references but they do not deserve such a cruel denunciation.

This is a bit of an odd response. We ask for references on safety and personal hygiene. We don't care if you had chemistry with your last sp. We understand all too well that in this business there is not going to be chemistry with every client. But most of the women on here are not so catty that they would label you a 'jerk' or 'unworthy of trust' because there is no chemistry. A good client is respectful, honest, and sweet, with good hygiene. We enjoy spending time with a gentleman even if there is little chemistry. We are not in this business only looking for a great time in bed. We are professional and understanding women. I, for one, would never badmouth a client because I had no chemistry with him. When a girl asks me for a reference, I tell her, to the best of my ability, whether she'll be SAFE, and whether she'll be in the presence of someone who is clean and respectful. And- I do not provide references for gentlemen I have only seen once, unless the session went really badly. I feel I don't know them well enough. This is to stop me from making quick judgments about a client. With me, if I give you a bad reference it's because you gave me a reason to give you a bad reference. Tracie, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with references. You deserve better. Love Amelia

WHAT?? I have had many love moments on my futon. Once you go futon, you can't go back.

Belladonna- I love the Oscars too! Thing is, I didn't think anyone really had an amazing dress. I usually look forward to Kate Winslet's outfit but it was so dull. I loved Gabourey Sidibe's dress and I thought she should have won the oscar, or at least the movie should have won. Mariah Carey, SJP, and Charlize Theron looked terrible this year!

On a more serious note, I rally behind you, Emily. We can only hope that the more we dissuade this kind of behaviour, the more progress we'll see. Sometimes it doesn't feel like anything's changing, but something has to be. Right? xoxo Amelia

I love this thread. If you were a pizza, what kind of pizza would you be? I'd be a Hawaiian. Sweet and salty. But- none of this buy 1, get 35 pizzas for free. It'd be buy 1, pay full price! Delivery in 2+ hours. Hot and fresh. Thin crust for sure, because the doughy base can lead to indigestion. xoxo Amelia

Just a note- I am asking for a reference if you'd like this service and I have not seen you before. It's NOT personal!!! I love you guys, I'm just trying to ensure a safe and fun session for both of us. xoxoxo Amelia