Athos

I know this has been covered, but without kissing, what's really the point of all the rest. For me, this hobby is about intimacy. I realize that this is precisely why some providers would prefer not to kiss, but for me it really is crucial. Without it, no matter how great everything else might be, I'll be disappointed with the session. It doesn't rule out a repeat, as I've found with some providers kissing gets better over time, but it definitely makes it less likely.

walk away ... best possible advise. Tell her that if she does, in fact, want you, then she needs to sort things out with her partner. If she really wants you, she will. then you are free to follow your heart. If she doesn't, then you'll know. You might still lose your friend, but at least you can say that you didn't betray him by having an affair with his wife when they were still married.

I'm so boring ... boxers ... white!

He will definitely be missed. One of a kind, never to be repeated.

Thanks very much ... I appreciate the kind wishes

great reminder to get the feeders out. thanks

In my experience you have nothing to worry about in disclosing some personal, verifiable information to a reputable lady from this board. The ladies understand that not everyone will have a reference. In some instances it is because it is your first time, or it may be because ladies you might have called on have retired. In any event, there are other ways of providing verification. Just ask.

I think you'll find the women on this site are incredibly competent, intelligent and professional. They are business people who have made a success of themselves. For lots of different reasons they ended up in this line of work, but I don't think any of them would consider themselves victims. I certainly wouldn't, and I don't think any of the men on this site would either. The clients are also a wide range of people who come to this for their own sets of reasons. Sometimes they are busy professionals who don't have the time/desire to pursue a relationship, sometimes they are men who find themselves in a relationship that offers much, but not physical companionship, and sometimes they are guys like you, who are just out of a difficult relationship and need some breathing space without becoming a monk. If you read through the various threads, you'll get a real sense of what both clients and service providers are like on this board. When you are ready to select a lady, you'll have a great knowledge base to avoid disappointment. Good luck.

If she has fully transitioned, and physically is a woman, I see no need to disclose at all. The customer is getting exactly what they expected. Time with the woman they booked with. If the individual has not fully transitioned, then yes, disclosure is required.

I'm not sure I'd completely agree. She is a professional service provider and you are a potential client. Certainly it won't come as a surprise to her that people she might know, from all walks of live, visit SPs. I also wouldn't think she's likely to go off to her ex husband to tell him who she has as a client. I do think, though, that this is an instance where total disclosure might be required. She might feel just as uncomfortable as you, and prefer not to see you as a customer. So if you did try and book, I'd disclose that you think you might know her from your personal lives, and see what she says. This might involve disclosing more information than you are comfortable with,but if that's the case, then staying away entirely is the best option.

Welcome ... great name for a dedicated hobbyist.

This has as much to do with schedules as anything else. For me, morning or early afternoon. weekdays are best.

Go, have coffee. Be somewhere public. See what happens. She may just want to talk with a friend who has been supportive. If she suggests anything else (takes your hand,etc.) just be polite and explain your situation and that you really value and want to continue being her friend. If you go straight to "i don't want you to think this is a date" she might actually be offended that you misinterpreted her intentions.

never taken it off for an encounter, it has never been commented upon. I wouldn't expect it to be either. simply not an issue in my opinion. If it bothers you to leave it on, take it off. As for the lady, I'm generally far too preoccupied to notice, or care about, a ring.

Homemade tourtiere along with a green salad. Glass of red wine.

stealing a "do not disturb sign" is just rude!!!

I book all my appointments via e-mail and rarely do I phone a lady unless it is part of her protocol for confirmation, screening or confirming location. I understand it happens, but I really don't get why guys would prank or just time-waste on purpose. Makes no sense to me.

I've been reading this thread with interest. I left for a while, because I felt my life had moved in a different direction and I was finding the board to be taking too much of my time. I missed it for a while, then didn't miss it, then became curious again as to what was happening. I left before the change in laws, and came back after the change. I'm not sure I see a huge difference in the board because of the laws. Blocked out words, etc., are a pain. But the basic essence of what this board is, in terms of a community of like-minded group of people involved in this lifestyle, has not. I agree completely with Phaedrus, though, that as someone who has been here for some time (though not as long as others), it can become tired. New threads on old topics. Communities have cycles ...ebbs and flows. New people come in and old people leave. The discussion cycles around. My worry would be that the legislative changes might be dissuading new members from joining. But overall, I do think the health of the community is still strong. I've missed threads where people feel they've been poorly treated. So I certainly hope that hasn't become an undercurrent. I don't necessarily see it, but I also am not very active. I'd urge everyone to keep to the philosophy of this board, which has made it so unique.

coffee ... it is always coffee!

Apologies if already posted.

The question of tipping is one of those questions that just keeps coming back. My practice is generally as follows. When seeing someone for the first time, I bring enough to tip. If the service warrants it, I will tip. How do I determine that, well, usually I ask myself if this is someone i would like to see again. By service, I don't just mean physical services, but rather everything that happened between us: including atmosphere, connection, did I enjoy our conversations, etc. In short, companionship. Did we hit it off. On subsequent visits, I'm likely to simply include a tip in the envelope. Of course, gifts, wine, flowers, are always nice. Athos

Ribs! They've been cooking slowly all day!!

Happy birthday. Hope you are having a fantastic day.

making preparations for a day-trip with my daughter tomorrow. We're going to have a lot of fun.

Definitely a day to bbq! Bbq pork tenderloin, roast bbq potatoes, garden salad, and cold beer. Athos