Athos

Well done! Carrie's posts are always fab!

In general I agree with that ... but the nice thing about discretion is that it protects her. In the future she may regret that a lot of her relationships in the town have been damaged beyond repair. Having said that, I suspect she may be doing this precisely because she is reacting to how constraining those relationships have been all these years.

Another doctor who companion: Martha Jones

Sounds like a bit of a mid-life crisis ... not that I'd know anything about those. I don't think there is anything inherently sexual about the anklet, but it does sound like she is trying to emphasize that she has changed, and that she is more sexual. The anklet certainly draws attention to the ankle, foot, and leg. So in that sense I guess it could be considered having a sexual purpose.

Winter just wouldn't be the same without snow. But I wouldn't mind it waiting a bit!

Happy birthday. Have a great one!

A great night out with good friends. Much drinking, and much fun!

I like Mrrnice cause I'm a former maritimer and what to be future maritimer. Porthos

Aeryn Sun ... farscape

Prevention is likely the best thing ... I actually am a bit of skeptic about cold remedies. Nice cup of tea for a sore throat, vapors for congestion, and time. I do like Vicks rub to help sleep. But beyond that I really don't do anything. My partner swears by ColdFx, which she takes. I never take it, get fewer colds and get over them faster. Go figure. Porthos

I always assume showering is part of the allotted time. Generally at an appropriate moment I ask if I can have a quick shower. So the usual scenario ... some chit chat, maybe a drink, maybe some light kissing ... excuse myself to shower, head to bedroom. If the lady joins me in the shower great, but I don't necessarily expect it. As for when a shower "expires" ... I don't think it matters if you have a desk job or you're doing manual labour. If you haven't showered since morning, then you really should shower. Certainly for an afternoon appointment, but even if it's a 10:00 appointment in my view. After all, making sure your hygiene is impeccable leads to the best service. It's not like this is your 30 minute morning wake up shower. A quick splash, 3-5 minutes, is enough to make sure all the important bits are clean and fresh.

I think a diamond pendant, drawing one's eyes to a lady's breasts is far sexier. And of course, nothing is sexier or more erotic than a string of pearls. The anklet never did a lot for me, and generally I'm a bit of a leg man. Porthos

I consider the ladies I see as friends, but completely within the context of the "business relationship". I wouldn't presume anything else. We're friends to the extent that we care about each other and are interested in knowing about how the other is doing, and welcome the opportunity to catch up and reconnect. The only time I've had a friendship beyond that context is where a lady has retired from the business. We sometimes meet for lunch, or coffee. But now we are friends, and sex is off the table. It's one or the other, and can't be both. Porthos

For me personally, that wouldn't be enough. But that's me. It's really a hard one. Phaedrus makes some excellent points. Regardless of what you agree with respect to the child, at the end of the day courts always give primary consideration to "what's in the best interests of the child" rather than what the parties agreed to. Also, you really can't surrender or bargain away parental obligations. So if, for example, down the road she wanted child support and you had agreed there would be none, you still might be obligated to pay. (I realize that's not your concern and that you want to support them) But similarly, if you agreed to have nothing to do with the children but you changed your mind later on, you'd still likely have rights to see them ... and the 2 visits a year might not be binding at all. So getting some legal advice is definitely a good idea. The thing about agreements in difficult personal situations, is that they work only so long as everyone is prepared to live with them. Once that goes, then all bets are off. I really wish you luck with this choice though. It could be a real life changer. Porthos

She's better off with you being the supportive, if distant father, than going to a sperm bank and being on her own. I don't necessarily mean to sound cold or calculating, but the financial aspects of raising a child are not inconsiderable. So your offer sounds very fair and generous. She wants to do this, and if you're willing and able to provide her with both the child and financial security, then it's a win win situation. My only hesitation would be to ask if you are prepared to comply with her demands ... i.e. that for the most part you be uninvolved in the child's life. That would kill me. Porthos

Long weekend ... spending most of it in front of the computer working. But the pies are made and tomorrow there will be a feast. Additional Comments: @Emma ... yes, indeed, Pumpkin pies, and a peach pie as well just for something different. These are things that don't suck. Porthos

I still get nervous and excited. The night before I usually have trouble sleeping, and the day of I'm distracted and unfocused: counting down the moments until the encounter. Afterwards I spend the rest of the day in blissful ignorance of everything around me and a silly grin on my face! Porthos

I think there are real variations in the way different regional sections of the board operate. I've noticed in the past, in a number of sections, posts that are asking for "opinions" about specific girls. Often, the discussion section seems to operate almost like a "review" section. People don't post overtly negative comments, but they sometimes will say things like "stay away from her" or "I wouldn't see her" followed by a "pm me for details". At the same time, some of the regional sections have very few actual recommendations. This is just a casual observation, but I think it does have some importance for this discussion. The question of "best" invites comparisons and potentially blurs into a "review" type assessment. In part, I think those that commented were reflecting their own disquiet with the framing of the question, and it's potential to run counter to the ethos of the board. It strikes me that had this discussion happened in the general discussion forum, we'd all be fine with it. I also understand the OPs "reaction" to outsiders ... I lived in Winnipeg for a long time myself. But the board isn't structured that way and the reaction was over the top. In many sections we find discussions about the hobby, how hobbyists should conduct themselves, etc., etc. Not just in the general discussion section. I've always felt quite comfortable participating in those discussions. I've commented in the Ottawa section, winnipeg section, New Brunswick and Nova Scotia sections. Don't live in any of those places. I still go back and drop in on the NL section, even though I live in Southern Ontario now. So I think there are a lot of things going on in the thread that was closed. I don't think it was anyone's intention to impose a form of political correctness. Rather, it was to try and highlight that the way the thread was framed might upset people (particularly ladies or even other hobbyists). Had the OP not overreacted, I suspect the thread might still be going on and discussion going forward. Just a bit of ramble as my pumpkin pies are baking. Porthos

I must confess to not having paid too much attention to this issue, but I don't see the thread being closed as really having much to do with the question of whether it was about the "best" SP in Winnipeg. I also don't see it as being about political correctness. It seems to me it had to do with the tenor of the posts, which were becoming rather rude and disrespectful. Essentially, a fight was developing, and the MOD decided to shut it down. Correct decision in my opinion. The fact that the OP, who was the primary bad actor in terms of disrespectful discourse, has been suspended would seem to confirm that.