Athos

Happy birthday!! Light the sky on fire!!

Problem is that technology has totally supplanted the rules of evolutionary success. Which means we're all on a headlong slide into becoming a planet of dumb-asses! It also means that the bird in Malika's post will likely evolve into the next alpha species. Especially with that outfit!

Welcome and enjoy

Emily, I am so sorry this has happened. As others have said, first the individual in question needs to show more respect. This shouldn't happen to anyone, but when it happens to someone as wonderful as you, it's just downright unfair. It really isn't hard: --Use private browsing on whatever computer you are using --Never use your work computer --Even if you do the above, delete cookies, browsing history, etc. regularly. --Don't leave your computer on where someone can simply hit back and see the last websites you were on --Use a separate phone. If not, make sure no one else uses your phone and you control the billing statements and record of calls. My phone is my phone. No one else in my family uses it, touches it. They have their own! I also don't leave it sitting around. Even at home it is usually in my possession or in my office. --if you do have a separate phone, don't take it home! Leave it locked in your desk drawer at work, or in a filing cabinet. You only need it when hobbying. The rest of the time it can be out of sight and out of mind. --Delete browsing history on your phone, --have a separate e-mail address that doesn't automatically push to your phone. So if your partner does have your phone, and checks your e-mail, only the e-mails she's allowed to see will be there. --Delete text messages immediately after receipt. --Same goes with i-pads or other tablets. Delete, delete, delete. --don't keep escorts names and numbers in your contact list. It's really strange when there are all these names of friends and families followed by TiffanyXXX in your contacts. One of the reasons I really appreciate SPs with two names. Emily Rushton in my contact list could be anyone, and there are lots of people in my list that my SO wouldn't know. Work contacts, etc. If you do keep names and numbers in your contact list, make up a second name for your favorites along with a fake business name or some such thing to cover the trail. But frankly, better not to have them there at all. All of these things are common sense. Others might have suggestions to add. There has certainly been lots of discussion of this over the years on the board. Build a firewall between your hobby world and your real world. As you proceed always ask the question: what would happen if this became public, or what would happen if my SO found out. And the more prominent your position, the more important this must be. I'm a bit of a nobody, so really it's quite likely very few people would care. But within my immediate workplace, this would matter to some people. And certainly with my SO it would matter. At the end of the day, I truly adore the women I see. (Emily, I'm really missing seeing you in St. John's). Just as I wouldn't want my SO to be hurt, I don't want to hurt the other ladies in my life! Consideration and discretion. The two go hand in hand. Porthos

First good night's sleep in about a week. Feeling rested and actually being productive. Portho

A great example!! And I also agree Peachy, you have nothing to worry about. You probably write as well, if not better, than many current university students. Porthos

Redcar, North Yorkshire

Finally seeing the results of a project. Great feeling of accomplishment!

I like Meg because she is sexy and wise! Porthos

Insomnia last night, super busy day today, and a ton of work to do this evening. I'll likely be burning the midnight oil unless I just collapse. Feeling like I was run over by a truck.

Big hugs to you Gabby!!! Porthos

Oatmeal raisin ... Without a doubt. But I do love Peak Freens ... The one's with the jam in the center.

Will there also be freestyle champagne room trials?? This is a sport I could definitely be interested in.

St. Anthony, NL

Congratulations. There's nothing more dispiriting than thinking you haven't the ability to accomplish your goals, and nothing more liberating than the realization you can do it. Small steps, lead to bigger steps, and soon you are leaping over every obstacle. You go girl!!!! Porthos

I suppose you could contact the paper directly. It would definitely be an interesting conversation with the receptionist.