Nathalie L

POWER just added new perks to the campaign: 30 minute sessions with an RMT and dinner with the board of directors! The POWER merchandise is really nice, too :)

Indiegogo does take a percentage of POWER's earnings, but if it weren't for this campaign we probably wouldn't achieve our fundraising goal so I'm thinking it's win-win (win for POWER for raising $10,000 and win for Indiegogo for making 4% of our earnings). As Em J said it's to raise awareness about POWER too and hopefully recruit new members. We have A LOT of work ahead of us. Just an FYI, we will be releasing new perks every week! Some of those perks include dinner with the POWER board of directors, toys, massages from Holistic Roots (RMT only), etc.

Happy Canada Day with a picture of me on a deck... http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

I've got a few new blog posts. The most recent one is about the 10 things I love and hate about being an independent escort :) http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

There will be a current and former sex-worker only social from 7:30 p.m. - 9:30 p.m. on Wednesday July 2nd. It is open to sex-workers from any sector of the industry including erotic massage, escorts, cam workers, erotic dancers, people who offer BDSM services, phone workers, agency workers, and independents, etc. It is also open to any person of any gender and sexual orientation. There will be vegan, vegetarian, and gluten-free snacks available. Please feel free to drop by for 15 minutes and then leave, or stay for the entirety of the two hours. Please PM me for the location (same location as usual). Again, this is for workers only (current and former). Thanks, Nat xox

One issue I've faced with going to a SC with clients is that the bouncers will check your ID and then say your full name (first and last) out loud to 'welcome' you into the club. This has happened to me three times now. With the gentlemen in question it was fine because they knew my name anyway, but if this happened with a first time client I would be upset. I spoke to those bouncers after we were seated at the table and they apologized, but it hasn't really changed the behaviour as bouncers come and go and I think it's in their training to do that. For the girls that work at SCs, is it possible to change that practice? Not sure how, but it's not ideal and I feel they should know better than to do that.

My thoughts on Bill C-36. I'm heartbroken and disappointed. http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

The Harper government.

I just wrote a blog post and posted an album from my trip to New York City this past weekend. http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/ What an amazing trip! I'm super happy and I would go back in a heartbeat.

There will be a current and former sex-worker only social from 7:30 p.m. - 9:30 p.m. on Wednesday June 4th (tomorrow). It is open to sex-workers from any sector of the industry including erotic massage, escorts, cam workers, erotic dancers, people who offer BDSM services, phone workers, agency workers, and independents, etc. It is also open to any person of any gender and sexual orientation. There will be vegan, vegetarian, and gluten-free snacks available. Please feel free to drop by for 15 minutes and then leave, or stay for the entirety of the two hours. Please PM me for the location (same location as usual). Again, this is for workers only (current and former). Thanks, Nat xox Additional Comments: It would seem the new legislation that will regulate sex work in Canada will be tabled tomorrow by Peter MacKay. That being said, I will bring copies of the bill, as well as a synopsis from PIVOT Legal Society (really awesome people), and general information about what it might mean, etc.

I just updated my blog. In it I reflect upon my trip to Quebec City this weekend, and whether we really know our extended (biological) family. :) http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/

Studio330 in Kingston also does nude yoga occasionally :) (for those in that area...)

I'm so happy we have a blog thread again. Here's my blog: http://lovely-nathalie.com/blog/ I posted my favourite poem yesterday, and lots of other stuff on previous days haha Nat xox

Highlight of the weekend: sitting on my ass and realizing it hurts because I did so much biking this weekend. I'm breaking in my season 2014 biker butt =P My poor little toosh! haha It's a good pain!

I'm really sorry this has happened, Valerie =( Kelly Lyle would be a good person to get in touch with. She's with OPS and also sex worker friendly. I'm trying to find her contact information online but I'm having a bit of a hard time. Can someone help me find her info? If you call the general OPS line tomorrow, and ask to be transferred to her, they should give you her extension.

Personally, I don't care how people derive their pleasure, as long as I can help, and accompany them along the way to their orgasm. I've met women who orgasm easily, and some less easily. I want to get people off the way they want to get off, no matter what, and it never turns me off when someone asks if they can use some electronic orgasm aides ;) Personally, I love my vibrator. I love (love) being able to use a small bullet vibrator on my clitoris during penetration or while I'm being touched. It heightens the experience for me a lot, and is less physically draining than using my own hand sometimes. My motto is similar to Il Re's in that sense, bring it on! Whatever you need is what I need, and I hope all of my lovers treat me similarly.

These questions aren't specific to the SP/client relationship, but could be applied to any relationship really, both in the context of monogamy, and non-monogamy (whether negotiated or not). Would I ever have a tryst at my SOs place and/or bed? Sure, as long as my partner was aware of it. Have I ever? Nope. It hasn't come up yet. Is it sexy or vulgar? Not really. It's just a space, ultimately. It really depends on the context I think. I've visited the home of one client who had an SO who did not know about his involvement in the sex industry. However, we weren't intimate in their bed, we were intimate in the guest room which was more comfortable for me. I personally wouldn't care if I was in their bed or not, but I would be worried about my safety, both physically, and emotionally, and I was worried at the time and probably wouldn't do something like that again unless I received certain reassurances from the client in question. If I were caught in the home of a client by an SO, she (or he) could potentially figure out who I am and report me, or make my life a living hell somehow. While I doubt that would happen, it would be my fear and it's a legitimate one. I think it's important for sex workers to evaluate risks and do as they see fit... I personally want to stay out of the lives of clients in that way. It can have real consequences, and not just emotional consequences but legal consequences, and stigmatizing consequences (what if the SO decided to out me, or somehow figured out who I was or where I lived and decided to tell my landlord or report me to bylaw?). I would do it (maybe), but only if I knew their SO was on a different continent ;) It would still make me uncomfortable though - at least ever so slightly... I know my fears will likely not materialize, but still. Scary thought.

Trish Ferguson is a very good, discrete, and kind police officer who truly cares about sex workers and does the best she can with the tools she has. She is a good person to reach out to if there are any problems... ..but yes, hopefully no one needs to call her. Thank you for posting this Em! Nat xox

Tomorrow folks :) Message me for the location!

Just a little reminder that this is coming up on Thursday. PM me for the location and time :)

I think a more important question is: how would the mandatory minimum be enforced? It's a scary thought. I do echo Kathryn's concerns, as well.

Good morning ladies and gentlemen of CERB, Megan and I are both full-time students approaching the end of term. We recently took a bath together thinking we would relax and do some pleasure reading, but experienced a different kind of pleasure instead... hehe We offer private massage duos and private lapdance sessions for discerning ladies and gentlemen. For more information about us, our rates, and our services, please visit our websites at http://www.lovely-nathalie.com and http://www.meganstouch.ca Fondly, Nat xox

Point taken. I myself used the term 'mortified' in my post. However, that wasn't based on my own judgment of people necessarily, but rather, my own discomfort at having to discuss finances explicitly with clients when we are face-to-face. I have no right to judge anyone. Conversely, many clients do try to get 'deals', or cheaper appointments if they are having financial difficulties. Unfortunately, I can't take responsibility if one of my clients can't afford to see me... It's hard not to get judgmental in this industry when I think of someone asking for change. As others have said, I do think it's the responsibility of the client him or herself to insure they have the appropriate amount. It has never happened to me (thank goodness) and I'm sure I would handle the situation gracefully. But I would be lying if I said it wouldn't throw me off. I'm just being completely honest here. Nat xox Additional Comments: Totally agree re: the labels! I need to park my judgment!

Of course they do. It is definitely a case-by-case basis. I also have clients with disabilities (both visible and invisible) and their disposable income is limited. Some of my clients save for upwards of a year to be able to afford to come and see me. Never has one of these clients asked for change, or come unprepared for our meeting. In fact, there is quite a lot of preparation that goes into these encounters (both on my part, and on the part of my client). I'm sorry you feel a lot of the generalizations in this thread are judgmental and unkind. I can definitely see how that could come across but I don't agree that the judgments are necessarily negative. Feeling uncomfortable in these situations is a very real feeling, and we all have knee-jerk reactions to the intersections of intimacy and money which may or may not be rational. Of course, if I knew one of my clients was in dire financial situations I would not judge him or her for asking for their $10. I would, however, take offense to someone who was not in dire financial need who did the same. These are all case-by-case situations, of course, and the OPs initial question was, after all, asking for a general idea of what peoples reactions would be (not specifics). I think Porthos' post gets at the core of the issue quite well, and so I won't repeat it.

I would be slightly mortified if someone asked me for change for a multitude of reasons. Not because it's wrong per se, but mainly because 1) I probably wouldn't have any change to offer 2) it brings finances to the forefront of the encounter which isn't desirable and 3) it would be awkward. I have to admit that I would judge someone who asked. It would seem cheap. I also agree that it's the responsibility of the gentlemen (or woman, or couple) in question to have the appropriate amount... Cool thoughts for a Sunday morning. It's really unfortunate how professionalizing the experience makes it less desirable somehow. I wonder what the world would look like if we could ask for change like this and NOT have it be awkward or somehow 'cheap'. Again, it's the whole intersection of money and intimacy that makes all of this complicated, eh?