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Congrats Peachy ... I always enjoy your posts. Porthos

Got to agree ... man you need help. And to be honest, the first thing you need to do is break up with your fiance. I fully admit to being a married man, and seeking the comfort and intimacy of SPs. But I KNOW where the boundary is. I love my family, and they always come first. You are not just deceiving your future wife about an occasional hour or two. You are deceiving her about who you are at a fundamental level. And moreover, you don't seem to even love her. I'm not at all sure how you can maintain this with her, when you spend every night out and about at strip clubs. Sorry if this is harsh, but I really feel sorry for her if she marries you. I'm not blaming you for this though ... you do have a serious addiction. And you do need professional help to deal with it. Gambling addiction is bad enough ... but the world of strip clubs is all about fantasy and unreality. It's unreal for the girls who work there ... who spend their nights at the club, getting drinks bought for them, having men offer them gifts for their time (and their bodies). But it's equally unreal for the men who go there. You've fallen into that world, and it's become more real than the real world. You've got it flipped upside down, and you'll need help to get it (and your head) turned upside right again. Good luck to you ... the money is gone. Forget about it. Now concentrate on helping yourself. Stay away from the clubs. Start doing what ordinary people do in the evenings. Going to movies and restaurants with the woman who you say you want to marry, staying in and watching a video with her, going for long walks holding hands. It's not as exciting as strippers grinding all over you, but it's REAL. And you need a dose of real!

I like Touch because he posts some of the most stunningly beautiful pictures on the board. Awesome stuff.

Quite right Phaedrus ... and there is lot's of uncertainty. I don't think it's totally clear which provinces are still willing to enforce the bawdy house provisions and which are just not bothering. But as you rightly say, there never has been much interest in doing so other than in cases where there is other illegality ... drugs, etc. Porthos

Absolutely correct RG ... I use the recommendations in general to confirm the opinion that I'm forming of a lady based on her posts and my interactions. In general, if I see that a lady has been a member of the board for some time, has very few posts, and no recommendations, I'll probably stay away. Is that fair, possibly not. As I've said, it really is the board personality of the lady that draws me in. But, I've recently seen a lady who has no presence on CERB, no recommendations, and she was an absolutely incredible experience. Recommendation to follow. As RG has said ... this isn't a review board. Recommendations indicate that my fellow hobbyists and friends think a lady is worth seeing. I take that opinion seriously. But really, that's how it should be looked at. recommend or not. I'd also like to endorse what others said ... always ask the lady if she is comfortable with you writing a recommendation, and run the wording past her. The level of detail should always reflect her comfort level, not your desire to write an epic. Porthos

I agree completely ... I only write a reco if I would, in fact, want my friends to see the lady. I wouldn't write a reco for a lukewarm experience. I've also never had a lady ask for a recommendation. But if asked why I didn't write one I would, politely, explain my reasons.

I look for recommendations and then consistency across those recommendations. Absence of recommendations says something. Beyond that, though, even more than recommendations, it is the online presence and personality of the lady is what makes me want to see them. Porthos

I haven't encountered this either ... at least not amongst SPs. I have seen it in strip clubs where getting dances from someone that is not your "regular" can lead to quite the cat fight. Not sure why it's so different, but there is something about all the women in the same place, and actually seeing the customer go off with someone else, that leads to a lot of back-stabbing and petty jealousy. I must say, I've gone from seeing a small, but varied number of ladies, to seeing only one lady for a period of almost two years, to now once again seeing a variety. I've only once or twice felt odd about seeing another lady. Once was when I had a fairly regular SP, and I also wanted to see the lady that she shared an incall with. I actually told her in advance. We had had lots of great conversations about the business, so I wasn't too worried about her reaction, but I did want to let her know. She said "fabulous .. you're going to love her. And once you see her, then we'll set up that duo". I actually never repeated with her roommate, except for several duos which were incredible. One on one I much preferred my regular. But her reaction made me a very happy man! Porthos

I agree that one shouldn't have to tell a SP not to contact you. This should go without saying. However, it is still prudent to take precautions. Mistakes do happen, and sometimes a text is not at all intended to be an intrusion to your privacy. If you don't have a separate hobby phone (highly recommended) at least be sensible. I used to have a separate phone, but it died and I haven't replaced it. So I am very careful. If you get lots of texts and calls from work you can probably safely cover for anything that comes in. I don't, so it would be very odd for me to receive a text when I'm at home. The people I text are usually my family. So if I'm with them, it would be strange and raise eyebrows. So you need the cover story. Of course, Rogers and other cell providers do send unsolicited texts selling things and promoting their services. That's always a good cover. I do get telemarketers calling my cell from time to time (we all know that obnoxious cruise ship horn). I don't leave my phone lying around, it is generally always on my person. If it's charging I leave it in the case so the screen is covered. That way a text doesn't pop up for all to see. And, I turn it to silent when I'm at home. That way, any unwanted or unanticipated phone call or text will not be noticed. But, in general ... It's better to use a separate hobby phone. Might pop out today and replace mine. Porthos

I'd be careful about relying on a police officer's interpretation of the law. You would think they'd know, but frequently they don't. Outcalls ... where the client has the SP come to his place of residence or hotel room, are perfectly legal in Canada. No issues at all. Incalls, where the client goes to the SPs location, even where it is a hotel room, may be a violation of the keeping a common bawdy house provisions of the Criminal Code. Those provisions basically say that the keeping of the bawdy house (a location where prostitution takes place) is against the law. In theory it doesn't matter if that is your actual residence. It doesn't have to be a separate place kept only for the purposes of your business. Similarly, it can be a hotel room, even if you don't use the same hotel room, or same hotel, all the time. There are actually cases of hotel owners being prosecuted because they knowingly let SPs use rooms in their hotel, but those cases are really old and reflect a very dated morality (1910s and 20s) The thing is, it becomes very difficult to prove these things, especially against independent SPs. The transactions all take place behind closed doors,and unless there are other reasons for complaints ...drugs, unruly behaviour, underage girls, pimping, etc. the police generally are not interested in incalls. Often, massage parlours, because of the volume of business, and locations in residential neighborhoods with high volume, often attract the attention of the police and this may result in bawdy house charges being laid. But, one should be aware ... technically under our current prostitution laws incalls are a violation of the criminal code. And there is the provision that being "found in" a common bawdy house is also against the law. Having said all of that ... I almost exclusively do incalls, and have never felt worried or concerned in the least. An independent SP, in a discrete apartment tower/condominium complex or large busy hotel, is ideal. Stay away from sketchy hotels!

on the french children's books side ... there are french translations of Harry Potter. If you're a fan of the books, it would be a great way to improve french reading skills.

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The result of this behaviour almost always means that the lady declines to see the client again. The client by trying to exploit a friendship, creates a situation where both sides lose a valued and sexy "business" relationship. The thing we all have to remember, is that exploiting friendships, leads to friendships ending. That happens in all sorts of contexts. I can be friends with my lawyer, but if I'm on the golf course and start asking questions about my legal issues, I should expect a bill for those services. Legal advice isn't free. And if I continue to do it, I should not be surprised if my lawyer soon suggests that, rather than getting together for a round of golf, I make an appointment to see him at the office. Same thing here ... but of course the sexual nature of the services makes it far more complex, and hurt feelings on the part of client usually makes it far preferable to just sever the relationship. Respect, respect, respect. Respect the lovely ladies as service providers. And if you are lucky enough to become friends outside of that, then respect the parameters there as well. I would never suggest time off the clock. If a lady suggests it to me, well that's a different thing. I'm flattered and honoured. But I am fully aware that it involves nothing more than the time for the cup of coffee or lunch. Nothing beyond that.

Having a non-judgmental feature to correct pronunciation is really important. My kids are far too brutally frank with their opinions about my poor pronunciation en francais. Despite the fact that they are both very fluent, when we travel they prefer to let me stumble through trying to communicate. They find it very amusing. I also grew up in Ottawa in a uni-lingual family. While I can read french, my ability to speak is sadly very limited.

I like mistert because he isn't afraid of the word jibber-jabber!!!

Larry, Daryl,and Daryl

Hall and Oates Simon and Garfunkel

Firewalls ... Good protection for everyone!!

Getting an advanced preview today of what a finished project will look like. Very exciting! Plus, Friday I am taking off work and spending part of the day with a very beautiful lady. Looking forward to it. Porthos