Athos

As RG says ... it's great to see and welcome to all those taking the initiative and beginning to post more. It's a great community and very open and welcoming.

Congrats Old Dog ... and here is to another 5000 posts. You're a central, respected, and much loved member of this community. Porthos

Squabbles and disagreements with my siblings over what is the best care for our Mother. Complicated by asshole brother-in-law. Porthos

take care of yourself. Hope your recovery is a speedy one.

Getting home after two weeks away. And having something very special to look forward to.

Love has to be one of the most amazing and fulfilling emotions there can possibly be. How else to describe such a deep emotional response that is centered not on yourself, but on the profound impact that another person has on you. You subsume yourself within your love for the other person. You become defined by them. To be in love is quite simply the most wonderful thing imagineable. It completes your soul and allows your spirit to sing. I hope everyone finds their love. Porthos

This is certainly a difficult question, and ultimately only you can answe it. Can you segment the two parts of your life so they won't adversely affect each other? If I thought the physical aspects of my marriage could be rehabilitated I might not hobby. But I also believe it's possible to have multiple meaningful and fulfilling intimate relationships at the same time. Let your feelings be your guide. If when you are with your wife you feel guilty, or bad about yourself, then you should possibly stop. No right answers here .... Just what is right for you in your situation. Good luck

So sorry to hear of this. Thank god you are safe!!! Porthos

Thanks Nat, I've been reflecting a lot about love, the nature of intimacy, and loneliness. Technology has changed things so very much. You can now share your thoughts, hopes and dreams with someone in real time, yet separated by distance. You can develop intimate friendships through virtual communities. In some ways the decrease in space brought about through the virtual can intensify the distance from those around you. Yet at the same time you don't feel as isolated when someone special is a text, a tweet or a pm away. Cerb is built on that possibility. Hugs to everyone who needs it and feels alone. I feel very blessed that I don't feel that way, although I understand how hard it can be.

I had the same experience as RG and Angela. Now I don't even realize I have progressive lens. It just becomes automatic. At first, though, I thought I'd never get used to them. Porthos

congrats NJ, Phaedrus, and Gabriella. three people who really define what this community is all about. Well done. Porthos

Is another cup of coffee and the rest of the morning to wake up

Welcome. take your time, do lots of research, read the stickies, and don't hesitate to ask questions. You'll have fun! Porthos

Have a great day Lee ... Hope you have a chance to go out and get in a bit of trouble!

I use gmail as well and have never had any difficulties with e-mail from previous contacts going into spam. Porthos

fabulous website ... great post Emily.

I think so much depends on context and how questions are posed. So, "hey, do you offer x, y, z ... and i also want a, b, and c. Can you do that for me and how much?" Probably not the best way to go about things. or "hi, I really would like to meet with you. I've read your website and I think yo are very beautiful. I know it isn't typical to discuss services, but I do have a particular interest, and I was wondering if that was something you provide in your services, or would be open to discussing .... It's x? Let me know. If this isn't something you feel comfortable with I might still like to book you, although clearly that wouldn't be something I'd be expecting" ... or "if that's not available, that's o.k., but I probably won't be booking" I think generally there is a way of asking, without turning the discussion into a "menu" or a demand for itemized lists of services. At least I hope there is. For myself, I've never asked about services. Still don't. I just like to be surprised. Sometimes one ends up being a little disappointed, but usually not. I'd tend to only have a discussion about what might happen during a session with a lady that I had seen previously. But if I was looking for something out of the ordinary, better to find out than be disappointed. But again, it all depends on how it's done and the context. I'd probably do my research really, really well ahead of time, and try narrowing my search down to ladies I was pretty certain would provide the service I was looking for. Thereby eliminating the need to inquire.

It contributes to the notion that we are all part of a somewhat secretive club. Knowing the codes is part of belonging (even though we have stickies that list them all). Porthos

Just explain your situation, be respectful and polite, and I'm sure you'll have no problems. Some ladies may choose not to see you, but there are others who will. Far better to be upfront about your age, and find a suitable provider, than to show up, surprise the lady, and have a potentially awkward situation. Porthos

congrats ... a wonderful accomplishment. Porthos

I'm afraid I don't have any advice ... but wow, what a fabulous trip. Hope you have a wonderful time. Porthos

So true ... I grew up in a family where all meat was well-done, and i mean cooked to well-done, and then left a bit longer to be on the safe side. First time someone served me roast beef cooked very rare, I wasn't sure I could eat it. The first bite, though, was amazing, and made me realize how meat should be cooked. Porthos

I've had a wide variety of game ... so most of that isn't too out there. I've also had the opportunity to try rattlesnake, gator, ostrich, emu. I've also had (and really enjoyed) cod tongues. Seal flipper, though, is fairly revolting. Porthos

Make sure you look after yourself, and that single-malt will taste all the better when you get the chance to enjoy it.