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All the best, and i too am sorry to see you go. Communities thrive on a diversity of opinion, and yours will be missed. Porthos

As I said before, much depends on context. The ladies who contact me tend to be people I see regularly or semi-regularly. i.e. Everytime they come to town I'm likely to want to see them if our schedules line up. So, in that context, I certainly don't mind them reaching out. If, however, I'd seen someone once, or even twice, but not really made an effort to see them again, then contact might be a bit unexpected. Certainly if I hadn't seen them or heard from them in over a year then contact would be very unexpected. This is also made more difficult/complex by the fact that some of us interact with ladies both through this board, but also through other media such as twitter. The rules regarding contact seem a bit more fluid then they once did. So much of this depends on good judgement, and personal preference. Porthos

If it's a lady I've seen before, I have no issues with it, so long as we had some agreement about mechanisms of communication. I tend to communicate via e-mail, and I use a separate and unique e-mail for hobby purposes. So receiving an e-mail, or a PM through this site, is no big deal. There are some ladies who have my phone number, but I've never been in a situation where they have ever used it other than with my agreement. Even then, I tend to say text rather than call. I appreciate it when a lady I've seen and whose company I've enjoyed lets me know that she will be in town. As others have said, it is good business practice, and like others, I usually have to plan encounters in advance, so notice is nice. Having said all of that, unsolicited messages are never cool. Much depends on context.

I must confess to having a bit of a love-hate relationship with scary movies. They freak me out, and in that sense I don't like them, but at the same time, I feel quite compelled to watch them. I guess at one level I love being scared, and after all, movies are a very "safe" way to be scared. Porthos

If you are using your regular phone as a hobby phone, I'd also suggest adjusting your settings so that there are no notifications for text and e-mail. that's the kiss of death, if a notification banner or alert pops up on your screen along with part of the text/e-mail so that it an be read. I also turn sounds off. so the only thing that shows up to indicate I have a text is a number on the app icon. I also keep my phone in its case. Even if one does come in, then your SO is unlikely to see it or know what it's about. It's just a number on the screen. I get lots of e-mails, so having sounds for e-mails isn't a big deal, but I actually prefer to have the notifications and sounds turned off so I'm not being bothered all the time. None of this is to take away from the inappropriateness of what was done, or how horrible it must be to have been busted. But it is better to take more precautions than fewer. The only person whose behaviour you can really count on, is your own. Porthos

I like the snow, but as I grow older I find I wish winter was just a little bit shorter. spring could come a month earlier if you ask me.

I have to say they are hot. I didn't used to consider them that hot, and it wasn't something I really looked for in a session. A few years ago I was seeing my regular. It was a very hot session, and then she suddenly said to me "do you want to cum on me?". She said it with a lot of passion and hunger in her voice, and I immediately said "sure". It was incredibly hot, and now I am a believer. It still isn't something I usually ask for, but if the flow of the session takes us in that direction, I consider it to be extremely hot and exciting. Porthos

People who view yellow lights as a signal to speed up and go through on a red. Having been rear-ended at an intersection last week by just such a person this has become very high on my list.

I too would urge you to go out and enjoy yourself. I'm fairly confident that if you wait until marriage, whoever you marry will likely not have waited for you. Celibacy until marriage is simply not part of our culture anymore (thank god!) So you might as well get some experience, know what you are doing, and have a lot of fun along the way. Even if you don't want to see a SP, go out, date, have sexual and non-sexual experiences, and enjoy yourself. Life is, indeed, far too short. Porthos

I think she dealt with it appropriately. If there was just a scheduling issue you'd likely want to make another appointment, so it would just be putting off the inevitable. Move on and simply put it out of your head. She's wisely avoided a potentially awkward situation that would be complicated for both of you. If your lives intersect on a regular basis, though, you'll need to think carefully about how to deal with the next time you meet her, just to ensure both parties expectations of privacy and discretion are respected. Porthos

congrats Emily ... having started 2000 threads is an incredible achievement, and a testament to your wonderful contribution to this community. Porthos

There's s difference between what you"can't" live without, and what you "wouldn't want" to live without. Like many of the people in this thread, I use and depend on the internet and technology for work, pleasure, entertainment, news, information, etc., etc. But could I live without it. yes, absolutely. Do I want to. Not for a second. Porthos

Happy birthday .. hope you're having a great time celebrating!

Read the ad, read the website, if in doubt ask! I take the ladies at their word. If the website says certain services aren't available, I don't expect them. If it says that certain services are at an extra cost, it's my responsibility to specify what is I would like as part of the session. My own preference is for all-inclusive rates, which eliminates the need to worry about additional costs. However, it doesn't eliminate the need to discuss expectations and limits. Porthos

happy anniversary Cato ... a wonderful milestone.

congrats and keep them coming

The theory is always easier than the practice. Payment keeps things clear and simple, except when it doesn't. Porthos

I'm so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and know you are in everyone's thoughts.

Happy birthday ... hope you have a wonderful day celebrating

Happy birthday ... hope it is a good one

I agree that it would be nice to be able to talk about this, and I'm reminded of Nathalie's thread on destigmatizing clients. If I were to talk about this with friends or people I work with I don't know what the reaction would be. Some would be accepting, others not. However, negative reactions would be devastating for my career and work relationships. so I'll stay anonymous behind my handle and discuss things here. This is one of the great things about CERB; it allows us to be part of a community rather than isolated and alone. Porthos

My father survived WWII ... but nevertheless this is an incredibly important day to pause and remember.

Happy birthday ... hope you are having a great day.

Just finished dinner, ate too much, and I'm now sitting around digesting! Porthos