MoodyBlue

As a new member myself, I am already discovering that I need to invest a lot of time into research and even then, when you communicate, it's important to be brutally honest. This applies to an e-mail or PM but, as I am discovering, it also requires the SP MA to be honest. Don't sugar coat it ladies because you feel it necessary or maybe it can still be overlooked. If for any reason, either party is not 100% comfortable or you get a "gut feeling" that sincerity is not there, best to move on. You reap what you sow they say. Another thing I have also learned is that I need to "cool it" and not behave like a kid in a candy shop who wants his candy right away like a spoiled child. Better to cool my jets, relax, it will happen. By doing this, it takes much pressure off, no need to jump to commitment on your first promising reply. I wanted to write a special thank you for this post because I have learned from it and it has changed how I approach all this. It would seem that research and patience are key. As they say.... "The best things in life are worth waiting for." And if I might add... will be twice as sweet. :) Thank you!

Thank you great reply and very practical advice. I put a "Thanks" on your post but I think a dog must have eaten it. :) Thanks! Thanks for understanding. I think I will be free and "approved" shortly. :)

"As a man who could be your clone" I want to thank you for taking the time to comment. It's reassuring to hear from someone at the same stage of life. I can say for sure, I couldn't have said it any better myself. Well said and thank you for your positive reply. It just so happens I believe that honest and good open communication is the key to ANY type of relationship, temporary or otherwise. Thank you my friend. Thank you, your reply is very helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Many words of wisdom there, especially not taking things personally. I think I meet the criteria, I wouldn't want it any other way. As for taking it personally? The only time I might feel hurt if if/when everything was a go, right down to day & time and when the day arrived, nothing, no replies to e-mails, PMs. That's the only thing I might consider disrespectful but thanks, it's good to remember not feel hurt, things can happen, people get cold feet. Other than that, I want to say a big thank you personally. I really appreciate how helpful everyone has been. Thanks Interesting and very candid, honest answer. Much appreciated. I really appreciate the varying opinions I am getting, yours is no exception. As one person I know well once told me, the young ones are maybe too young due to generation gap, but just as importantly, a more mature companion will have far more experience and perhaps understanding of our special needs at this time in our lives. Thanks Love your positive, intelligent outlook and excellent values. The qualities you speak of are exactly where my real strengths lie. So, I am further encouraged. I love your candor and attitude. ;) As for your signature quote "I'm planning on being an outrageously sexy old lady. I LOVE IT! Joie de vivre! :)

Hello Midnite and a big thank you for the reply. I truly appreciate the feedback and your sage advice. I feel better after reading your reply because I am a gentleman in every respect, my personality is that of a very loving and caring person with utmost respect for others. In this case, the service providers in particular. I still carry a "user name" somewhere when I called myself "Carebear", I'm a push over. ;) I'm obsessive about hygiene and I also believe that there must be some form of connection or mutual respect. This is why one of the first things I do is tell it like it is regarding my age, physique, etc... Full disclosure! :D I ask if that is a problem for them. It seems most don't have a problem (though some do) and you seem to confirm that and that's OK. I love brutal honesty in such things. At least we are starting our communication on a solid foundationy and I leave it in their hands to decide whether interested or not. This question reminds me of a Google Search where you discover that if you ask a certain question, you are shocked to discover how many other have wondered the same thing and maybe didn't feel comfortable in even asking themselves. By providing an overview of the mutual respect and other qualities mentioned, I much more confident and it enhances my confidence. I hope this helps others in my aging population as well. It's nice to know where things stand and what is important. One final note ladies, I KNOW the majority would not do this but it happened to me very recently where I befriended a provider, all communications were honest and open, we corresponded several times and when the day came to confirm the location and exact meeting time. I got a complete "no show", unreturned PMs, e-mails, etc... That's OK. All I ask is that respect be a 2 way street, no matter who we are, we are all human and we all have feelings. Sometimes the smallest little snub like that can hurt a lot. No one likes rejection or rudeness. It only takes a moment to write one line, sorry it can't work out". But being left in the lurch is hurtful. "Much love to all my brothers and sisters on this little blue planet" ~ Me

Hello, I'm new on lyla.com, just under 2 weeks. I have a burning question that I need to ask and would like to get feedback on please. It's 1am and I'm tired, but I had to write this. It's been "bugging me" too long. As baby boomers like myself enter our early 60s there is a large swell in the population of older clients (you know, the "grey" generation). This means there will be a large and increasing demand from this growing demographic. This presents many challenges and raises a lot of questions for me as to how the MAs or FS ladies feel about working with people in their early senior years or even later? To be honest, maybe it's my insecurity but what is the prevailing view or reaction from both providers and clients? Let's face it, aging is not kind to our looks either. Sometimes I consider responding to an ad but almost feel guilty and like a "cradle robber". On the other side of the coin, do SPs MAs etc... have an aversion to older clients who no longer look like they did 30 yrs earlier? Or .. do they put on a happy face and not judge us on our physique alone? (Personality is always critical) (As I take a bow). :D I realize that in every sense, these are business financial transactions and the ladies quite often are professional actors. Please don't get me wrong, I don't want to generalize. I know some do it for the love of the job itself but are there some who would really rather not deal with a client past a certain age? If so, it might be nice to know ahead of time somehow? I will stop here for now, I have other, related questions. I do want to end on a very positive note and I would be derelict in my duty if did not send a big :D thank you for the ladies who provide this much needed service. As I say to my friends quite often, I get more therapy in 1 hour with a professional, nice lady than I do from seeing a "shrink" for years. You are professionals, meeting very real needs and making the lives of countless thousands better, even if just a day or two, now and again. I tip my hat to you ladies, you rock and are as important as any healthcare professional any day. You make the world a better place. (Group Hug). Thank You! XOXO