Nathalie L

I just submitted my two term papers. OMFG what a relief! Sigh, oh happy thoughts and blissful relaxation. That's definitely the highlight of my day and it's only 9:30 a.m.! Additional Comments: Oh yes... the viva puffs and whippets... those are the highlight of my day too! That box got me through the evening as I poured my heart and soul into those papers ;) (not!)

It's been a while folks, but here is a new blog post about my 'working vacation' with a new photograph... (a surprise, maybe? -- who knows hehe) http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

This thread hits close to my heart. Thank you, Karina, for being so forthcoming and honest about your feelings. It has created a safe environment for people to post about their own experiences. Hopefully we can all learn from one another, and move forward with compassion, kindness, and love for ourselves. Perhaps this isn't the appropriate place or time to discuss my experiences, but this story might illuminate the complexities of loving people, regardless of whether the relationship is bounded by the particular circumstances of the SP/client relationship. I hope this helps, Karina, and I hope others who are reading are compassionate and understanding. In May 2011, a client and I fell in love. Was it wrong? Definitely not. Was it complicated? Very. We had so much in common and he inspired me. He encouraged me to apply to law school, write poetry, start a blog, and share my thoughts with the world. At one point he bought me a beautiful leather bound journal and said I inspired him as well. We wrote e-mails to each other endlessly, and saw each other approximately every two weeks. He was writing a novel, and I was reading it and providing him feedback on it. The novel's love story turned out to be representative of the love he and I shared. As he learned more about my life, he would integrate those moments into the narrative. It was beautiful to see our love story unfold both on paper, via e-mail, and in real life. The problem: he was single but contemplating getting back together with his ex and I was in a relationship with a woman I married several months later. While on a trip to Chicago, he and I decided to part ways. After a morning of blissful relaxation, lovemaking, kissing, and caressing, we went out for lunch. I looked at him and said I felt very confused and conflicted. I told him I loved him, but that it was complicated. I asked him what we were doing, and whether we wanted to move forward with a 'relationship'. With hindsight, I recognize that we were already in a relationship, simply a relationship of a different nature. Neither of us had satisfying answers. My relationship with this client was bounded by the financial exchange, but I knew I would lose my relationship with my partner if I continued to see him. We walked to Millenium Park and sat on a bench, and watched people walk by. We held hands, and we both cried and mourned the end of our relationship. While he and I were negotiating my departure from Chicago (and the relationship) we had doubts. He said "even how we have discussed this, with so much love, compassion, and understanding, makes me wonder whether we are making a mistake Nathalie" I shook my head, I wasn't sure. I went home to my partner, told her what happened, and that was the beginning of the end of my relationship with her. We separated in the summer of 2012. At the time, I made the decision that made sense for me. I have no regrets. However, Karina, I would ask that you not romanticize relationships that aren't bounded by a financial exchange. Money does not necessarily corrupt authentic love and intimacy, rather, it's our discomfort with the idea of mixing both that causes tension. I think it's important to keep in mind that most relationships have unnegotiated financial dynamics (for example, many marriages and long-term relationships) which can cause much more tension than the honest and open communication that's possible with clients in this industry. If it feels right to you, then tell him, whilst simultaneously keeping in mind all the questions, comments, and concerns raised by Samantha Evans as well as others. None of us are walking in your shoes (or his). Wanting to keep love, intimacy, and care in one world, and money in another is what most people do, but we should all have a better understanding of what really happens in this industry... it is so much more complicated than that, isn't it?

There's a very similar thread to this one here. I hope you enjoy the responses (mine is in there too!)

I love porn. Absolutely love it. That's why I thought I would share this awesome event happening Toronto. For all of those located in or around Toronto (or for those willing to travel) an opportunity to brush elbows with the stars of these hot, dripping, and sexy films shouldn't be missed! The Eigth Annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards are from April 4th-6th this year. The nominees this year are available here. Information about the event is available here. There's also a day of workshops on Saturday during the day for those more academically inclined! Enjoy, Nat

When I'm with a woman I prefer to take my time and really learn what she likes. I play the 'optometrist' game (is one better, or is two better? one, or two?) There are many different kinds and intensities of orgasms. Even women who are multi-orgasmic have some orgasms that are 'better' than others depending on a multitude of factors... I like taking my time in that sense... I would never think that a woman was faking it in my presence, because I hope that I create a safe enough space for them to be honest with me if what I'm doing isn't working for them! If someone fakes their orgasm I'm assuming it's because their partner is putting too much pressure on them to get off. If I knew they were faking their orgasm, I would try to have a conversation about it and reassure them that I wouldn't get offended if they didn't orgasm. My self-esteem isn't that sensitive. It would just be a learning opportunity... To answer the question simply, I wouldn't assume she was faking it because she was multi-orgasmic. However, I wouldn't assume that there wasn't something I could do to make her orgasms better. There's always something you can do to make it more intense!

There's a new poem and an update about my future academic plans in my blog. Cheers, Nat

Thanks for posting this. Elle Alexandra is gorgeous, both with and without makeup... --drools-- It reminds me of these images released by Britney Spears to show how much magazines edit photographs:

I couldn't have said it better myself. It's really beautiful that you were able to connect with someone like that, regardless of whether it happened in the context of sex work or not. It's great that you're supportive of what she wants and I'm certain that in her own way she appreciates the times you've spent together. When I (semi)retired in October 2011, I wasn't sure whether I would come back and I definitely mourned some of the relationships I had maintained while working as an escort. It was definitely hard and the decision to take a break wasn't easy. It was amazing to come back and reconnect with both new and old lovers. As IrishWhiskey mentioned, perhaps she will be back!

My thoughts exactly. It's definitely bizarre... Her rates are public domain, but how many appointments she books per month as well as her expenses definitely aren't. Oh well... c'est la vie. I can't say I'm entirely surprised The Sun wanted to know.

I completely agree, but it's the Toronto Sun and highly sensationalized. Her income demonstrates that she makes a lot more than the average Canadian which might shock a lot of people. The fact that she's saving up for a condo and paying off school simply reinforces how 'intelligent' she is. Had she been using that money to support her children they might have wondered whether she was really doing it by choice... Next thing they'll run a story of whether escorts pay their taxes... tis' that time of year after all --sigh-- On another note, I'm happy the situation worked out for her.

Hopefully this isn't considered bumping the thread, but on the theme of sex work and disability, CBC's The Current had a segment this morning on the topic. To listen, click here. It's super good and hosts the author of the book "The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability" mentioned above. Enjoy! Nat

The Current CBC Radio One In search of equal opportunities in sexual expression: Sex & Disability Anan Maria interviews Dave Symington, Kirsty Liddiard, Cory Silverberg in this amazing segment on sex work and disability.

I just updated my blog. Within I describe my epic Saturday night adventures: NAC, BareFax, and a dance party in my living room! http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

I saw this video a really long time ago... It's so powerful and very inspirational. The doctors told him he would never walk without assistance again but yoga changed that... The first time I saw it I cried! The amount of determination it took is remarkable :) I don't know many people who would be able to do that, including myself.

I haven't learned anything yet today. However, I woke up this morning and realized that if I opened my eyes, I would learn a lot of valuable things from my day of laziness yesterday. Here's the story... I went out with a friend on Saturday night and had a fantastic time. We went out for dinner, saw a show at the NAC, went out for a few drinks... Eventually, our adventure led us to Bare Fax, a strip-club in the market of Ottawa, where dances were purchased and kisses were had by all. We stayed till close. When we arrived at my place, we had a 'living room dance party' listening to Queen, Supertramp, and The Beatles. We also listened to a little bit of Blink 182, Offspring, and Our Lady Peace (say what?). Weird, I know, but so (oh so) perfect. Suffice it to say, we went to bed at 6am. I spent most of the day sleeping and watching Nikita yesterday. I saw the e-mails pile up, the homework sitting on my desk, I saw my calendar and all the things I need to get done this week and thought "oh well, I'll do it tomorrow". Well, I woke up today and realized it's all manageable, and that one night of epic adventures and fun provided me with something my homework can't: happiness. I also learned that when I don't do my work, it's not the end of the world! Like I said, I'll just do it today.

Good morning. My name is Nathalie Lefebvre and I'm happy to announce that Megan and I have been naughty during reading week... We are offering private lapdancing & sensual massage duos. We're on vacation and would love to spend time with each other and you! Please review our websites for further details: http://http://www.meganstouch.ca and http://http://www.lovely-nathalie.com. Click here to see our first recommendation! We are looking forward to meeting you, Megan & Nathalie

- by Daughter

Congratulations! You rock my socks off :)

Greetings Gentlemen, I am pleased to announce that Megan's Touch and I will be offering private lapdancing & sensual massage duos this week. We're on vacation for reading week and would love to spend time with each other and you! Please review our websites for further details: http://www.meganstouch.ca and http://www.lovely-nathalie.com. Click here to see our first recommendation! We are looking forward to meeting you, Megan & Nathalie

I'm not sure which I find more attractive, the girl, or the lingerie...

I feel the most at peace when I'm using public transportation. Weird, I know, but people are so wrapped up in their own thoughts, it's easy to sit and watch. I listen to music and imagine people's lives, observe their interactions, watch the houses go by... I sit, I think, I relax. I love public transportation so much that I'm often slightly sad when I arrive at my destination. If I have the time and luxury, I often don't get off at all and simply wander around the city. I could do it all day, especially if I'm listening to good music.

A mix of various cheese and bread, with cold cuts and keilbasa sausage (the deli meat of my childhood). Mmmmm....