Nathalie L

Thank you for letting me join!

Realizing that I'm surrounded by people who love and care about me on a daily basis, and I'm blessed with a roof over my head, food in my belly, and a lot of extra time for fun! [that is... until school starts in September!]

Nautica first caught Georgiana Sweet's eye as she walked by us at the Nuden. "What about her?" she said. "Who who?" I said, looking about. "The girl that just walked by in the pink underwear" she replied. Unfortunately, I hadn't seen her because she was making her way to the stage. Upon seeing her there, I understood why Gia was so smitten. A beautiful brunette with a stunning smile and easy laughter, we both watched her play on stage and make everyone in the gallery laugh. She was the perfect mix of silly, fun, sultry, and seductive with a hint of wit and a great deal of intelligence. She was very popular and we had to be patient as I waited for her to finish with another patron. Was she ever worth the wait! Two dances later and I couldn't get enough. She's an incredibly good dancer and I enjoyed getting to know her more intimately in the champagne room. I would recommend her to all the fellow members of CERB who enjoy a good dance at a club.

I recently exchanged a series of unfortunate e-mails with a potential patron who had never seen a companion before. I eventually declined his request because there were too many red flags. Too many questions and subjects were discussed that honestly freaked me out to the point of not seeing him. One or two of these questions on their own wouldn't have been so bad, but the combination of them all was enough to make me cancel the appointment. I'm also sorry if this turns out to be a little bit of a rant... >_<... Please do not ask me the following... Will there be 'thugs' waiting in the closet at your incall to mug me? Unless you're a thug, then no, there will be no 'thugs' in my apartment. I understand hesitancy and fear if it's the first time you've sought the services of an SP/MA, but this question is very offensive. Are you a cop? No. Are you? Are you D&D free? Yes. However, there are no guarantees. I don't intend to show you a 'report card' of cleanliness upon your arrival at my incall. Protecting yourself from STIs has everything to do with engaging in safer sex practices and getting tested regularly. STI prevention has nothing to do with trust. I could tell you I was D&D free, and you could say the same, but ultimately we hardly know each other. That's why we have safer sex. In terms of drug use, read recommendations, do your research, check out websites... use your judgment. I have no idea what to say as far as drugs are concerned. I think this question is shrouded with assumptions about who escorts are, and not based in reality. This question perpetrates the stigma that escorts are 'dirty', and into drugs. Are you an easy drunk? This is none of your business. We will not get drunk together. We are supposed to get together to have a good time, connect, and be intimate... Asking me whether I'm an easy drunk sets off a lot of red flags. Would you like me to be an easy drunk? If so, what does that insinuate about your intentions during the encounter? Do you mind just waiting for me, and I'll call you when I'm done having drinks with my buddies? Yes, I do mind. The fact that you'll be drinking with your buddies before our appointment is also a huge red flag for me. Especially when you're also asking me whether I like group and rough sex. Nothing you're doing is illegal at the incall, right? But aren't you afraid the cops will bust you? Obviously the night we get together will be the night you get busted, ha. ha. Our security isn't a laughing matter. I don't think there are any escorts or massage attendants that aren't afraid they will get targeted by an angry neighbour or landlord. Whenever I see a bylaw officer I think of the possible consequences of being targeted. There are multiple threads on CERB, and multiple resources online, that discuss the legality and risks involved in running an incall. Please do your research... End rant. ;)

I'm DEFINITELY in! Great idea. I posted on the other thread and also made book suggestions in the social group itself. Thank you so much for taking this initiative Peachy.

What a great idea! I would love to read "Lullabies for Little Criminals" by Heather O'Neill. I also want to read "The Virgin Cure" by Ami McKay.

I like RG's avatar. John Malkovich rocks!

Eating raisin/cinnamon bread with butter this morning... mmm I love butter...

I've already thanked you here, but I would like to thank you again for your lovely posts. I hope you never stop participating! xox Nat

(I missed the thread, too!) Happy belated Birthday! May this next year bring you happiness :)

I'm incredibly happy we get to post more than once, because I would feel absolutely horrendous if I forgot someone. I also want the opportunity to post on this thread whenever the urge strikes, and I want to publicly appreciate someone who has made a difference in my life on CERB. I would like to thank... - Voyi, who has deleted his account on CERB, for writing my first recommendation. - Etasman2000, Shortcake, Alexandra-Sky, Malika, Gabriella Laurence, and Megan's Touch, for providing me with valuable advice when I first joined the board. - Areez for being great in chat. - Phaedrus, MrrNice2, WiT, RG, Gentlemen11, Gabriella, AmeliaMA, Julie Wilde, MegforFun, mrgreen760, porthos, backrubman, Samantha Evans, SaraMQ, for participating in so many threads and evoking great conversations. - Emily Rushton, for her intelligent posts about issues that arise while working in the industry. and finally... - Angela of Ottawa and Nicolette for organizing the CERB socials. More to come!

Dulce de Leche ice cream from Haagan Dazs Finishing a good book, only to start another Connecting with a stranger Random acts of kindness Witnessing couples experiencing intimate moment in public (a kiss goodbye for example) Road trips Making jewelry Arts and crafts My yoga practice

Finishing a book, and starting a new one! I love reading so much -- it brings so much joy to my life!

That makes a lot of sense!

This entire social group makes me want to get a new tattoo! I'm so happy I joined -- these women are drop-dead gorgeous!

I mentioned YMMV in a thread called Loyalty Program posted by the lovely Jessica Lee. YMMV was also mentioned in the thread about Male Pubic Hair in the Ottawa discussion. I've never thought of YMMV as something negative, or something that might effect your service in the way you've mentioned above. YMMV has much more positive connotation for me. I've never really thought about male pubic hair, or YMMV being used in a way to describe those small hick-ups. Surely they occur, but often I negotiate this with my patrons as I go along and we get to know each other better. For example, I once had a client who booked late night appointments usually around 10:00 p.m. At this point, his 'five o'clock shadow' was rather intense and I remember after one raunchy make out session my face was burning! I didn't notice it at the time, but the following day my entire chin was peeling. I sent him an e-mail and asked whether it would be reasonable to provide him with a razor and shaving cream for our next appointment. He apologized profusely and promptly shaved upon his arrival at our next rendez-vous. Is that YMMV? I'm not sure. YMMV definitely isn't an excuse to give 'poor service' or treat clients badly. YMMV is a negotiation process between lovers. Has YMMV been used in other ways? I'm curious! A lot of people have YMMV in the description on their recommendation thread, for example. I always thought it was a good thing?

Thanks for starting this thread Jessica. A lot of people think about it, but not many people discuss it openly. I think this thread really boils down to YMMV and what various people do to show appreciation for patrons that value us and our services. There are a lot of different definitions out there, and some have negative connotation, but to me, YMMV has always meant that if we get along and have chemistry, and you've been respectful of me and my services, I will treat you as I would any lover by making you feel appreciated! I treat all of my patrons similarly, but if I have a repeat client I get along with particularly well, I will bend over backwards (no pun intended) to please them! How I do this depends on the patron in question, and the particular circumstances of our encounter. It can be something simple, or something I've been planning for quite some time. It all depends. I completely agree with Phaedrus on this one. Personally, I would never offer a loyalty program as you've described it. I will, however, make my regular clients feel loved and appreciated by living by the YMMV model. There are many ways to make people feel special, and make it known that you like them, without providing a discount on your services. When I really connect with someone, and I'm having a great time on a regular basis with someone, I like making sure they know I appreciate them. Yes! Those kinds of experiences really make people feel special. I love listening and providing those simple pleasures to my regulars. I've often downloaded favorite music, cooked favorite foods, and worn a special little something simply because I know they love it. It's the same with any romantic partner - I love going out of my way to make people feel special. Ultimately I rather give someone the gift of my time by thinking about them and keeping in touch 'off the clock', and doing special things for them while we are together, then by providing them with a discount on my services.

That would make sense! Thanks Tonie :)

That's super bizarre, because it's definitely not meant to be 'negative' reputation points. The person in question was agreeing with me and providing support... perhaps I'll message MOD about it?

...when you go into your User CP to view who has given you reputation points only to see that the little box beside the comment itself is grey, rather than green? (i.e. the first little box in the photograph below)

I completely agree. Feeling at peace is impossible when we can't be still with ourselves, when we aren't connected to ourselves in a meaningful way. I couldn't have said it better Sara. I don't think that's sad at all. I remember when I was in college, the only moments of 'peace' I had were on the drive to and from class. I lived approximately 35 km out of the city, and was working two part time jobs at the time. When I was driving I couldn't multitask, I couldn't do work, or hangout with my cell phone. When I was in my car, the only thing I could do was sit and pay attention to the road... It was a beautiful opportunity to think about life, and gather the peace necessary to feel at home. I know your situation isn't identical, but there are parallels. I understand how it feels to feel instantaneously at peace in a moving vehicle we call our own. Speaking of which, I still own the same car. :D

Good point - home isn't always where a person resides - sometimes it's where an animal resides... :)!

If you're in an environment where you can listen to music, take a moment to listen to this song while you read and potentially respond to this thread: 'Home' is a place we often take for granted. It is so incredibly important to feel a sense of 'belonging'. For some, there is a physical space associated with this feeling of 'home', for others, 'home' is where a person resides. I have an incredibly beautiful relationship with my step-father, Roger. I often feel 'at home' in his presence, regardless of the geography involved. I live in downtown Ottawa, but I've spent a fair amount of the month of July outside of my 'home'. I've missed it terribly, and I'm so happy to be back. There is something special about being surrounded by my books, my art, my papers and knick knacks. There's something special about my pillow. I bought it especially because it's flat but firm. I often sleep on my stomach. Although I had English Breakfast Tea elsewhere, it never tasted quite right, it never tasted quite like home. I'm home now. How would you describe 'home'? What is 'home' for you?

That sounds like a good plan. I don't think I have enough time to manage two blogs so I will simply stick to the one available on my website. So far, I've received really positive feedback and I've enjoyed reading this thread to see whether clients value it, and how SPs manage them!